How do you know you can trust someone?

When deciding whether or not to trust someone I think you should always remember that they have nothing to lose by you trusting them, that you're the one that has something to lose. I trust very few people. I have a few good friends online. When you start losing things in life (offline) like your job and your money, then you find out sometimes that you really had no friends in the first place because after your job and your money disappears so do they. It's always wise to be careful who you trust.

You will never know. People change all the time, and we should accept it. The minute we have expectations that is not met, we get hurt. Accept the person who he/she is, KNOWING that he/she may let you down. Then you leave enough room for that person to make a mistake.... then you put a check on yourself if you can forgive, or not...

I always trust people and I always get burned. I don't want the moon, I just want acceptance and to be treated right. I trust people too readily. I'm 60 years old and I still haven't worked it out.

Hi! It takes considerable time to understand a person. Till we get to know soneone closley, we just can not trust him. Also, if we have faced a bitter experience in life, we start mistrusting everyone. I use all my experience, gut feeling and wisdom before I start trusting a person. Though, there is no guarantee that my assessment would be true, yet I trust him.

For me it's really difficult to trust or not to trust someone as someday they might use it as a weapon against you in the future.Who knows?? Perhaps I just being pessimist but I just know that if you don't want to feel hurt you shouldn't have to trust anyone so much. Keep some of it just for yourself.(^^)

I think we never ever really know when and who we can trust. People change over night. But if you are comfortable with someone, maybe they can understand trust with you. its really hard to be 100% sure. Have a great day there...

It's hard to trust someone specially if newly meet friends. I am a type of person who easily trust anybody specially those looking pity but after I learned from my previous experiences I change my mind and now I won't believe easily people specially those who are opportunist.

I trust no one. It's not that difficult to do. At some point everyone fails us. I've learned to live in the moment and if someone decides to screw up royally with me, it's their loss because I take bullsh*t from no one.

Yes its not easy to trust on people but that's also true that we cannot survive without people on whom we can trust. I have lots of people whom I trust but that's true I found them after lots of trials and experiences.

I think everyone has their price so it is wise to tred carefully or be like me and let God take care of everything.

Not trusting everybody is not healthy too. For me I just follow my instincts. It may sound odd or absurd to anyone but for me my motto is: Its better that I'm not the one doing the scam. Scamming can benefit the scammer but in the end his self-respect and respect of others for him will go down. Then theres bad karma (what you sow is what you reap. And all that he enjoys from the fruit of his bad deeds is only temporary and empty. IT may not sound easy but just follow your instincts, be reaonsable, be a good influence, and if he did something wrong you must let go and learn to forgive. We too arent perfect in the eyes of GOD but He still loves us unconditionally.

Yeah, I agree with you. In this days, it is really hard to trust someone that easy and surrender your full trust to anybody most especially your friends and relatives and anyone who are close with you. Sometimes, those who your friends are the one stabbing your back. I myself is not trusting anyone that easy. The first thing that I am doing is I will know them first and then little by little I can then share my thoughts and other confidential matters with them.

I am kinda like you... In trusting someone, I listen to my heart. I always base it with my instinct. I am not into paranoia that I can't trust anyone. But it is not wrong not to trust anyone because it is true that too much trusting can lead to disaster and danger.

I always trust my eyes in choosing a true friend, once we become close friends, I will trust him or her without reason.

When I was younger I was the kind of person that had an inborn trust of other people. However now that I'm older, I have come to realize that those people that you are actually able to trust are people that are few and far between. For me to be able to develop trust for another person, I've found that you have to have a long standing relationship with a person and you really have to pay attention to the way that they behave. I can honestly say that there are only a hand full of people that I actually trust in my life.

It is really hard to trust people nowadays. And sometimes, I have been so trusting to people that do not deserve to be trusted at all. I could be naive at times, coz I always think that when I person is trying to reach out to you, you should always extend your hand.

I too listen to my heart/gut feeling. It is usually correct. However, I also keep in mind how the person behaves. If someone starts asking for money or wants to borrow something expensive, then I start being suspicious to the point of being paranoid and unless I know that person really well, I won't lend anything I'm not comfortable losing entirely.

Trusting people is very difficult. Most people are out for themselves now a days. My husband and I are always trying to help people and we have been hurt many times for it, even by family. We have decided to trust very few people from now on...

I agree with some of the other responses that people can change over night and thus it can be difficult to ensure you can trust someone. I think there are a few ways you can be more certain but again there is never a 100% guarantee. 1. Time- this obviously would mean you would need to invest in this particular relationship or friendship but as more time passes and they've remained honest, open and trustworthy, I think it becomes more clear that they are trustworthy. Especially as you experience different situations and moods and so forth and they remain honest, it becomes at least more clean than with a stranger whether or not they are a trust worthy individual. 2. Knowing someone well- Knowing how someone reacts to something, how they speak when they're angry, nervous, sad, etc. will help you understand them as a person and give you indicators into their behaviour if and when something is off alerting you perhaps of when they are lying and thus have done something untrustworthy. 3. Don't underestimate your gut. As you said, rely on your heart. If you have an inkling someone is lying to you, there is a good chance they are. But also knowing if you are just an untrusting person can help. Knowing yourself and how you interact with people will also help you understand what is really happening in a relationship versus what you are creating due to your fears and insecurities. Again, there is no sure way because people are just people and they grow, mature, develop, change and make mistakes everyday. They might lie to you because they don't want to hurt you or they might lie to you because they want to keep something hidden or they might be malicious and untrustworthy. Each individual is unique and all we can do is try to know ourselves, them and the nature of the particular relationship as best we can to be able to judge how honest and trustworthy the relationship itself is. I hope this made sense and helps. Happy New Year!

I see people when I spend some time with them.I won't tell them my secrets even if they tell me theirs first.It still takes time to oberseve them.it means I trust them when I decide to share my secrets with them.