Homesickness

Hi, The first time I felt homesickness was the worse for me. It was also the very first time that I got separated from my family. And the hardship I was experiencing in my work place made it worst. Everytime I go home for vacation and leave again, I can't stop myself from crying in the airport no matter how I try to hold my tears. It's so annoying when you have to go through the same feelings over and over again, even though it becomes a little easier every time. I avoid thinking about my love ones when I'm away, and concentrate in my daily life wherever I am. I also get in touch with them by schedule to keep myself from missing home. And visit social networks not so often, and go out with friends and enjoy a little.

When I first left home, it was all new to me, getting my own place, and leaving the family home, it was strange at first, I really missed my mum, but I didn't get on with my father and that was the part of the reason I had to leave home. I didn't miss my father, or the home I grew up with, it was only my mum that I missed the most.

For 12 years I lived 250 miles away from hometown and family. There were times when I was really desperate to go home, but I had too many commitments and was slowly building a business. Then I realized that I was quite successful and could chose to return to my hometown if I choose to do so. I did this and sold up my business and started again. It was hard work doing it, but the time was right and I think that if I had tried to do it any sooner then it would not have worked out for me. It all worked out well and now I am back living closer to my family. There is always a right and wrong time to make such moves and I feel that if I have any doubts, the best thing is do nothing until you feel intuitively that the time is right. _Derek

Hi sunshine, you are right, homesickness can be very painful for the heart...Missing your family and friends is not a good feeling at any time... I moved over 600 miles away from my family and I definately can relate with your void that you are feeling... I just talk to them every so often, like a couple to times a week and take a trip 2-3 times a year...Its not always affordable but we have to do what we have to do....

I understand that. Even though I was born in Mexico. My home is in the usa. My dad and sisters are there. Even my son is there in school. I moved to mexico to be with my mom, she passed last year. Im ready now to go back to las vegas, usa. i also am home sick. Take care there. Happy new years..e

I usually get homesick during holidays when I know all my family and friends are at home. During this Christmas I found it very helpful to Skype and chat with them, even if everytime is see a new picture uploaded on FB I just miss them more. I guess this feeling is part of life and you have to accept it and overcome it. Live your own adventure, learn from your own experiences and put yourself first. Then you will make your family proud and happy and homesickness will be easier to cope with.

I do not feel homesick because i always stay at home. I have never got opportunities to go out of station or out of country. So it is always work and my home. I love to go out to hotels or holidays but i concentrate a lot on my online work to earn more and more. Recently my exams are over and i am spending time earning. My friends goes out of station for five days and he feels really homesick. He misses his wife and his children. He also eats food daily out and feels like eating at home on the Saturdays and Sundays.

It is good that you are close to your family, but you also need friends in the city where you now live and work. Invite a coworker that you would like to know better out for a cup of coffee. Do volunteer work. Join a book club or something else that interests you. Smile and say "Hello" to your neighbors. If they have children, after you get to know them better, offer to babysit. Are you a Christian? Go to church and join a bible study group. That would be my first course of action.

It is too bad that sometimes we can only get what we wanted in a place that is not our own home. But we just have to endure the pain leaving behind people that we love for want of a better tomorrow. The search for better life is what pushes us to go the extra mile. An immigrant worker is always the more hardworking one especially if the family in his/her home town depends on his/her earnings. I am lucky that I don't have to feel the pain now as all my family has shifted to join me in the city where I am working. When I was alone here many years ago, life after work was a blank. I felt the emptiness even if when I was with friends. I read a lot. I submersed myself in the world inside the books. But that was in the age when there were no internet and handphone. Nowadays, with internet and handphone, friends and family is just next door, albeit virtually, but you can really see and hear them. So the situation is not that bad I guess. But nothing beats the hugs from our own families.

Hi sunshinesophie! Yes indeed that it's been so sad to think at times when we leave to our place after happily spending vacation together with our loving family. Frankly speaking, I can really feel what you have felt today because I've been there that such kind of situation also. However, we are directed to accept and face the reality of life whatever it is. Sometimes, we are in need and compel to sacrifice something for the sake of our ambition and aspiration in life. Hence, you can actually overcome that feeling of yours, in a way of firmly focusing your attention to your dream future and let yourself enjoy in the workplace so that you can surpass the solitude that you currently felt now. Don't be too much attached with your emotions for you not to drag into the agony of missing. You must divert your homesickness to joyful activities every time you have leisure time such as unwinding with friends, watching movies, shopping or in church activities.

Shame, this must be so hard. Yeah I will also get homesick, but you are moving away for all the good reasons - to better yourself! Well done. Stay in contact with your family via emails and chat on a regular basis with them. I trust you have good friends where you work, so enjoy your time wisely in the city and be a great friend to those around you. I am sure that will help you not to feel lonely and when you share happiness to those around you, you will feel happy and content.

I am homesick too.I miss my family so much, this October, my parents came to city I am working in, and when they left, i cried loudly. Now, your discussion makes me so homesick. I want to go home.

I have never been away from our family for long. Have been lucky to live a sheltered life. Sunshinesophie, for achieving one's financial and academic goals,sometimes one has to live away from the family. It is very difficult but one should face the situation with an open mind.

this is the most common case we can see in many peoples life. but when we flies out we know what world is, also we get self development as u said. but the time u revisit u r home town is lengthier u said for every two years u visit home but if I am in that situation I cant stay. I need to appreciate for that. I too get homesick for every three months I should visit my family once. but that's nothing prob for me as I get holidays randomly. but all the work we or you or I do is only for our families and for our life. so I wish there is no difficult in being sickness of home upto our development.

That stinks that you have to do that and be away from your family so much. On the other hand, that's cool that you get to travel and experience life in new places, although it would be hard to be completely alone and not have friends or family in that area. Maybe one day your hometown will have the opportunities you need.

I had such rough homesickness when i'm also working in another city alone,so i can totally understand your situation.But we really need to be tough to achieve something,i need to work on that so that make myself better living.Just find your friend to talk about it and it's nice to have someone to listen your stories.

I experienced being assigned in other place for three months as part of my field immersion and it is really hard to be separated from your family and love ones. I don't know how I felt that time, sad, everything is not fine with me. But I have to continue otherwise I would not be able to finish the training and my efforts will be wasted. I'm glad that everything is back to normal this time. As of now even if I have to travel for more than two hours a day, I would still see to it to come home everyday to my family. Happy New Year!

hi yes i can understand .I used to live in hostel during my studies so used to get homesick frequently .But as time passed i got used to it But still miss family . we have to go all through this because of our career as we have to do it.

I too get homesick, it's hard to leave family after long days of staying at home, I stayed last week at home for 10 days now I left to my work place, still not set here, I came here 3days back, but my mind was at home still. It may take another 2 to 3 days to come out of this, to deal with home sickness try to concentrate on work or read some interesting book.

I work in my hometown,and the workplace is just a few minutes' walk from my home.I stay with my family all day.Where do you work now?Is it far away from your home?I really proud of you that you are so independence.Take care of yourself and hope you a bright future.