I'm sorry... I still love her...
By akhaniemar
@akhaniemar (122)
Philippines
December 25, 2012 1:09am CST
They were a cute couple, almost perfect I guess. But then, by the time everything seems to be so right, everything suddenly went wrong. She was very happy, it's everything she ever wanted, to have a very loving,caring, sweet and understanding guy. After a few days, she called me up crying, telling me they're through. We talked things over and I found out that the guy told her that he think he was not yet over with his ex-girlfriend and that he's having a doubt for what he really feels for my best friend. I was shocked. Why does he had a sudden change of heart? Maybe sometimes though we never intend to hurt anyone, we still end up hurting them because of too many selfish reasons. However, whatever they were, the main reason behind is our goal to find our own happiness.
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16 responses
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
20 Apr 13
Thanks for sharing, i just fail to understand why people hurt others, what pleasure they get.
@SamShima (71)
• Nigeria
12 Feb 13
The guy could be suffering from indecision which could sometimes turn out to be very dangerous. You are not done with your former girlfriend and you took up serious affairs with the next only to dump - men you have to be very careful.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
26 Dec 12
When you break up with someone you are close to, you are wounded in ways you don't realize or understand.
Unfortunately jumping into a relationship is an easy way to feel better. It's a quick way to feel better, but not a 'real' way. You still hurt, but you are just medicating it with another relationship.
You don't do this intentionally. It's just how things work.
As the new relationship becomes older, you realize there isn't anything there, and never was.
The solution is easy, but difficult. You just don't get into any relationship for at least one year. Don't date. Don't meet anyone new. You just take a year off.
If you do that, generally things like this won't happen.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
In my opinion, your friend was loved on the rebound by that man. 
He may have been trying to while the time away with your friend, while he is giving an ample time for his ex-girlfriend to realize she still love him after all. All the while the man loves his ex-girlfriend still.
Sad, but this always happens.
He may have been trying to while the time away with your friend, while he is giving an ample time for his ex-girlfriend to realize she still love him after all. All the while the man loves his ex-girlfriend still.
Sad, but this always happens. @aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
I think you right, friend. The reason might be a selfish reason because if we really love someone else why are we going to sacrifice things to ruin the relationship. The best things to be happy in relationship must be base on what we feel and see to make things better. If we only base what we are feelings to person...we might be mistakenly interpret our feelings and put into that incidents.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
25 Dec 12
What I feel if that boy had told her that he is still not forgotten his ex girlfriend then I feel she should part away from him. It is not only that boy in this world where she can spend her life with. I am sure she will find the right person in her life who will love her instead of she love him.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
25 Dec 12
You are right.We need to find someone that really understand us and communicating is so important between two people.Actually many people didn't pay attention to their problems and make the relationship fresh.Anyway,this needs methods about the relationship.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
26 Dec 12
I hope you can make amends with the one you love. It is hard to go on when you don't realize what you have until they are gone. Sometimes people will surprise you with what they want, and that's when you need to talk things over with them. It's difficult to read someone's mind. So, I do hope you work things out with your friend.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
25 Dec 12
Sorry about your best friend, it's unfair for her . That boy is so selfish to do that, doesn't he think about the feelings of his present girl-friend? If he ignores her feelings, I think it's good to leave him now for your best friend. It's irresponsible for him to do so.
This girl needs you now, by the way, are you a boy or a girl? If you are a boy, your love will be more efficient. 
Just a joke. Your friend needs your care. Hope she will get out of the sad thing soon!
Just a joke. Your friend needs your care. Hope she will get out of the sad thing soon!
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Well, the saying that goes..."the person that hurts you the most is the one closest to you." I don't see it as being selfish, I think it's just about what someone really want in life at the moment.
Since a person is two different human being with different views, the other person who believes that things are good hurts the most. Loving is a choice and so is commitment.
I probably suggest that even though she's hurt she needs to tell him what's hurts her and so what he'll understand, then she needs to understand the other person too... of what he's going through. She'll always can decide what she want to do, after all it's good to move on with a free heart.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
that is why we should be cautious when we loved again after a break up.. sometimes when we are in a relationship we tend to come back to our former partner because we are not yet over with it.. and it is being unfair to the present relationship we are in.. so to avoid complications we should be secured in our feelings.. so we wont get anybody a heartache..
@twingy (4)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
If someone goes, someone better will definitely come... like a "knight in shining armor." This might not be the good time to break-up, a season that everybody should be happy, enjoying their loved ones. However, for this kind of situation, like breaking up in a relationship, I don't think there is a better time than the earlier time. I mean, your bestfriend definitely loved him, but if they stay together for more time, I think she will love him more which will make it more painful and harder for her. Have a merry Christmas for both of you.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
Anyone who is fresh from a broken relationship should take his/her time to move on and get over the past so as to avoid hurting another one like your friend's case. It would hurt finding out you were just a means of forgetting.
