why u play with fire!

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well yes u are absolutely right, to be in a relationship is like playing with fire. Just like u have to be very careful when fire is around u, in the same fashion one needs to be careful and watchful of every move and action being made in a relationship for one wrong move and every thing would be over. Hence i would like u to console her rather than make her feel about her past mistakes and ask her the reason of her crying. What say?

Lovers are blind? I pray to love one and only guy and so my age will tell why I remain single.Admiration is normal but I'll wait for my destiny to love and beloved by one and only guy.

Such things happen in many young cases as they don't understand having affairs with married man is always harmful and most of the man keep such relationship most of the time just to enjoy with younger girls, may be some such relationship comes up when married person relationship with his wife is not good may be sexually or others. And when they involved with girl (like your friend) they cross all their boundaries forgetting that they have their family and spoiling girl life. But what I feel in your friend case is that she herself had jump into fire as she had already burnt her finger from one such married person she should have been alert when another man, that too married, had come in her life. Hope at least now she will keep herself away from getting in so called relationship with married man. She should keep in mind that by doing so she is creating the trouble in the married couple life. Better she should find out the boy who is bachelor and make her life happy.

I know some who have gotten involved with a similar relationship but didnt know the man was married. I could see this but when she knew they were involved with someone else. Both are just pitiful, and useless in this world. Is she just depserate to find love, and be happy?.

That is really a sad story. I can't explain it too, I have a few friends who are into that situation. I don't know why they are such vulnerable being in love with the wrong guy.

Love will never be blind, the blind here are the people who is making themselves stupid to find love at the very wrong person. Your cousin is really playing with fire... And you are right, playing with fire will hurt her. As the line goes that "don't play with fire for it will burn you..." I think your cousin needs to realize her wrong disposition. As of you, I understand your concern and you must do more to straighten your cousin's thinking. Don't argue with her for it won't work. Just advice her and let her realize her worth that she deserves someone special and not this married man.

No one will ever know the pain a fire burn can bring until they get burnt. So, I believe some people just need to learn their lessons the hard way, like your cousin here. No amount of words will ever get through them and eventually we will end up with "I told you so". I do not know what's going through her mind when she decided to go ahead despite all signs of it is telling her otherwise. Perhaps, it is like what facts say that married men are more experienced with girls, where they have proven to be with their wives back home. I hope that your cousin will be able to detach herself at this stage because there's really nothing for her as far as the future is concern with this man. Worse of all, she will be guilty of wrecking another woman's family.

first this is not love, it's lust. Not that lust cannot be terrible, it can and it can make you do hard, hurtful things that end up hurting all involved. Love on the other hand cannot hurt, how could it. Love is not self involved. Love gives everything to make sure the beloved one is happy, it is not interested in self. If she is hurt by the relationship, that means she is not in love, love only gives it cannot take.

well If i were you, I don't want to listen to her when she is crying I will leave her and said, i had told you before so if you won't listen to me, you may find somebody else sound cruel, but there she can learn something

I remember my parents telling me when I was younger that if you play with fire, you are going to get burnt. Now as far as why women end up falling in love with men that are already married, I don't actually know why that is something that happens. I do feel, however that it isn't something that is really appropriate. I remember a couple times when I was younger that I did have a crush on men that were in committed relationships, but I never acted on that.

A married guy is always nice since he loves to get attention. A mistress always has to be nice too otherwise the guy won't come back to her. You can't say do not love that guy since love is a feeling. But you can say: stay out of the way... do try to find someone of your own since for sure is that this cheating husband will cheat you with someone else as well.

They explain it that people will always want something they can't have, and this is part of human nature. That girl is only looking for a heartbreak. She should look for love elsewhere. I am sure she can find a better one, she doesn't deserve to be in pain. Why would she chase another woman's husband? That's just sad. She knows it's a wrong thing to do but keeps on doing it. If your friend doesn't learn her lesson, then she will experience this many times and she will hurt every time. Besides, a man who leaves his wife for another. Who would want that? If a woman does get someone else's husband how can she be sure that her husband won't cheat on her someday as well? It's a real pity