She Left...

I can understand you missing her and the baby. I think it's more of a feeling that you "wished it could have worked out for the better" type feeling. Did she leave on good terms with you? It will be interesting to see what your parents will say in the near future. Her mother lives with your parents? Most defininately the stress level will come down and you're probably feeling the effects of it already. If you are second guessing yourself, just take a look back at your last few discussions on this and how upset you were. You don't want to feel like that again I'm sure. And don't forget too, Christmas is over and for some people that is a let down too, sort of a sad feeling because of all the busy days we had prior to that. I can't imagine your house being quiet and empty now with 3 kiddies running around that you love to pieces. Hope you have a fun New Year's Eve and a very Happy New Year coming.

Some people enjoy alot of family around them. And ofcourse a baby is an added joy. Sort of a Christmas gift for you. I would be relieved that they are gone even though I miss them alittle. People who lie and hold secrets are stressful to be around. Happy New Year.

I am see you miss your cousin and her baby son. It was a shame you had some lies and secrets. I hope they will get on well with your parents and her own mother. Now you and your husband can have a quiet house that is a lot more relaxing. I hope you, your husband and your kids will have a happy time. Good luck.

Yeah I can imagine how much you miss them. After we get use to family or friends living with us it does feel weird when they are not around. Glad to hear though that your family will have less stress to worry about. Enjoy the quietness.

Its never good to have all those family members in one house. Things always go wrong. Im glad things are back to normal for you there. Happy new years....

I can't help loving such a lovely baby when the first sight of him.He is soooo cute.I know how you feel but you can still gather together in the future.You can also go round to her house for a chat,right?There are still many chances for you.Wish you all the best. Happy new year.

Her little boy was lucky to be part of your family for a while. I am sure you will get used to not having the extras, and then, knowing you, you will find someone else to help.

I go through that too, although I really don't ever have guests to stay. Last year we had a party for the 4th, and quite quickly, I was ready for people to leave! It's nice, but having people over in your home can be REALLY stressful. I liked living alone-if I wanted to invite someone over, that was fine, but when I was ready to have them leave, they knew it!

I am sure you will miss the little angel. I also had the same feeling when my sister and her sons left our house after spending a month long vacation. But that's life, we cannot hold everyone we love to stay with us forever.

You both will get used to it being quiet again. I know I miss my kids every time they are here and have to leave. But in like a few days, everything goes back to normal. Us humans have a way of getting used to many things.

dont ever feel for the girl.instead she must realise your value and get back to you shortly and its just a matter of time for sure and i prefer that way

Maybe, nothing's too late. Would you accept them back if they contributed more to your house by helping out financially and with chores?

Maybe you are just used to be with them that's why you miss their presence. You can visit them or call them. It will always be meaningful to be with other people especially those who make us smile.

Yes sometimes if someone overstays we feel they are getting on our nerves as we have to adjust to their schedules etc. But when they leave, what ever may be the reason we feel an emptiness which is difficult to fill. But that is life and we have to move on.

Do you have any regrets, now, they have gone? Will you keep in contact with them, and do you envisage having them to stay again? Sometimes we only really miss someone when they are not around, but when they are under the same roof we start to begrudge them being there. In a week or two you will be back to normal and hopefully enjoying the peace and quiet, you just don't need the added stress I think.

Hopefully things will get back to normal now. I know when my daughter moved back out, I was lost without my 5 year old grandson.

maybe you can go and visit them, when you see your parents. A visit may not be as bad as living with them.

Sounds like a bittersweet situation for sure. I hope that you do have less stress and that she'll bring that nephew of yours over to visit.

Yeah! It feel crazy to be missing the person that you wanted to get rid of sometimes. Coz you no longer get to be annoyed, irritated or just feel bad anymore. But that should be a great relief, right? I just hope they would be okay. And now, you can really keep your sanity. Great way to start the new year right- stress-free!

It was very kind of you to take them in during their hour of need and I am sure your cousin appreciates this. It's a shame that things turned out the way they did, but you have to do what's right for you. Yes, it's bound to be a lot quieter without the little one and I am sure you miss your cousin, even just a little bit, too. I know I do. :(