I remember the person but not the feeling anymore

I say, if your feelings are gone, and, especially, if you have another boyfriend now, move on. Don't keep your exes as friends. That's an unnecessary bother, and it would cause problems with your current guy. Keep away from all exes - these aren't healthy friendships.

Communication is key in any healthy relationship-romantic or otherwise. If you experienced problems regarding communication in this relationship then I think you're smart to recognize it. Sometimes, no matter how much affection we have for someone, it still might not work and it's god to recognize this, despite how painful it might be not to be with them. I'd say if the feelings are gone and you two had problems in the form of communication, it would be best to ask him to respectfully stop texting you because there is no chance of reconciliation. That way you can both move on with your lives and find partners more suitable for you both.

Try listening to Barry Manilow "Somewhere down the road" and "Even now". It will bring back some feelings, especially if there are good memories to think of. I know how you feel. I have been there and I spent so many good months (back then) listening to melancholic songs like these. Somehow it made me sadder, but yet comforting in its own way. Moving on is also worthwhile especially if the memories are not too good, and you are not married to each other yet.

What if you let the love of your life go, because the feelings really didn't change but they matured into something better and different. This you will never know because you were to quick to say "no." Love grows in different ways and it would be sad to be alone. I watched a movie yesterday with Robin Williams and he asked the lady with him what she wanted. She said she just wanted to make it through the night. She then asked him what he wanted and he said "I just don't want to die alone." Very strong and powerful words. Life is short, if you have friends you should open them into your life with "open arms." Sure you're going to fight and argue, but when it's all done and over you still love the person they are. Don't give up on someone because you think it's over, love always deserves a second chance. Now, if you have a new boyfriend you really have to take stock of what is in the relationship and how much time you have invested in it. Is it worth letting go of? These are decisions that only you can make, but think long and hard before you say good bye and make sure you are the one making the decision and no one else. You are the only one that knows where your heart is at.

It is really a nice feeling when you have no bitterness in your heart and you can finally face your ex with no hesitations. If he's trying to win you back, that is not a good idea. After all those times that you tried to move on and all of your efforts to forget him he would just tell you that he wanted to try it again? If I were you? I won't do it, he would just tell you to try again now that you have moved on and successfully forgot all your feelings for him? It only means that you opened your door for him to hurt you again. You can have another love and I know he's just there and I know you will be together on the right time. A man that would never hurt you and cause you pain. Just like me and my ex right now, I still remember him and we greet each other but the special feelings for him was already gone, I am not bitter anymore and there's no place for him in my heart, I am reserving this for my new love :) Happy New Year!

Hi mayryflores. Well I don't know how it feels like. As I had only one relationship for now and it is still going on. But I think if I ever had a break up then I would have the same feeling as your ex. I would definitely try my best all the time to get back together because I know that I can not live without her. Life wont be the same. Anyways have a nice day and wish you a happy new year in advance... -=SuperShames=-

I haven't broken many relationships. I only had one man in my life. Well, I had suitors in the past who still wants to interfere with my life at present...but sorry, I never wish to see myself in a complicated situation. It's not flattering to know that still they longed to be loved- it's annoying.

If the feeling is gone, then there is no way to go but move on forward with your life. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex as long as it stays that way. It's easier to talk things out or seek advice from someone who have been part of your life one way or the other.

I can relate to the same song, I remember the boy but I don't remember the feelings anymore. After my break up with my ex, we never met again. He moved to California while I stay here in the Philippines. I was advised by my friend that he visited our country but we never met. In my case, I just remember how we used to be but the feelings are long gone.

Same thing happened with my ex. My feelings for him are gone. It also means I never really loved him. He broke my trust, I am never going to trust him again.

hi , by saying NO you did the right thing,because if he gets a feeling that even you are still intrested in him,then that might create an issue with you present boyfriend.you would realize later that for silly things you would argue and your present boyfriend might take out your exes topic who is your friend at present. So its better to stay away and make things clear for him. take care raj india

I am so proud of you my dear friend. You have surpassed me in many ways. :) there is no sense in going back together with exes because you already know that you broke up for a reason. Getting back is like putting a band aid on a broken leg, it doesn't solve any problems. They've probably even slept with or flirted with a number of people while you were gone. And people don't change, they will always be who they are. It isn't always worth the risk.. if you Love someone, you risk not loving them one day. One day, you'll see them in the grocery store years later and you'll hide behind the banana rack so you don't have to tell them anything and you can pretend that the love never really happened. They used to have an all access pass to the most intimate details of you but now, their existence to you is all black and white; they can either be everything or nothing. You can say hello to people you played with at 3 but ignore the person whose semen you swallowed. At least this is my case. You have successfully stored your past love in a healthy compartment in your brain, and that is where it is supposed to be. Kudos to you! You've definitely started your year right. :)