would you marry a younger man?

@pomwango (1353)
Kenya
December 21, 2012 9:27am CST
what do you think of ladies who get married to younger men,am not thinking of 2-5 years ,this is a major age difference like 20 years,we had such a marriage in my home town that the mother of the young man was so angry she eventually died of high blood pressure,is it wrong or do you think its okay if they love each other?
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I do not think i would marry 20 years younger than me. oh i could not imagine. i am currently 30yo and if that is going to happen i am like marrying a 10 yo right at this moment.. so... i would not dare.. I would not mind being with someone if that person is like 2 to 3 years younger but never more than 5 years already. That is going to be such a burden... its like i adopted a son. hahaha :D
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I understand your side but take a look at responses from experienced and open mind individuals, aren't they right? My destiny, let God to choose for me.Whether he is younger or older it will not matter as long as there is a genuine love between the two of us. A husband and adopted son in one, wouldn't it be great?
• United States
23 Dec 12
I agree , I also have a five year rule. I don't think the marriage would even last long because what really could they have in common if the other person is old enough to be their parent. I would be upset if my son tried to do something such as this in the future. Age does matter, I don't know why people think that it does not.
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
Hi Ms Nelissa, age is only in one's head that is what I heard from a friend. Well, for me whenever God choose for you it must be the best, regardless of the age.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Here in our country, age is not a big deal. I have seen few woman marrying men 10 or 20 years younger than their age. Though the society will surely have something to say especially if the age gap range to 20 years. Imagine a 20 years old guy marrying a 40 years old woman (well, it his choice) But for 10 years, maybe it's still acceptable by the whole community. In my opinion, I will never consider marrying a guy 20 years younger than me... (I can't imagine seeing myself looks like his mother...ewww)
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
How about if you go on face lift to look younger.So a ten years age difference would not matter, hmmmm.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
23 Dec 12
Marriage is between two persons in love with each  - Marriage is between two persons in love with each other. Age is not an issue.
It depends on if you think that love should have an age limit. Can a 56 years old woman love a man of 28 years old? Why not? If they are genuinely in love, why can't they get married? Marriage is between two persons in love with each other. Why should the other people have a say in the life's journey that the two persons have chosen to walk themselves?
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Dec 12
why not age is just nubmer and that is means nothing how you feel is the really ting to care for, many old feel young and act young and the other way around is sure right and how you think is how you feel, why to think of age, think of love and eductaion and relationship
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I think there is no problem with that as long as they love each other. Age doesn't matter and a mother wouldn't do anything about it. She should just respect her son's decision and should support his happiness.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I think it would be better if the man is 10 years younger than the woman. However, age does not matter in love. If they truly love each other then they should marry. I knew some stories of this kind of situation and the marriage is successful. Love conquers all. :-) Have a nice day!
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I heard of you mentioning if the guy is ten years younger than the girl then it would be better.Can you please tell us more stories related to this case?Thanks.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
23 Dec 12
I don't think it is wrong....but I wouldn't be able to do it. I prefer men who are older than I am (not old enough to be my dad though). I want to be able to look up to my man as a person and I don't think that's possible with a younger man. Besides, I've got two boys and it would seem really really weird for me.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Usually a man marries a younger woman and hopes that she will take care of him when he gets old. Why shouldn't this work in reverse?
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I think age doesn't matter in terms of love. Younger men or younger women, they are not a big deal. Most importantly love will be on their side...
• United States
22 Dec 12
If it is TRUE love who knows ..as long as it good for both of them and he does not look at her . I know people who have marrred 10 years apart and the lady older than him and things work out fine. I know love does stange things to people and not for others to decide. It is something the two have to work out..there is always some too young to marry also and alot not meant to be marriages...but I try to think it is up to that person..if one talks about them then they must knew what they would face before they married.. Love is the most important thing in life...
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
As of now I really don't want to be married to a guy who is younger than me. I never even have a boyfriend who was younger than me. Maybe my first boyfriend was younger than me for 6 months but it was my first boyfriend the next was 26 during 2009 and the latest ex was 31. I just like to be with men who are older than me than be with same age or younger.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
22 Dec 12
I don't know if it is right or wrong. In love there should be no barriers, age, looks, status in life, race, nationality, language and so on. but personally, I don't see myself falling in love to a guy younger than me, not even 5 years younger than me. Maybe because I always think of my students. I always treat guys younger than me, kiddos. perception maybe. and besides, I like to "pampered" i am the youngest in the family so I am always be. so I like older men.
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
yes or maybe, because i had seen a lot of couples happily married despite of their age gaps. my mom is 11years older than my father when they get married and my brother's wife is 2 years older than him :)
22 Dec 12
I dont thing that age is important in love. Marrige is bonding between to people there ahe is no matter . That is a relationship which keep in understanding and adjustment if two people adjust their relationship by understanding then their age is no matter to marrige.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Dec 12
In the tradition usually the husband will be older than the wife. But in the modern society, it is OK that the wife is older than the husband for a few years. However, I personally still prefer that my husband is older than me a few years since men are not as mature as women. I don't want to marry to a boy. I hope somebody who can be responsible and take care of me.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Dec 12
I can accept a man older than me,not much old,within 5 yrs is ok. Yet i think it's very hard for me to accept a younger man. Once a man chasing me ,he is 3 yrs younger than me ,though he is very interesting and nice ,most of time he behaved as he is a mature man,but i still reject.It makes me feel weird if i date with him.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
21 Dec 12
What actually is the difference between a woman married to a younger man and a man married to a younger woman? This is not about the age difference but about a mother who did not accept the choice of her son. This mother would die out of anger too if her son would have married a young girl she did not like. People should get married to the one of their own choice. It's their partner they will build a life with, not with the parent. Parents need to know when to let their children go. It's their job to raise them and make it possible they can take care of themselves. If you as a parent can't understand that messing up and in your children's life will kill the relationship you have with them, you are not very smart. Plus it's your own fault. No mercy for the mom. Compliment for the couple who did go for the partner of their choice. After all nobody knows how long he/she lives. It is not said you can grow old together or you will love or even like eachother for years. Generally speaking women live way longer as men, so it's more natural to have a younger man as an older one.
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
i don't know, but if they really love each other then let them be. i read an article about a 24 year old guy who is in love with the 12 year year old girl, even though people would look at it absurd there is nothing they can for they love each other so much. So, what i am saying is when it comes to love AGE DOESN'T MATTER, cliche but true.
@einerb (97)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
In a true relationship which is govern by love, age does not matter.
• China
22 Dec 12
If I can choose,I won't.Because it is easier to get old for a woman than a man.When the time he achieved great success,he may forget the hardships you went through together with him,and he would be tired with you and want to find a new one.And the most important point is that the man younger than you are always not mature and cannot understand you,not to mention tolerate you.It is my own view,soryy if causes any inconviniences.