Should I be angry at my husband for not wanting to spend Christmas Eve w/ me?

Well not sure, do you have plans together on xmas day? I know when I lived in the usa xmas eve, wasnt as big as it is here in mexico. Xmas day was the big thing there. So it all depends on your plans Id guess. Did you make plans for xmas eve with him? If you didnt, maybe you should have. Merry xmas....

I think this issue is a sign of something else. He seems to not be so interested in family time and you seem to resent him a little for his attitude. If you HAD made plans to spend this time together would he happily go along with the plans? Is he normally attentive to you and the little one?. If you had been married a bit longer you would have a tradition for Xmas eve developed or else you would relish some time to your self and not worry about him getting some time for himself. Somehow, I'm getting a vibe that things are not that great for your relationship.

I can understand that this can be very disappointing since your husband preferred to go to play D&D rather than staying together with you in the Christmas Eve. As this is not an ordinary day, it is quite an important festival for you. I think he should give in and celebrate the Christmas Eve with you. I wonder how his buddies had time to play D&D if they also had family? This shall be a family time. I hope your husband will realize that he just missed an important time with his dear wife. If you are still upset to it, I think perhaps you need to tell him why and what's wrong. Hopefully next time he will spend time with you in the Christmas Eve.

I can't believe that he can find someone to play the game with him on Christmas Eve. Most people I know are with family and others and not available for 'play' dates! You have a baby? I would be angry. You need family time with the baby just you and him and the baby, and especially on such an important holiday. No, you are not overly sensitive. Matter of fact. You let him go play on weekends when you should be doing things as a family or you should have a break from taking care of the baby. It is my opinion that when one marries that most activities become 'family' activities and that on a rare occasion would one's spouse be out playing with friends and not at home with the family.

If I were in such situation, togetherness in Christmas day is so important. Celebrating Christmas without your husband would be so sad for the reason that he will have to play such game. I think, you should talk this over. You should tell him how you feel and come up with a resolution.

I feel that you have every right to be angry/upset with your husband. It is Christmas Ever and you two have a 1 year old. He should be home with you two and spending time. I understand that he wants to go out, but you let him go out every weekend. A holiday is an exception. That is when you are supposed to stay home with your family and just be thankful that you have them. This is your guys first "Real" Christmas and he should be cherishing that and not worrying about playing D&D with his friends. I would just sit him down and tell him how you feel. He should understand. Happy Holidays. -Frankie J

hi kitana I may be old fashioned but my hub by and I always spent Christmas ev e togehter and with two little babies 11 months apart we mostly watched televisoin or went to my moms houjse to visit her.He never would nave thought of going out with the boys to play games although then we did not even have a computer so that was out.I would want my hubby to spend Christmas eve with me and specially if we had children,myGod he and you in the military and not always able to be together and he wants to play games with buddies shame on him .

I would have definitely have been mad with my husband if he left me alone on Christmas Eve to spend time with friends. I mean those two days are really important days to me and it should be family time, especially since you guys have a 1 year old together. You should be preparing for Christmas morning for your baby. I hope you talked to him and let him know how you felt.

I think that Christmas should be with the family. And I'd probably feel hurt too if my husband just told me the same thing. But just to share you a bit of my Christmas this year.....Christmas Eve is always with my parents. So my husband, kids and I flock to my parents' home. When we were newly married, he would be joining us until the next day in going to Church. Then years passed, he would be waking up early at Christmas day to come home to our own house and his reason would be, he had to feed his pigeons and fighting chickens. Well, it was a lame excuse, but my parents just didn't bother to tell me that it was not a good excuse for not going to church. Then just this Christmas, he went home at 2am. I mean, he keeps himself too distant from all of is during Christmas eve. He barely spoke. He was just in front of the tv most of the time. I got hurt alright, but didn't bother to fight about it.

Honestly, I understand how you feel and I agree with you. Christmas eve is still important to spend with family together. I am a little upset right now since my husband is watching a movie in the living room while I am in the bedroom. We are waiting for the kids to fall asleep but I would think he would want to spend some time together... I guess not. I just think these two days should be spent with the ones you love. I don't think your being overly sensitive.

I think you should angry,going to play D&D is not a good reason for not spend the Christmas Eve with you,you two just get married about 3 years usually he should cherish you more at this period,so I think you really need a long and deep talk with your husband.

It needs to be mutual. My husband and I have been married for 26 years and what keeps us together is that we BOTH have to agree. And so, both of you have to agree on what you are planning to do on Christmas Eve. If you were both doing something different, you went to visit your sisters and he played D & D, or whatever, then it is a mutual agreement. But he can NOT decide what he wants to do without it being a mutual decision. Your marriage is now a team and you are both equal team players. And yes, your 1 year old baby is your FIRST priority. Both my husband and I have had to put some things aside while we raised a family. It's time for your husband to put some things aside to put his child FIRST in his life and you are also suppose to be his FIRST priority as well. No, you are NOT being over sensitive. I think your husband needs to be put in check. Christmas Eve is part of Christmas Day - it is the beginning of Christmas Day. Time for your husband to grow up and realize it is time to put away his games. Time for him to focus on what is most important in his life - his family.

Hmm, you should have made plans for the night, he might think it's not his fault that you are angry because there was nothing planned, so him going with the boys was the same as staying, maybe even more fun. How about you find a group? Just like his D&D group, a group that picks your interest (reading, sporting, etc).