Why do people cheat?

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well yes u are absolutely right, even i am shocked to see so many posts and discussions on break ups and cheating in relationships. I think its terrible to hear such things and what is really missing is the trust and faith among the partners. We all have become so selfish and busy with our lives that we often forget that we are also involved in some relationships and we need to take it forward. What say?

People usually cheat mainly because they are tempted of doing sinful acts, sometimes they are also provoked by other people such as acquaintances that they feel they can lean on when they have problems resulting that instead they go to their partners, they go to their acquaintances. Also, location triggers people to cheat such as bars and pubs such places triggers a loyal person to cheat because some people over such places pulls a tempting impression on them.

I think cheating is rarely about an inability to control physical attraction. I think it strays more to something emotional-- whether that be that there is something lacking emotionally in the relationship causing one to feel distant from their partner or something emotional going on with themselves causing them to feel isolated, alone, boring, inadequate, etc. Feelings of disconnection or loneliness whilst in a relationship can definitely lead to cheating. Another, is definitely feelings of inadequacy as maybe the person who cheats feels they need to prove something to themselves and try to confirm that by solidifying that others find them sexually attractive. I myself have been cheated on. I can't adequately express what it did to my psyche. Now, granted, I was young. But it broke me completely and really created a lot of trust issues for my future relationships. Because the relationship I was in was a good one, and it completely took me by surprise, in all my future relationships, no matter how solid or trust filled they were, I would always think at any moment, the tables can turn and this person can betray me. It really created a line of very self-destructive thinking. I am in a relationship now in which this problem has finally been eliminated. I chalk it up to being with the right person. But, if my partner ever did betray my trust now, I'm not sure I could ever move on. I could certainly forgive because I know everyone makes mistakes but I think the trust would be broken and it would ruin us. I'm not sure how we could move forward and I could have the certainty that it wouldn't happen again. This would create a huge problem in the relationship. Every time my partner got a text or went out without me, I would have to wonder and that would be unhealthy stress for me and an annoyance for my partner. Trust is crucial and through that action it would be destroyed so even if I could forgive, I don't know how we'd move forward with a healthy, functional relationship. On the other hand, I love her madly, so who knows. I guess it's hard to say until I'm there which I hope I never am. About the statement you asked about: 'once a cheater, always a cheater' I can appreciate the sentiment but I think generalizations are made by small minded people. Real people and life is far too complex for such a simplistic notion. Certainly someone might cheat on someone and never do it again, also, someone may cheat with a previous partner who wasn't right for them then find themselves in the right relationship and never cheat. Because I think most cheating is contingent on what's happening within the relationship, I think this statement is pretty moot. Serial cheating and cheaters certainly exists but we can't lump all people who have ever cheated into one category together, it's too simplistic.