let him go
By ungu89
@ungu89 (1999)
Malaysia
December 29, 2012 11:13am CST
to love someone is not mean u will have him for you.
sometime, it just better to let him go. seeing him happy with someone else.
even it really hard for me to do.
for now, that is the right thing to do.
if you love, will you do something like that?
6 responses
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I have actually done this before. I had gotten engaged to the man I thought was e everything to me. he moved on and it took me forever to understand that sometimes it is better that way. I will say this at the time I was hurt and heart broken but now I am glad that we didn't work out because I am now married to the best guy I could ever ask for. things happen for a reason it's just hard to know that reason sometimes but things will always work out in the end.
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
30 Dec 12
crazydolphin, thank you for sharing. It give me hope that all will turn out for me too with a happy ending in time. A couple months ago my boyfriend of almost 9 years broke up with me. We had discussed getting married a few times, but he never proposed. It was like he always talked a good game, but he never managed to follow through with the actions to support what he said he was going to do or wanted for the future. Slowly, I am realizing that it was for the best. Little by little I am managing to heal from the pain of the broken heart.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
31 Dec 12
@ aireana - i am glad that i was able to help you and to give you hope. everyone needs a little bit of hope in their day. years ago when i went through this i would have loved to hear a story like mine and maybe i would have gotten over it faster. 9 years is a very long time and yes it will take some time of getting use to aslo. my husband left me for 3 weeks and it was so hard to get use to all the changes that had to be made but by keeping myself busy i was able to cope and make it through those tough time. the guy i mentioned in my first rsponce i felt the same way it was like he knew what to say when to say it. i am gla that you are slowly healing from all the pain but i hope that you to will find that special someone and i hope things work out well for you. everyone deserves to happy.
@ ungu89 - yes at the time it seems like the end of the world like the world is collapsing right out from under us but i am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. i hope everything works out for you. you seem like a nice interesting peron and everyone deserves to be happy and i hope you get the chacne to experiance happy like i did
@akhaniemar (122)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Yes, I agree because when we love someone, we are not given the right to own them. When we love, we only want that person we love to be happy so we do what we can for them to feel that we really love them. But if they're not happy with us anymore and they found happiness in someone else, then we're given no other choice but to let them go because we only want them to be happy even if they're happiness will cause us too much pain. We have to accept that we can't have everything we want. We just have to be happy that once in our life, love gives us something worth remembering and that is the happiness we felt when love stays and made us happy.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 13
It takes a strong heart to be able to do what you do, at the time it is painful and heart-breaking, but when you look back you will know you have done the right thing. I am a strong believer in that time heals.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Dec 12
I remember my mother once telling me that if you love something you have to let it go, if it comes back to you then it is meant to be. If it doesn't come back to you, then it wasn't meant to be.
This is something that I've done several times throughout my life and though I have to admit that it is hard to let something go that you love, it is something that is for the best.
Now for me, the odd thing is that one of the people that I love most that I let go of years ago has come back to me and it is really putting me in a dilemma in my life.
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
30 Dec 12
There is this quote that says that if you love someone that you let them go if it is true love they will fly back to you, and if it was not meant to be then just let them go. It is hard thing to do. I think for me it has taking the thought of Taylor Swift song we are Never Ever Getting Back Together to realize just how bad the relationship had gotten. The song makes me laugh especially the line where she goes "this is exhausting, we are never, ever, ever getting back together". The part of being happy for the other person is challenging though especially if they were the one that hurt you. It is hard to see the ex happy when you are badly hurt. As the hurt fades, it is easier to be more objective.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
Yes, I did something like that. Actually, the relationship was bound to end before it actually started. I know that I'd be hurt if allow myself to fall in love with him. But I still did. We were together for almost two years. I thought we could handle it, but reality bites, indeed. Something happened, and I just had to give him up...for his safety. I know that letting him go is the best option for both of us. And I know that even if we will both be unhappy, still, it was the best thing to do...for everybody's sake. I know he is unhappy until now, but he is a good person and he will remain as a good father to his kids even if it would mean giving up his own happiness.
