If you catch a good friend's partner cheating, do you tell?

I think i would not tell my friend immediately, but instead confront the boyfriend... since maybe i just interpreted the situation wrongly.. But if i am right, i would tell my friend about it, in a subtle way..

Yes, you are correct this is always a sticky situation. I would in fact rather not know anything about this. I would be torn as i do not want any of my friends be made a fool by their partners... But since if i had known this, i would not tell, i would rather that this not come from me as I do not want to be the one to tell my friend about this, it is a personal matter and i am sure she already knows about it by her hunch, woman's instinct almost always are accurate, right? I might just be wrong, say i saw her partner with someone else in public and i sould not be putting a malice on anything I see, especially if it is in public... I would try to drop hints, ask questions and make my friend think, but no i won't be the one to say it... especially if i am not sure about what i saw.

There is no real guideline for this because it is impossible to predict the outcome. If you tell your friend then they could become angry that you are interfering in their life and causing problems. On the other hand if you do not say anything then they may be angry if they find out that you knew and kept it a secret. We all react differently to circumstances, so there is a risk either way. There is also the issue of whether the partner is simply having a brief affair or whether it will be a long standing and serious affair. This may not seem too relevant because they are behaving badly in either case, but it would certainly have an effect on the long term relationship for your friend.

If it was me, I would go over and say hi and ask where is "?". This way they know they are caught and I would just keep asking questions like there was nothing wrong at all. I'm sure the person would be totally freaking out and that's the part I would love to see. Yes, I would tell.

It's really, really tricky. On the one hand, you are the "third" person who is not involved in this relationship and it's really not your business to comment or share what you've discovered. But, on the other hand, you really and honestly care about your friend who's been deceived and you definitely don't want to see them hurt in the future if you know they will be hurt and devastated. And if your friends somehow finds out that you knew about that infidelity and you haven't told them, then what? Will your friend forgive you when it's too late? Quite a dilemma, I'd say. May be I would tell.

First I would talk to the cheating spouse and give them the opportunity to tell their spouse on their own. If they haven't talked with their spouse about it within a reasonable amount of time then I would have to tell my partner. It is not right to keep something like that from a person especially if we are suppose to be their friend.

I would tell that friend of mine about the situation. I can't be hiding this important information from a good friend. I would feel guilty or unfair if she does not know about this so the truth will prevail.

I would try to find out what the real situation is before really jumping into any conclusion. I might not be in the right position to meddle with their personal issues, but I think my friend deserves a person much better than her partner who doesn't care if she would get hurt or not.

It is a tough decision to make if we were going to interfere with other lives. You had described above, it can ruin the relationship between your friend and her or his partner. Although if we really cares for them, we can tell them with full of confidence and substantial proofs to back up our claims against other people.

Of course I will! What I am not sure of is... if I will approach the person or not. If the the person cheating is close to me too, I might as well have a heart to heart talk with him or her and I would definitely tell that person that I am telling his/her partner. It's better to tell your friend personally than let her/him find it themselves, then your friend will come to you and cry telling you what the partner have done... then your now guilty of not telling him or her what you have found already. I love my friends... all of them, so it's gonna hard for me to just keep quiet.

I do believe that the following words are signs that you need to tell you friend about the indiscretion: dear and friend. However, you need concrete proof of this as what you may have seen may just be a case of mistaken situation. But if you're sure about it I would say you should tell.

I'd go straight to the cheating partner. I would tell them what I know and give them a short amount of time - less than a week - to get it straightened out. If it wasn't dealt with in that time - either he told her himself or he ended the relationship - I would make sure he knew I would go to her with the information. I would make sure I had all the information I could though before going to my friend. Giving them the heads up like that also gives them a chance to lay the groundwork for distrusting what I would say. The more details and proof the better.

I would talk to the person who is doing the cheating and tell him that you are a good friend to his wife. And you do not want to see his wife to be hurt. Ask him what you should tell her, now that you know that he is a cheater. Perhaps that is enough for him to make a decision - either stop cheating or it gives him a chance to tell her that he has been cheating. I would tell him that I would give him a month to tell her that he is cheating and then, you are going to say something to her. Mind you, she might take her husband's side of the story but she has been told. It is up to her to know what to do with being told that she is married to a cheater. If she is a very close friend, then it is probably best to say something but give the husband a chance to say it first to her.

Well, if that's the case I will tell my friend but I'll make sure that I have proof and after that I'll let her investigate for her to know the truth with her own eyes.

That is a sticky situation. I was in this situation once. I saw my uncle at a jewelry store buying jewelry for a woman who wasn't my aunt (his wife). He pretended not to see me but I was very sure that it was him. I didn't tell my aunt but I told my mom so I don't know if she'd told my aunt. I don't think I would tell my friend either if I had such knowledge. I'd rather she finds it out herself and she will discover it eventually without anyone telling her about it. Let it play out. Perhaps the husband/partner would see that he's straying and will come back to the right path.

I was in this situation one week ago and I also shared it on myLot. This is sooo stressful especially because I discovered it just before Christmas. I saw him on a restaurant and went to him because he's alone then all of a sudden, this girl appeared and we were introduced and she's calling the boy honey. I wasn't able to speak and even kept my mouth shut and really thought about it for days. It is very hard to pick the right words to say to a friend especially that they're living together. But I did it yesterday anyways. I'm just feeling so guilty and felt like a coward that I did not even speak when his other girl and I were introduced. It's a good thing my friend forgave me for keeping it for days and understood the situation. She may be having problems this coming New Year but at least she knows the truth now.

I will tell my best friend about this matter and I hope my friend will not be cheated by his or her partner.

of course I'll tell my friend what I know about his/her partner. as you said he/she is my dear friend that I care about so I dont wanna make him/her look stupid because his/her partner is cheating on him/her. I dont want my friends to be with "itchy bitsy" partners who are not contented on what they have.