how many times do you bath
By C
@ShyBear88 (59304)
Sterling, Virginia
December 31, 2012 4:31pm CST
How many times do you bath?
In the past month or so I haven't seen my sil take a bath or a shower at all. She smells bad and has been wearing the same darn outfit more then a week which makes it smell rank. My son has spit up on her and she still doesn't change her clothes and I know she has plenty down stairs because my mom washes the clothes all of the time. She even doesn't give my nephew her son a bath at all and then my mom has to do it for her since she won't.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 12
I bathe every other day or if I do every day than I just won't wash my hair that day. My hair gets greasy if I wash it too much or too little. Lol. But I definitely bathe all the time! I could not deal with myself if I didn't and I definitely would not want to smell! Yuck.
Why doesn't she want to bathe or change her clothes? I know thats a hard thing to talk about with someone...but she should really be taking a shower and giving her son a bath!
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 Dec 12
I don't know good question. We've told her and she doesn't listen and we have even told her to bath her son herself. I love giving my kids baths even though it's always messy I enjoy watching them have fun in the tub.
I don't take a bath every night because of my skin I do one every other night and I do the same with my kids unless we are dirty like been out in the sun or working out. If they've both played hard that day they get one.
I enjoy taking a bath or a shower it's my 5 minutes of quite time away from the kids and my husband. That is when my husband plays video games when I'm in the bathroom taking a bath or shower.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 12
That is very strange, especially for a woman. No offense to men out there but women like to be clean for the most part... Hmm. This is very strange!
Yeah if my skin is really dry than I bathe the next day instead because my skin is so soft it dries out a lot when it gets wet. But I definitely could not wait any longer than that.
I LOVE taking a bubble bath, that is my favorite! Lol. Yeah, it is our few minutes of peace as mothers... I don't get why she would not want to bathe. It has really got me thinking like why? Lol. This is going to drive me nuts now! ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jan 13
I know what you mean. The why part always has my side of the family wondering about her. We are all waiting for the day my brother divorces her but he is to scared to raise my nephew on his own with his special needs. I see it as she is just lazy and doesn't give a rats a$$ about anything. Her hair looks like a rats nest.
@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
1 Jan 13
I can't stand if I don't take a bath each day.My area is a place with four distinctive seasons.So each day I should take the shower and in Summer,I would sometimes take twice at least.But in the north of China,the weather is very cold in some areas,they would choose to take a bath every few days.The frequency of taking bath is related with the living environment,but I should admit that there are some lazy and floppy people who don't feel like taking a bath.
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
Where I live in the US we get different seasons so right now it's cold so I can understand not taking a shower every day because it's cold. Every other day is always good in that case. I do that with my kids till the summer unless my daughter gets really messy then I give her one every night.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
I don't think I could ever feel comfortable not taking a shower in a day. I mean, I do shower at least 2x a day in an ordinary day. And during summer, it could be 3 or 4 times. What kind of mother allows herself to be that filthy? Is she depressed or something? Maybe she is going through some issues that she is not telling you about that she has neglected in taking care of herself.
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jan 13
No she is just lazy and a user that kind of women.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
31 Dec 12
Is she, um, depressed or something? As Cutie suggested? How old is her son? Isn't body odor absorbed by upholstered furniture? Maybe somebody should say something to her. Or could you just leave a bar of soap on her bed? Maybe that's mean, I don't know.
I take a shower every day. I would have to say something but I'm not the most tactful person so I'd probably just come right out with the fact that she smells like last week's garbage. Sorry. I know there are people like that but I thought they were mostly people that lived alone, never went out, etc. I don't know how you can stand it if you have to be near her. In places I've worked there have been a few incidents of somebody with bo. A couple of guys that worked out in the warehouse and over the road truck drivers. I just can't believe somebody can just not get washed.
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 Dec 12
Depressed I wouldn't know for sure or not something sure there is something wrong with her and she won't take help ever. Her son is 5 years old and autstic. People have told her she just doesn't seem to care and the same when we tell her about her son.
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jan 13
emotionally she is fine when it comes my nephews needs as being autistic. She doesn't know how to be a mom but emotionally on him she has never given up on him. She just is lazy and is using my brother for his money. She buys everything and anything so I don't feel sorry for her one bit if you lived with her for 3 years like I did you wouldn't feel bad for her but for my nephew that he has her as a mother and my brother as his father.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
31 Dec 12
That's very sad. She seems to have given up. Having an autistic child can be emotionally devastating. If a person does not have a certain amount of fight in them they can go the other way and just give up on everything. I apologize now for my comments above, as I did not realize she may be in a very bad emotional state. Possibly extreme love, caring and sympathy are what she needs. Who knows? She apparently won't open up to anyone so I guess there's nothing you can do except come here and talk about it. There's always someone to talk to in mylot.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@summer0614 (334)
• China
1 Jan 13
I take a bath every night before I go to bed.It is really uncomfortable without taking a bath every day.And it is said that taking a bath every day can keep away the disease.Your sister does not have a good habbit.She really should give her son a bath,if the baby is dirty and smelly,no one would love him.
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jan 13
She isn't my sister she is my sister in law. He isn't a baby he is 5 years old and autstic. It doesn't really help with disease but it does help keep the skin healthy if you bath every other day.
I give my little ones every other night unless they are really messy with food, been throwing up, or it's been really hot. But it's winter time so it's cold all of the time so sweating really isn't and issue right now.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
18 Jan 13
Yeah I think she needs to change her clothe and take a dip in the tub/shower!
I would say daily in warmer weather or days one works or has social engagements atleast! I know in winter I"m not a fan as this house is quite drafty and you feel like you've walked into a freezer from the shower so I'm not too much of a fan this time of year unless I have to (see above). So I try to stick with every other day shower but wash up the days in between.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
29 Jan 13
Yeah she should change her clothes every day. Some times my nephew wears the same outfit for a good couple of days.
In the winter time I don't bath every day because it's cold and your really not dirty in the summer some times it's once a day depending on what we are doing if we are inside all day then there is no need because of air conditioning.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
14 Feb 13
If i was her mother or yours that did her laundry and gave her son a bath id stop and say yo her it's your laundry and your son take care of them. I'd tell her i'm not his parent you are and then i'd never give him a bath because it is her child. Maybe child services needs to step in for child neglect for not bathing her child. Also that is disgusting that she never bathes and never bathes her son. Now i may wear the same outfit 3 days in a row but not for a week and if it got spit upon i'd change right away.I don't ever really take baths at all because i take showers everyday or every other day. Sometimes in the summer when it's real hot out and i get dirty and sweaty enough i shower twice a day and sometimes i even clean my hands and face by the sink. My hubby has gone 4 days without a shower once but he washed by the sink every day with hot soap and water. Now tho he showers everyday or every other day. Not to shower and change dirty clothes is disgusting. Maybe someone needs to talk to your sister in lae about her very disgusting and bad habits.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Apr 13
One he is Austic which is why nobody has called because its tough to change any kids world but one with special needs its even harder they don't take we'll to change and I'm the system they don't get the care they need. My mother does these things because if cps was involved they wouldn't see him because my brother and his wife live with them.that and also my nephew hates his mom giving him a bath he likes my mom doing it because she does it the right way. Yes she does need to that and with a normal child any person would do what you said. Even I would do that if it was my own child's child not getting a bath. I don't lik going long periods myself but I do give m kids one every other day.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I typically shower every other day (every third day at the most if I really haven't been doing anything). My cleanliness is one of the things that matters to me. However, I do find that if I shower every single day that my skin starts to suffer and get really dry, especially during the winter.
Now during the summer I shower more because I spend a lot of time in the pool and I have to get the chlorine off of my skin and my hair as I'm mildly allergic to it.
I do change shirts every single day but I will typically wear the same pair of pants for two or three days before I throw them into the wash. I don't wear my clothes until they stink either.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
I take a shower or bath every other day and some times I'll take one every day but not always because like you my skin dries out easily.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
1 Jan 13
Hey I take bath almost everyday either in the morning or evening. In rainy season and winter I prefer to take bath in the evening since I leave for my office early in the morning (around 7.30 A.M).
And in hot season i.e. in month of March, April and May I prefer to take bath twice in the morning and in the night too.
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@sriroshan (2585)
• India
3 Jan 13
Sorry friend such think never happen or happening or will try to do it, as I need to take bath everyday, and even I have thought my children when they were young about taking the bath everyday without fail, as it keeps our clean and healthy
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
3 Jan 13
Its bad for you to take a bath every day it kills things that actually you do need on your body as well as destroy natural body oils that you need to keep you skin healthy. A dermatologist will tell you the same thing.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
I always take on once every other day unless I get sweaty. I do the same with my kids as well.
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@pokumon (644)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I think your sister in law is depressed and should be put back on medication. When you are depressed you don't care about yourself or anyone for that matter.
On the bathing topic, I bath every other day but sometimes every day. I have gone for longer stretches but that is rare. I sometimes have to wait a long time before showering after running a 5K because I won't stop sweating until an hour or two after I stop running.
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@pokumon (644)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I still stick by my original theory with revision because of the Adhd. I have that too and noticed that I became better when taking adderall. It made me clean like crazy when I was not working or studying. I miss my productive days. Add is really about motivation or lack of it. Try to get her to see her doctor. It would help.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
3 Jan 13
Don't you think we all have tried that with her. We can't make her go she has to go on her will since she isn't a child. She doesn't think she needs it so there for she won't go. We could talk to her till she is blue in the face and she won't change not for anyone at all.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Jan 13
Sorry to hear that your sister in law doesn't bathe like she should. I usually take a shower everyday or every other day. My daughter gets a bath everyday. Not because she is very dirty, but because she enjoys playing in the water, and it's usually after an art project. We stay at home for most of the day so her having bath time is part of our schedule for the day.
I hope that something will help your sister in law. Perhaps someone she respects can talk with her more about this. To let her know that personal hygiene is very important. Or help her to see that taking a bath,being clean is a way that we take care of ourselves and we can feel good about this. Perhaps a nice gift set basket would encourage her to want to do these things regularly.
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@FrugalMommy (1438)
• United States
1 Jan 13
She use to take baths all of the time till after my nephew was born and then she got lazy and hasn't even gotten back on any of her medication that she should have been on after he was born 5 years ago.
ShyBear, what you are describing is not just laziness. It honestly sounds to me like your sister-in-law is suffering from depression, possibly even postpartum depression. This is something that her doctor needs to know about, especially if that was what she was on the medication for in the first place.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Jan 13
@shybear yeah I agree with frugalmommy. She should talk with her doctor. She will more than likely feel a lot better about many things if she gets back on her medication. It seems like that would be the best thing for her and her son. It would also make it more pleasant for others to be around her.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jan 13
We have all talked to her about it and even have told her nicely of course to give my nephew a bath and her family doesn't see her so they wouldn't know what is going on for the most part and they probably wouldn't believe it unless they see it for themselves.
She use to take baths all of the time till after my nephew was born and then she got lazy and hasn't even gotten back on any of her medication that she should have been on after he was born 5 years ago.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
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28 Jan 13
Sounds like she is depressed see if you can help her by saying hey why don't I read to the kids while you take some time to yourself and take a nice warm bath to relax.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
29 Jan 13
She is no wear near depressed because depressed people don't do things when they want to do things they are always said and have no will to want to do things. She is just lazy has been for a long time.
Everyone has offered her to take a bath or shower and she can o it any time at night time or in the morning when he is at school or sleeping.
@nathygirl (28)
• United States
4 Apr 13
I love to feel clean . I take a bath at least twice a day. But when it gets very hot here in Texas ,I take a bath 4 times a day.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Apr 13
Oh wow that is a lot of bathing and that can be bad for your skin.
@ChoukseyMK (1045)
• India
1 Jan 13
At this stage of age i can understand the importance of bath. so i take bath everyday. during my childhood i used to skip bath in winter.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
I don't take one every day but that is because I don't get that sweaty unless I"m working out. I give me and my kids because it is winter every other night till the summer time and some times in the winter it's every night if one of my kids get messy.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
2 Jan 13
Your sister may be suffering from depression. Try to get her to a doctor, or at least to a clinic.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
She won't see a doctor at all. We've tried to get her to go back on her medication 5 years ago after my nephew as born for her add but she won't. She says before she was anti depresents but I don't think she needs them. She is just lazy and does things when she wants to do things instead of when it needs to be done.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
1 Jan 13
Wow that sounds really disgusting that she hasn't bathed in a month since you've seen your sil. I bathe every day at least once. I hate smelling at all. Even if I get dirty or I've worked out then sometimes I will bathe 2 times a day. There must be something going on with your sil for her not to bathe at all unless she is just being lazy. Now that is also just plain laziness, when she won't even change her clothes or even bathe her son. How sad. If it wasn't for your mom stepping in to bathe him then I don't even want to imagine how dirty he'd be.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
some people on here think she is depressed but I think she is lazy since I know her best. She isn't depressed and just because someone has been depressed doesn't mean they still are or could be once again. Nor is it always pospartum depression. She is just lazy because depressed people wouldn't clean up when they want to make people believe things are all good.
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
2 Jan 13
ShyBear:
I bath at least once a day. I do not understand how your sister in law could allow herself to get so nasty. As a mother, I am appalled that she would not take care of her child's hygene. Does she not realize what harm she could be causing him, herself, and everyone else that has to be around her. It sounds to me like she is just extremely lazy and I would have to make her leave my house. I know that you and your mom have enough to deal with, but I would keep the nephew and show his disgsting mother the door.
@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
Good thing I don't live with her or I would kick her out of the house. I at least take a bath or shower once every other day and when it's hot I tend to take more baths or showers. My kids get a bath ever other night and some times more then once a every other day depending on the time of the year, if they where that messy that day or if they are sick.
Yes my sil is lazy. She does things when she feels like doing them and not when they should be done.
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
Hi ShyBear,
Really? Wow, I couldn't believe there is such person who doesn't feel uncomfortable not taking a bath at all. You said the past month...how long is it exactly? If she doesn't want to take a bath...at least she should change her clothes. It's surely unhygienic and would definitely cause her to be sick because of the increase in microorganisms. You will definitely acquire a lot of germs if you will not take a bath.
I do take a bath...everyday. And every once in a while, it would take me twice a day but usually just once. But I believe once is enough. It's an act of being able to refresh ourselves.
Have you already talked about it? I hope that's the best thing to do.
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@ShyBear88 (59304)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jan 13
I just moved back closer to my family after being gone for almost 3 years since I've been married. So I've only noticed that she smells really bad for about a month because I haven't seen her change her clothes that often or heard that she has taken a bath or shower and in that house there is 3 full bathrooms. It might have been longer but I don't live in that house so it takes me longer to noticed certain things. But my nephew I've notice this since September that she doesn't give a bath that often at all not even once a week.
We have all talked to her but when we say things she gets all upset and thinks people are yelling at her when we are not we are saying it nicely. Even my own dad has offered while I'm over there visiting to take a bath to relax and he even tells my sister in a law. He'll even watch the kids for us girls when we need him too.
I don't take one every day it's more like every other day.
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