DISTANCE, a test of LOVE and an answer of TRUE LOVE!
@jackiekathyrain (15)
Philippines
December 19, 2012 10:58am CST
... Having committed to love someone across the miles means withstanding all the tests of love that distance may lay into the relationship. In the course of distant, if the relationship have bloomed and so has love, that’s when TRUE LOVE emerge.
But what is love, true love and distance then!? Love is patient, love is kind. It protects and hope for the positive aspects of life. Love has no jealousy nor it brags itself and it is never conceited. It is like the trance of your matter of affection sets into reality. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul, should be experienced and NOT just felt.
TRUE LOVE is the most beautiful thing that can happen to someone because that is one shared feeling. It is something that every person wants to feel but it is a reality that only a little part of the people has the luck to hold it. True love is faithful, pure, trustworthy and responsible. It is when loyalty and sincerity were sustained regardless of how far you’re at from your other half and true love will only be shaped by two partners who make a commitment and keep that commitment forevermore.
As distance, it is a size of the gap between two people. A withholding of intimacy, coldness and variance. Distance is a test of love, many will fail but for those who can withstand it, it has the answer which is true love.
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@greenwbird (227)
• China
20 Dec 12
You are right,so much love defeated by distance.Facing distance,especially long distance, is such a tough thing,you can't share your happiness or sadness face to face;when you surfer from difficulties in life,he/she can't help you or just support beside you;different living environments make you gradually go far away,and love beween you becomes weak from strong untile disapeared.But if you overcome all of these,and ture love emerges,you will find you can hold all difficulties,because you know he/she is supporing you and concerning you from inside heart all the time,both of you is making great efforts for you own future happy life,you have the same target and then so many common topics,you are eager to exchange your ideas,though you bodis are not at the same place,your hearts are together,nobody else can walk into your heart for your inside is full of him/her!
@greenwbird (227)
• China
20 Dec 12
Thanks for you sharing,that's a good topic, my husband and I are long distance lovers,but we love each other deeply!
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Thank you for sparing time to respond herein discussion greenwbird! It's been so ironically to understand how love defeated by distance. Well, it is situational basis. If you strongly believe your love, faith and trust will be subsequent to this. Don't let the distance be the mere reason of forgetting each other's promises because the time you gathered by such emotion and mindset your love affair will eventually devastated. One thing for sure, if both partners has the spirit to reciprocate their love - it will be a passport towards your target destination of total happiness. Make it a habit to not complicate things in reliance to distance intervention for you to sturdily withstand with a desirable relationship.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
You are absolutely right about it, and I love what you have written here. Yes, distance is a test of LOVE. I am currently in a long distance relationship and I know this is just a test for us. And I am hoping that our love will grow stronger even we are far away from each other.
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
Hi chicgale, thank you for taking time to share your thoughts. Indeed it is, for those who believe in true love, distance is just a matter of test in the relationship. Staying faithful and remain loyal is easy if you hold real love inside your heart & continue to uphold sincerity from within. We're on same road chicgale, presently in a long distance relationship too. Hopefully, it'll last a lifetime but as for now? it's all about trusting, keeping the faith & tight prayers so that it will work out smoothly until forever. Trials may get in between but true love can get through to it. Goodluck & God bless to us! :)
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
20 Dec 12
Id never like that. part of being in love or a relationship is sharing every moment possible with that loved one. I have read here, many who have these long distance romances. These are not for this gal here. merry xmas to you there.
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
thank you for the honest thought mariaperalta! Yes, you said it well that being in love or holding a relationship is sharing every possible moment with your significant other but "every moment" doesn't mean being together all the time. Even in miles, if both of you really loved each other that "sharing every possible moment" will bloom and emerge.
@gpldeguzman (168)
• Qatar
20 Dec 12
I strongly believe that if you are really meant for each other, no matter how far you are from each other, you will really end up in each other arms. Distance will test how much you love each other.
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Hi gpldeguzman! Yes, what's meant to be will always finds it way. But for some, destiny is a matter of choice and not by chance. And if you choose to be meant for each other then take time to exert effort in building true love in the relationship because that's where being "meant to be" will transpire. Distance is just a test and an answer as well of how genuine, real and true the love that ties the relationship.
@liezel25 (292)
• Germany
20 Dec 12
Thats true jackie. Before we ended up in marriage today. We also experienced that "long distance love affair". Its hard to be away with someone you love. You'll never know if his being true to you r fooling you. It takes a lot of patience, understanding, faith and love to prove that you still belong with each other. Thank God, he proved it and now were finally together.
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Hi liezel25! Precisely, long distance love affair requires a lot of things from the heart. For some people, it's a hard chore to keep but if you uphold sincerity, loyalty and honesty in the heart, long distance relationship is just an easy challenge for the meantime.
@sanchita90 (22)
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20 Dec 12
Hi Jackiekathyrain.....
You are Right Distance is the test of love. and its answer is True love.In love space is very important. If all time see our love in front of us then then cant understand their value.If we sometime keep distance from love then we understand then how valuable and how important in our life.True love can emerge by distance it give the loyality and sinciarity.It give truthfulness in relation it gives pasences.
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Hello sanchita90! True and it's a normal behavior to people wherein sometimes, we take for granted the value/importance to someone we loved knowing that they're only just a footsteps away from us. Distance or miles in between is indeed an avenue of realization for us to know the significance/worth of someone in our life.
@al1979ex (125)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
yes distance is a test of true love and all we know that to battle this test is by having constant communication. adjust and adapt to the situation and give time for each other. i am a distant one to my love. and i do every means just to communicate with her. she loves me back by giving me her time to listen and communicating back. there should be never ending communication
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Exactly! Having a constant communication is one of the top factor that can work out long distance relationship followed by trust and faith to one another. Same here mr.al1979ex, I'm currently engaged also in a long distance relationship with the guidance and through prayers, we strongly hold our commitment up until now. Doing everyday talked in a way of texts, calls and chats. Rest assuring that we have time to each other despite the miles in between us.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Jan 13
I doubt it's true what you say/state. A distance also makes one not see everything. And what you are not seeing you don't need to worry about. A long distance relationship is not the same as living together, finding a life style together which fits both. As soon as the long distance relationship is over, you decide to live together you have to find a way to live together. Just taking 1 hour time for each other each day (by skype, phone or ...) ís completely different as spending day and night together. If it comes to the long distance relationship you still are single for the biggest part of your life/day/night. You still have to make most decisions alone, which will be completely different if you live together. I think if you decide to do so a new "test of love" will show up.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
As for me, Love or "true love", cannot be measured in time and distance neither we can say thats its true love already if we are able to withstand the test of time and distance. For at certain point, love and belongingness with encompass everything and anything because lovers only felt longingness. In my point of view, if we can withstand the presence of our lover or partner and able to accept his or her differences - then i should say, its true love. Others failed to keep their relationship after fifteen years, while others failed because they discover someting not right after spending time with each other. Distance is not a hindrance of sharing love but what we must remember is that mind then to build a world of fantasy that makes lovers refuse to see the reality.
To know if its real true love, then spend time knowing each other in the world of reality, because others find out its not true love at all after a wedlock which is a painful realization.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
19 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, long distance relationship is indeed one of the most toughest relationship to carry forward as it involves so many things at stake. U have to be extra cautious of your relationship as many negative thoughts might come up in your mind every now and then. i have seen very less long distance relationships to have existed and that is the reason it requires the cooperation trust faith and confidence on one another to make it a successful one.
What say?
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
You said it right subhojit10! Long distance relationship is definitely a tough one and it is always been a challenge of commitment to both individual & if we understand it deeper this kind of relationship only requires the simplicity of loyalty with the blend of sincerity, trust and faith as you’ve mentioned and mixed it with TRUE LOVE to make it last a lifetime. :)
@mhaiXCs10s (619)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
You are absolutely right... Distance can test true love. If true love really exist, it doesn't matter anymore how far you are both to each other. What matter is the love so true that you are holding on. Long-distance relationship is indeed a tough one but a true love is not afraid of anything. And if that relationship succeed then it is true to be the strongest love to live for...
@jackiekathyrain (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Thank you for taking time to share your thoughts mhaiXC10s! You said it well and I agree with you, true love is indeed the only way out to a certain trials/tests of love that distance may bring into the relationship. If both couple/pair holds true love in their hearts then having long distance relationship is just a matter of short-live situation because eventually, you both share a love to last forever together.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
2 Jan 13
True love also means being close to someone and seeing all their short-comings and faults and still loving and caring for them. True love means you still love that person even when facing with the reality of that person.
True love isn't just based on 'luck' - it is based on commitment and loyalty.
My husband and I have had to be apart for a time and thus, know what long distance love is all about. But, it is also important to be able to love a person when together; despite bad breath, a gassy stomach, warts, grumpiness, a cold or even a serious illness, flat tires, who cooks dinner tonight decisions, working late, coming home early, not agreeing on what movie to see together, etc. etc.
True love means loving a person when dealing with the reality of daily living with that person, as well as staying true when apart from each other.
