Do you think that the teacher tends to find the mother at first?

When I was teaching in a school, I would often call the mother. Part of the reason was because it was usually the mother that came to school functions. Sometimes the dad came also, but in my 20 years teaching school, there might have been 10 families that were only represented by the father. If both came, when it came time to call the first time, I would start at the top of the list of phone contacts. Once I find someone that responds and doesn't say, "I'll talk to my spouse about that", from there on that's the person I would call. It's relatively easy for teachers to find out, without outright asking, who is more likely to know about school related issues. If you want the teacher to call your husband first, make sure your husband will be able to answer any questions and respond to any problems and is available during school hours - either in person or by a machine that he will return messages during the same school day, and then talk to the teacher. Just give him/her the phone number and the name of the person you want called. Just because it's listed, you can't assume it will be used. Most teachers don't alternate between phone numbers.

I am a teacher and don't you think it is awkward for me to call your husband first if I need some assistance pertaining to your child's concern. IT is not because it is always your responsibilities but it is because I would find it odd to call your husband I don't think it is appropriate unless in the information your husband is there to contact instead of yours or your residential phone number

That is it! The teacher assumes you are a stay at home mom and Dad works. Well they better get with it. Here in the 21st century moms work outside the home. And in some families there are no mom to phone! There are many single dads out there!

I actually do not mind this, i mean i always want to get in touch with the teachers so i know how is my kid doing..

It's almost the common thing because it's usually dad who go to work and it's mom who teach and take care of the children though, of course it's ideally both but often dad is busy with work and it's left with the mom to take care of the children so maybe it's why the teacher just think to call you first as a mom since it's what usually happen especially if your culture is paternalistic. And so put the burden of work for dad and mom is the one who take care of home and children.

I think yes,in most cases because mothers are the one who always left in the house and taking good care of the children while the father are always in the work. I think it is not unfair. If you do not want to meet the teacher, you have all the privilege to refuse and let your husband talk with her.

It depends on who is on his contact list first, although, they do always tend to call the mother first because people believe that the mother will be home, or they believe that since she is usually the "disciplinarian" that she has control over what her child does. My school knew better because everyone knew that my mother worked for the county, and that my grandmother was my caregiver. My grandmother was the one who raised my brother and me, and everyone in our neighborhood and at our school knew this because she came with us to school the first day, and she would always pick us up from school. Also, people knew that my grandmother was not to be trifled with. She was a stern and stubborn woman. My brother and I knew not to act up in school because we didn't want to have to deal with my grandmother, then again, no one wanted to deal with her.

That's an easy one, my father was hopeless, he was never around and never came to my school, it was always my mum who supported me, attended meetings and came to the school to complain that I had been bullied. If there was any problem they'd always contact my mum, never my father!

Hello youless, of course, the dads are usually busy because they are mostly provider for the family and not the entirely parenting type.not sure if there's a House husband there but they exist here. another thing is that they're right the moms usually in charge with the children for their upbringing so your the ones that was called first.

Usually its the mother who is attached to the child but in some cases the dad too is attached.Its a usual feeling that the mother takes the responsibility of caring for the child and she spends more time that the dads and can understand them better.I guess this is the reason why the teachers prefer reporting to the moms than dads.

Hi youless This is quite common in any part of the world as every one knows that mother is the most dearest person as well as the best care taker of child so not only teachers any one will call mom first either to inform about their mistakes as well their achievements.

I am not sure, but the usual way of taking the attentions are the mother. Since they are the one who used to be with kids. Good day!

The parents both the mother and father must come for a meeting with the teacher. However, the father usually works so the mother is the one going for the meeting. However, at times both parents go to school for a meeting. Have a nice day!

I am a teacher,sometimes I also call mom first.Because I am a female,I think females have the same view of the child and mom is so considerate and careful.

I think they call the mom because the mom is the one who interacts with their children the most. Which is mostly true. Plus, they tend to take care of these matters in more of a timely fasion. Dads are great, but they don't have as big of a "pulse" on the situations involving their children as mothers do.