my mother is finally coming around

It's too bad your mother didn't accept it initially as I'm sure it caused tension for you with your mother and with you and your husband but I'm glad she is coming around at last. I don't think age is very important unless we're talking about someone being under the age of consent but I guess something about a 20+ year age difference irked your mother. I'm glad, however, that now that she has decided to come around, you're taking the time to allow her to do so. Sometimes, when parents don't immediately accept our life choices, I've seen people write them off and not be able to forgive them. But, from what I've seen in life, some people just need time and then slowly, at their own pace, they are able to accept whatever their child has done. It's good you're allowing your mother the chance to change, accept it, and prove herself. Good luck to you with this new development!

Glad to hear your mother is coming around, sorry that you didn't have her support for such a long time! It's awful when your loved ones don't get along or when your parents disapprove of someone that makes you happy. I personally don't think that age plays a huge difference in most adult relationships, but maturity does. I for one always found myself surrounded by people older than me simply because of my maturity level - having gone through things a lot of people my age didn't have to worry about, I always had difficulty connecting with my peers, and whenever someone met me, they thought I was far older than I actually was because of my life experience. Of course, if one person is, say, 16 and living with their parents, and the other is 26, this can be a problem because of the lifestyle difference itself, but if we're talking about a 26 and 36 year old they will have a far better shot at being together!

Well maybe your mom realized that you are already married and she can't do anything to change the world around her. Sometimes mothers are like that- they always worry about many things concerning their kids. My mom also likes that - in many ways and different reason. But I like it, because it shows how much she loves her kids.

Sometimes it just takes time for them to realize that no matter how much they don't like or approve of something its not going to change and its our lives... My parents still are not crazy about my husband because he is not wealthy, my husband has helped them more times than I can count with money which is kind of funny but anyway, I know eventually they will get over it...or they will at least deal with it... I'm happy for you that your mother is finally starting to come around! =) Maybe one day my parents will too, I doubt it though since we have been married for 8 years already, Lol.

thats great, sorry it took her so darn long. Hope the next thing will be another visit from her soon. Im happy for you... take care...

That is really nice that your mom is coming around. A friend of mine's parents were 20 years apart. I don't understand why people have such an issue with age difference...when you are adults, age doesn't really make a difference. Love is all that matters!

He is your best friend and now your husband. Age does not seem to matter when it comes to love. I am delighted your mom has finally come round. It was lovely she asked when his birthday is. That sounds ever so positive. The card in the mail showing both you and your husband's names sounds promising. I seems that the awkwardness has now gone. Good luck with your mom in 2013.

It is sad that she was like she was in the beginning, but I am glad she is coming around now. I personally would not have sent my husband away for a few days just so my mother would visit me. I would have told her that if she wanted to come visit me then she would have to visit with him as well.

Mothers never want to give up their babies. I am sure your mother never meant to hurt your feelings. Some parents have a hard time letting go of their kids. I am 25 years old, and my mother still thinks I am her baby girl. I am the only daughter and my mother doesn't like it when I date older guys than me, and so what! I just don't want to date somebody in my age group. I am not married yet, but hopefully she'll be happy when I get married. Glad to hear that your mom finally came around. Hopefully, when one of your kids get married, you'll accept it and sooner than your mother did.

As a parent it is sometimes hard to agree with some of the decisions our children make.My kids are still young and learning and pulling in different directions and I'm learning when just to step back love and accept and move forward with my life. I do hope she is learning to just be happy with your new husband and life.You need her and she needs you.