How to say NO!

Hi Wishjui, If I don't agree with the situation, I would just say NO. I don't want to force myself just because they are my friends. I would say YES if I really want it to happen. I don't want to push by some things. I do say NO most of the time especially if my friends would ask me out. I am on saving a lot now and if I do go out with them...that would mean, I would be spending money...so for now, I would be needing that NO just to save. Have a great day!

I haven't been in a situation recently where this has been a problem. I have of course in the past and it was so hard on me because I didn't want to go against my friend or relative. It causes a lot of problems when we don't know how to say No because we will feel bad in ourselves for it. They don't realize that but sometimes we are hurt more this way.

I usually just say yes if i am capable of whatever they do want me to do.. just to avoid conflict or confrontation.. since it is easier.. But if i really do not want to do it, i say no.. it is kind of hard though, i agree.. But sometimes we just have to say it..

As much as I would want to extend my help to others, I don't think it is always possible. Not because I don't want to, but maybe because of certain things that will conflict my decision. I don't like breaking relationships with any friend. But if a friend would end his friendship because I refused to extend any help, then I think he is not really a friend.

My friend. We are individual and unique. If dont like something others wants s to do its okay to say no. Especially if its something bad. Dont mind what they had got to say. They too wouldnt feel good for doing something they dont want. So dont be guilty. Follow whats your heart says. As long as its good and wouldnt harm anyone. Say it and be proud.

Sometimes it best to say no regardless of the relationship you have with the person.

I find it is really hard for me to refuse other people's require even I do not like them. I find that people around me can know how I think, how I like and reach their goals without any sense of force. I am afraid to hurt someone or make enemies by refusing their requirement, so that I have got a lot of meaningless things to do.

Many a times in life we get into situation where we want to say no to others but we can not due to our loving relations with those others. In such situation we are in dilemma to say yes not willingly or bluntly say no. By saying no we risk our relationship but we are some where satisfied deep in our heart because we actually do not want to say yes. Its always said never say yes if u want to say no. Because if we say yes against our wish we can not accomplish the task with full concentration and that is not good.

You are right you have to own your life and not always try to satisfy the demands of other people. It might become something you will regret in the future if you will always follow what others want you to do so it's always better to own your life, be the master of it, control it towards the path that you really wanted in life. Goodluck!

Say no is a art,you no need to worry about it will damage your relatonship with your relatives and friends because they can understand. But there is one thing is very important,the issue happen usually cause by the way you say no,not the result,so you need to pay attention to the way,and be naturally and smoothly.

Refusing sometimes is good especially if it's for their own pleasure.Before say no I try to know deeper first if it's necessary and of emergency used but if it's not that important then I would not risk it.

I also often meet such things like this. For instance,in company, persons make more efforts usually obtain less payment,and when the boss ask :'do you agree the bonus allocation?', sometimes you can't say 'NO', because even if say 'NO',it is also useless.Someone said that suffering is happies, but it is actually not fair. Another example, you are usually very hesitant because you don't want to buy when the salesman to sell you his products passionately.In many cases because of softhearted, but later we should learn to say no, because we must listen to the inner voice.

I am a social worker by trade, a wife, a mother of 4 and I am very active in ministry!! I have had to learn to say no in order to keep my sanity!! I adopted the slogan, "Other people's emergencies are not mine!." As a very compassionate person with a desire to help everyone, it is common to be used and abused. I have learned to set healthy limits. There was a time when I was so cosumed by other people's issues that I was not taking care of myself. The bottom line is that if I do not take care of my physical, spiritual and emotional health I am no good to anyone else. I say "no" a lot more frequently now and I have no regrets. I have found that when I am pulled in a million directions, my enery and passion are compromised and the outcome suffers. I agree with a previous post about a healthy balance.

Sometimes I feel pressure to help my friends out as much as I can despite my own benefits but the issue that comes from that sometimes is multiple people asking me to do things for them and then me not having enough time and becoming overwhelmed with task and not doing anything as a result. Now I have gotten to a point where I almost auto respond with "no" unless it is just a simple task because it's simply too much stress to have people constantly poking at me to get done with whatever they asked me to do when I have my own priorities.

When I was a child I was always saying yes until my mother teach me to say NO and it never leave me since . No is the way to go , I rather deal with the discomfort of them being angry than I am the one angry for going along with their demand .

If they are a true friend saying no should not be a problem.We all like to help out our friends and family but sometimes we just have to say no.Sometimes people say no to me ,you have to accept it is part of life.None of us like refusing our loved ones but sometimes it just has to happen.If someone stops talking to me then thats life.We should not be blackmailed by our nearest and dearest.If they try then it is time to withdraw no matter how painful it might be.

I use to say YES always with my friends and with my loved ones. But experiences made me learn something and teaches me to say NO. Your very own experiences will teach you how to say NO, especially with abusive people around us... It will surely hurt them- but sometimes hurting the one we love teaches them to be considerate.

Hi Wishjui and welcome to my lot. If they are truly your friend they will understand when you have to say no. If not they are not worth having as a friend in the first place. I am one of those people that if I don't want to do something I always say no I am not going to do something I don't want to do. It is wiser to keep yourself happy and know what a true friend is instead of knowing people that will lead you down the wrong path in life. Do what is best for yourself and stay happy is my motto!

I guess it depends on the request. Like it or not, life is a game of politics. Relationships are built in terms of quid pro quo. However, not all demands should be accommodated. Some friends tend to take advantage of you if you always say yes to the point of asking for ridiculous requests. These are requests that they themselves can do but is too lazy to do so. There are also requests that would test your moral fortitude. If you have friends who demand of you to do something bad---let go of them---pronto!

I also find it hard to say No to friends but I realized that sometimes I have to really say it to be honest with myself and to my friends also. I sometimes say yes to make my friends happy or not be disappointed and I'm the one who's disappointed with myself for not saying no.