wish he will be a bit more romantic

Just like your husband I am not romantic to my wife. I am not a showy time of guy that woman dreaming off but I can show myself the best to her. I think my wife already aware about my attitude. Being with her everyday is enough. She always wish that I can stay more days and months in the house but because of the nature of my work as OFW, we are far away from each other.

Dear, I think we love people for certain reasons, someone is reliable, someone is romantic, someone has potential ability, or someone is cute. I think there will be no perfect man in this world. So, just try to accept it,because even if you knock his head,he will only ask you" why you hit me"?

hehe oh don't we all wish our partners and like this, and that.. but even if they are unable to show us the way we want to be loved, does not mean we are loved less. =) Hope you and your husband have a good day and a good life together, always love one another.

Think on the bright side. If he is romantic, he might also attract wrong attention from other ladies. At least you can feel safe with his reliability. He he.... And your friends are right. You can initiate the romanticism. Lead him...

I wish my guy can also be so romantic for you can also create some situations to make you two enjoy it.lol,the guy knows everything to just surprise you if he want,so just trust him.I bet you will love it.

Don't worry you are not alone. I have the same issues with my husband and I've tried several things that would make him more attentive to this aspect of our relationship but nothing really happened. We talked about that several times especially when he's about to come home on vacations since he's working overseas because I want us to enjoy however fleeting his stay. Sadly, he has never went out of his way to please me and even the simple endearments are so hard for him to say. He told me that his love isn't measured by gifts and the likes, so I did not press him to do something which is not to his liking, like he said he is who he is so I guess it's out of the question to force him to change just to suit my desire. Maybe husbands like ours have their own way of expressing their love by just being a good father to their children, good family provider. Maybe for them that's enough, but actually it gets so boring and to this date I congratulate myself for having lasted long years even though something is lacking in our marital life.

Hi jazel! That's also my wish! For him to become more romantic! I exactly the same sentiments like yours, and I have tried a lot of things to send him the message, but maybe that's just not really him, because sometimes we just ended up arguing. I already tried doing those romantic things for him, like when its his birthday, or when its anniversary, but still he didn't get the clue that I want him to do the same... but when I once told him about it, he will just said that I am dictating him what to do... Now, I think I already surrendered, I will just wait for that time to come , for him to bring out the romantic side of him...if there's any! haha Instead of just having an argument with him every time there's an occasion.

hi, there are people who never showy for their feelings or not that romantic for their partner,but most of the women wanted that their husband more romantic,i have a friend where her husband is not that showy even she did her best but still her husband stay the same.

My husband is like what you said, I never received fowers, chocolates, surprises. But yeah, like you said, he is a man you can rely on. So I accept him, even if he is not romantic, I know , life can't go smoothly with only romance, it needs more than that. SO as a woman who has been married for many years, I am not eager to make him have romance now.

My boy friend is also a man who have no sense of romance.I did not receive any christmas gifts yesterday,but I would not blame him for that.I know he really loves me and can really makes me happy,maybe that is the most valuable gift from him.Girls all love romantic things,but the reliable guys are not good at those things.

I understand your predicament. I think you can do one of two things: 1. You can practice radical acceptance. Your husband is not a bad person, as you say, he is quite reliable. You just wish he was more romantic. So you can radically accept that this is who he is and not have any expectation that he will present romantic gestures to you and you can just love him for his reliability and put any hope for romantic gestures to rest. Or 2. You can talk to him. There is no reason you shouldn't be able to approach him and respectfully express that while he is an excellent and reliable husband, you would just love if he did some romantic gestures more often. You can tell him things that he is good at so it doesn't seem like you're complaining and just express that it's simply something you think would be nice and would make you happy. Good luck :)