Strong Enough
By ivan88
@ivan88 (193)
Canada
December 30, 2012 1:56pm CST
As hard as it may be at times, it is important to provide people their space. Don't think that they may be ignoring you or they don't want to do anything with you. They just need to think everything over. At the end, it would be to your benefit, whether that person, dear to you in your life, will come back or not. Because if they didn't like you and stayed with you, your relationship/friendship would end anyways. It is better that they take some time off, think very well about everything and give you a shout. Because that would be a sign that they have definitely chosen you, that the everlasting love for you is there. They probably would not imagine the world with you. But it's better if they truly make that choice on their own, without your intervention.
The true choice can only be made when no one's affecting the person and that person chooses to spend their life with you independently. If not, it was never meant to be, anyways. Then, you should be strong enough to move on, respect the other person's freedom of choice and move on.
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4 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Dec 12
I partly agree with you. But the fact is many people lie if it comes to give them some space to think over. In reality they already hit the road just want to make it less "painful" or worse: don't want you to get angry (express your feelings which is necessary) about the way how they treat you and fooled you or even cheated (already) on you. Which is important is to be your own best friend, always. Not to count completely on others. If you do so you will feel lost for the biggest part of your life. So do what is best for you. Pamper yourself. Don't push away your friends for a partner, don't forget about yourself, your own needs. This way you will be happy every day of your life. No matter if someone chooses you or not. If so that person will only add something extra to your life instead of you building your life on that person.
@ivan88 (193)
• Canada
30 Dec 12
Oh, I never had to push away anyone for my partner. That's not the case. The case is that we've had issues. I don't know if anything is going to work out - I can only hope for the best, but if she wants some time off to think everything over, it is netter that I let her do that. Because both of us need to know what we truly want. If she chooses not to come back, then, our relationship was never meant to be. If she comes back, all-the-more happiness for both of us.
All I'm saying here is that I am ready to any outcome. I am strong enough to either accept her back, if she decides to do so, or I am strong enough to move on if she makes up her mind to do so.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
31 Dec 12
That's not a white or black situation. it can be a grey one or a pink one, depending on the angle you are looking at it. What is sure, is that if a person does not stay with you through good and bad, than might me better to leave. Staying only for good is not right. In life there has to be a compromise when it comes from both sides, not only from one. One can not take for ever as well as on ecannot give for ever. There is a need for a balanced act, otherwise, if a balance is not present, things get out of control and the ending is not good for anyone.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
31 Dec 12
My ex husband was that way. Many times he just needed to be left alone. He didnt handle stress very well. I always knew by his look on his face. I learned just to leave him alone. After he got through it, he hug me and tell me he was sorry. i just learned to live with it. Happy new years there. Take care...
@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
31 Dec 12
Everyone needs space to get away sometimes,especailly in a relationship,one of my girlfriend complaint that her boyfriend is always busy with his work,and when he is available,she wants to be together with him all day long,but he refused coz he said he would like to stay alone for a while.She got annoyed with him and labelled him as a man who doesn't love her any more.It is the same thing I've told her.He just needs some alone time and takes pressure off himself for a while.A space from everything so that he can breathe and relax for a moment.And if she can remember this,when he stresses out,it would save her a lot of arguements caused by busy work.
