Forgive and Forget..isn't that easy?

Hello tess. Advance Happy New year! This is a nice topic that you have started and a nice topic to think about. Forgiving and forgetting are two different things. I can forgive but I can't forget or vice versa. I can forget but the pain is still there so it is hard forgetting. Sometimes, the thing is it is just there being unresolved or just neglect so that it won't be remembered. As the year end, it is really a time for me to reflect on things about my life. Anyway, I just you the best on what you have to decide and plans this coming year. Advance Happy New year!

I can forgive but simply can't forget it because I think it can be a good lesson and reminder for me if the same thing happen in the future. Not a big problem to forgive since they are people who has connection in our lives. Life is not always happy so hope we can endure the sad and bitterness for this year of 2013.(^^)(^^)

Hello. forget and forgive is not hard but it is not easy. It is depends of person. Some person forget all bad thing easily but some person who are possieve and senstive nature don't forget and forgive easily. Indeed, it is best way of happy life forget and forgive. Happy New Year.

Forgive and forget has nothing to do with pride and being humble. If it would be that easy it would also mean that human beings would not learn from what people do to them. These are lessons. It's not easy.. although it's easy said. Only if some really bad things happenend to you, you will know how much that changed you, your life. I know since by now I am about 30 years or more further. I am still positive, take the best out of my life, I stay away from the ones who really did terrible things to me (so we both have an easier life) but that doesn't mean I can forget (although it's also not ruling my life either).

It is really hard to forget about the past bad events and forgive others for their mistakes. We need a good and kind heart to forgive others for their mistakes, i think we must be mercy to forget about others fault and forgive them. Being mercy is very important to forgive others, a person don't have mercy and kindness don't have the ability to forgive others for their faults. We have lot of friends, relatives and beloved persons in our life, some times they are doing some mistakes and we are affected with their mistakes in such kind of situation we will forgive them if they ask sorry for their mistake and we must have mercy to forgive their faults, some persons will do continuous mistakes and ask sorry for that. It is very hard to forgive this kind of persons, since they will think that we are very mercy and kind heart person to forgive them for their faults, we don't encourage this kind of persons.. There is nothing wrong in forgiving our best friends and beloved ones for their silly mistakes and giving second chance to them, but still they are doing mistakes, it is very hard to forgive this kind of persons. If we have lot of mercy and kindness, we may forgive them. But most of the people are not interested in forgiving a lot of times.

There is a very common tale that "If you consider your past,its nothing but a bucket of ash".Its really good to forget those bad experince and forgive them who really hurted us but its not so easy to do.There are may be some experince which really gave such an impression that it will be very difficult to forget.But if something is giving us pain when such memory comes to mind then why to remember that.Its better to kick-off the new year with a fresh thinking and forgetting past sorrows.

people say that when you forgive it is more better for you. i guess i could see that in some respect. it does feel better not to want to kill someone anymore. when it doesn't matter as much, then it gets better. however, you will never forget.

I try to think positive during the new year and struggle not to be reminded of all the bad things that happened or even think about those people who have hurt me. I am a very easy person to get along with. And I can be with any kind of person. And what really puzzles me is why others would be thinking bad against me eve if I have shown them the best that I could give them. Forgive.....yes, I can. Forget...well, maybe...... But what is important to me is I do not step on others' shoes.

While it is not easy to forgive and forget, it needs to be done. It's not only for the sake of the person who hurt you but also for your sake. If you keep dwelling on the incident where the person hurt you, it will continue to affect your performance in your various daily routines. It will overtake your daily thinking. So if you are to forgive and forget, you should remember you are doing it for your sake and just move on with your life.

Easier said than done. Me, I've made peace with the people I offended or had a grudge with and forgave all those who have done me wrong but the truth is, though I have forgiven, I cannot forget so I tend to be cautious lest I'd be wronged again.

Yep! it's true that to forgive someone or forget something is never easy.At first we think about how I can forgive him for what he done or forget him.But life goes on and we slowly forget about the person...

I did that thing already wherein I did forgive the person who hurt me however after few months the person did something wrong to me again. Now, I'm just being careful with her and avoiding her at times. Forgive is not that easy. I just leave everything to God. For God has said, "vengeance is mine I will repay. " God also said, "forvive seventy-seven times. " This is really difficult but we should obey. :-) God Bless

It's not easy, but we have to. Forgetting goes with forgiving so, we have to do this in order to let go of the bad memories, the pains and hatred we have in this year we have to leave it here. So that, in the New Year to come, we can have a better life and we can be a better person.