The thing with so called 'perfect' men
By Aja103654
@Aja103654 (5644)
Philippines
December 30, 2012 9:14am CST
I know for a fact that a lot of women are aiming for the perfect man. Sure, who doesn't?
However, each woman has her own idea of a perfect man. What might be perfect for one woman may not be perfect for the other.
But here's the perfect man to generalize:
Handsome, great body, financially stable(often rich), kind, great lover.
Some of the fictional characters seem perfect for a lot of ladies:
Edward Cullen, Christian Grey and some other characters from some other TV series.
I always find perfect guys... boring. They don't hold my attention at all.
Take for example: I saw a movie based from a manga.
GUY 1: is the perfect guy, this character is smart, top of his class, perfect family, perfect behavior, handsome, hot, famous though he usually keeps relationship with other people superficial. he is not close to anyone.
Oh and in the story, he thinks he is God. 
When I saw this character I just find him okay, but he didn't catch my attention long enough. It's the second guy I fell in love with. Yes, I am in love with a fictional character, so there! Since 2007!!
GUY 2: This lad is not good looking. In fact he is a total weirdo. Stands and walks and sits with horrible posture. Obsessed with sweet things. A bit sarcastic, a bit of a pervert. He's got these voyeuristic eyes that can make you uncomfortable when he stares at you for too long. He's quirky and a bit evil.
So the second guy appealed to me more. If it were not for his quirks and minor imperfections, I wouldn't have fallen in love with him at all.
Sometimes I wonder why I can't like or grow to love seemingly perfectly characters that women my age usually fall for. I had a hard time looking for a crush in college!!! Argh! I began to think something was wrong with me but actually there isn't.
Sorry about this silly rant, though. I'm all over the place.
So basically, what I want everyone to share is their view on 'perfect men'
Whenever I see a perfect guy as people may see him perfect though he actually isn't, I become skeptical and doubtful of that person. I know it's not ideal to look for faults, but you have to admit it is unsettling when someone is too perfect.
When I saw this character I just find him okay, but he didn't catch my attention long enough. It's the second guy I fell in love with. Yes, I am in love with a fictional character, so there! Since 2007!!
GUY 2: This lad is not good looking. In fact he is a total weirdo. Stands and walks and sits with horrible posture. Obsessed with sweet things. A bit sarcastic, a bit of a pervert. He's got these voyeuristic eyes that can make you uncomfortable when he stares at you for too long. He's quirky and a bit evil.
So the second guy appealed to me more. If it were not for his quirks and minor imperfections, I wouldn't have fallen in love with him at all.
Sometimes I wonder why I can't like or grow to love seemingly perfectly characters that women my age usually fall for. I had a hard time looking for a crush in college!!! Argh! I began to think something was wrong with me but actually there isn't.
Sorry about this silly rant, though. I'm all over the place.
So basically, what I want everyone to share is their view on 'perfect men'
Whenever I see a perfect guy as people may see him perfect though he actually isn't, I become skeptical and doubtful of that person. I know it's not ideal to look for faults, but you have to admit it is unsettling when someone is too perfect.2 people like this
12 responses
@Shavkat (140119)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
If a woman is very idealistic, pretty sure they look for a perfect man. Though it is not the same qualities that women are looking for. The bottom line for them, they wanted to have the real love behind the idealism of perfection of a certain man.
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
I understand. Being too idealistic can be bad too, if one takes other people for granted just because they don't match up to one's expectations.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
31 Dec 12
There is no perfect man in this world. Each one of has imperfections and we need to adjust with those imperfections.
All the best.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
1 Jan 13
Interestingly, we ourselves are not perfect yet we sometimes forget this thing and demand perfection in others.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
Thank you deepak. Indeed nobody is perfect. Though people may see some people as perfect. Perfection is subjective.
@jodylee (946)
• United States
31 Dec 12
My husband is the perfect man, for me! He is so amazing and compassionate. He has a great sense of humor and makes me laugh several times daily. He is sarcastic and witty. He cherishes the ground I walk on and supports me in all my crazy ideas. He never talks down to me and he is there to give me kind words when I am down. He is very dedicated to me and our two boys. He is a great father, much better than my own ever was!
I really think perfection is attainable, it is just in the eye of the beholder.
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
Congrats! Just reading this response alone, I can sense that you are truly happy with this man. A man doesn't have to be good looking and stuff to make a woman happy and loved.
@jodylee (946)
• United States
31 Dec 12
Thanks, and yes I am very happy with him! Beauty is just a piece of the puzzle and honestly I don't know if anyone else finds him attractive but to me, he is beautiful! I have many friends who admire our relationship and ask how we can be so happy... to us, it is easy.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
You are truly blessed. 
Well, it doesn't matter if he is really attractive to others, and I believe he feels that way. I bet it's only you he has on his mind.
Reminds me how my boyfriend always claim that he is the most handsome guy in the world and I would always say no, just to annoy him 
He never gave up and kept telling me he is handsome waiting for a time that I would finally say yes.
Haha, he isn't always aware that when his back is turned or when he becomes serious, I start to blush and look away. There are times he becomes handsome to me but most of the time, I just look at him as a normal guy.
Well, it doesn't matter if he is really attractive to others, and I believe he feels that way. I bet it's only you he has on his mind.
Reminds me how my boyfriend always claim that he is the most handsome guy in the world and I would always say no, just to annoy him He never gave up and kept telling me he is handsome waiting for a time that I would finally say yes.
Haha, he isn't always aware that when his back is turned or when he becomes serious, I start to blush and look away. There are times he becomes handsome to me but most of the time, I just look at him as a normal guy.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Dec 12
I don't think everybody is dreaming of the perfect man. And what you describe is seldom how women see their perfect man. It also depends on the culture/country you live, if you have a job, saved, how independent you are what your perfect man should look like.
Personally I would not fall for a "real hero", also not for a VIP or famous artist, nor for Inuyasha. I would prefer Sesshoumaru way more, also someone who is not always agreeing with me (so has an own opinion). I would not fall or like someone who wants me to take care of him or pamper him or anyone who wants me to keep him busy because he has no life of his own (or friends or wishes or dreams or goals.).
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
In this discussion I refer to the 'perfect man' as someone who is superficially perfect, that young girls often fall for.
Then there is a perfect man which is a suitable man for a certain woman.
I can understand why you would not fall for those you mentioned.
Inuyasha is not a perfect guy. He has flaws, note his aggressiveness. But I don't know that much about him or his brother since I stopped watching Inuyasha long ago.
I find Sesshoumaru hot. He's famous among the women. I can see why many women find him more attractive.
@gelomon (286)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I can say that there are no perfect man. There are always a quality that you will learn to live with. Maybe you can meet a perfect man for you but not real. For me as a guy, i want to be the perfect man to a girl i really like. But as i think about it i know its impossible. There are no perfect man. Just a right one. And to be a right one, we guys just need to be true to ourselves. :) ..
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
Nobody is perfect though some people may be close to perfection already.
You have a point, being the right guy for someone doesn't always mean you are a perfect guy. We all have flaws that our partner needs to live with.
@bigwatermelon (6)
• China
31 Dec 12
when it come to the issue of perfect men,i think people have different opinion.a majority of young woman like handsome men,because they are in the age of Chasing the star. in their opinion, the handsome men are perfect. but for the older, they have to take realities into account, and they hope that their husbands provide them with various help such as economic, care and so no.Thus they like the men who possess the mature and kind character,the stable income and ability to deal with various social questions.
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
Thank you for that response!
I am hoping though that women won't always look at handsome men as perfect. Some immediately put their guards down and seem to chase this handsome guy. They don't even know him?
As for me, I can't fully love or be attracted to someone I don't know. That's why hot pictures of men, no matter how handsome and no matter how beautiful their bodies are, I won't get interested in them.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
30 Dec 12
Smart and good looking are good, but my idea of a great body and other people's are different. I like skinny guys. Don't give me a muscle bound olf, give me the skinny brainiac...
And don't worry, I've been in love with a fictional character since 1965... SO THERE!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Illya_Kuryakin
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
Oh my, You are in love with this character for so long? I wasn't even born yet hahaha!
I like smart guys better than the jocks. Jocks don't look smart or amusing to me so they don't interest me. I would much enjoy guys with a smart mouth who I can banter with all the time. They don't have to be very hot but I would appreciate a fine looking one. 
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
31 Dec 12
This person that I know has what I used to call a perfect man. He is over weight, not very handsome but he is a true family man. He works his butt off and comes home to his family, cooks their dinner for them. Does the laundry, because his she gets off work later than he does. How many guys would even do that? Some would sit around and wait for the wife to get home. Guys like him are amazing. He is very loving and kind toward his wife. I bumped him down to semi perfect though when I saw how she talks down to him like trash and he puts up with it.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
The wife sounds awful. He deserved better. Not many men are like him, but I guess he put up with all that because he loves his family.
@WildHorses (718)
• United States
11 Feb 13
If I were to want a perfect man, he would be the splitting mirror reflection of who I am.
Reality is I want a man who is my total opposite but with one big thing in common. A huge love for music.
Secondly, he has to be one that will challenge me but without defiance.
Other than that, I'm really easy to please.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
We each have our own version of a perfect man. Sometimes we even meet someone unexpectedly perfect.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Dec 12
I found MY perfect man. Others thought I was crazy because he is not wealthy, comes from a bad family, and he is shorter than me. To me though, he is perfect. I think he is gorgeous, he keeps me on my toes and he makes me laugh all the time. I don't care that he is not rich or famous, I don't care that his family is weird, and I don't care that he is shorter than I am. He is perfect for ME. We fit each other perfectly and that's all I care about. =)
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
People who are looking for that perfect man often don't find a man because they set their standards too high. How can they find happiness and a good man if they are so close minded? They never know what they are missing unless they give it a chance.
What everyone viewed as the perfect man is not exactly the kind of person that will fit with everyone! I believe each woman has her own perfect man. It's all down to compatibility, trust and love. Superficial things like the physical looks and money are trivial when it comes to finding the right one!
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
30 Dec 12
Perfection is never available in this Universe in any field. When some aspects reach near perfection some other aspects go below expectations or average. So net effect of these aspects governs one's estimations.
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