I am annoyed when freinds do the same thing

It happened to me last month. They are 5 persons whom a very dependent to me. They are my future staff abroad. They complain the government because of delayed processing our papers. The disgusting things for me, they always called me on phone and make a follow-up which I am not liable on it. I am not the one who process their papers. Last week, they called me more than 30 times and I didn't answered.

I used to be one of those people in a way. I was afraid of change so when I complain and someone would tell me how to fix it, I never would because I was afraid to. Maybe that is why they do this too.

I would say to just become more vague, like saying "yeah, that [complaint] stinks" or "I really don't know what to tell ya" - things that aren't personal opinions. Avoid giving advice or giving the impression that you care too much. Sounds harsh but the habitual complainer is never happy anyway, so use your caring and advice on someone who appreciates it.

Well, you should know that I know people such as you described in your discussion. These people are constantly complaining, and mostly believe them to be always in the right. While in the wrong, they only ever see the others! Now I wonder: It is possible that sometimes these people do a self-analysis of consciousness to understand that sometimes they make mistakes? Unfortunately this does not happen. This is why when I hear the opinions of all "out of place", I'm quiet and rest of my idea. Otherwise I would have to argue about a lot of things!

Hi friend, i too hate such kind of persons, there is no use in complaining about the same thing again and again, we must find out the solution for our problem and solve it with our effort, instead of complaining about it. If the fault is from our side, we must try our maximum to rectify our fault than complaining

I also dislike the one who keeps complaining all the time.When I chat with her,she just repeats something I already knew by heart.It would be too negative,and make me begin to escape from her.Because I am afraid that this kind of mood would have some bad impact on me as well.It is contagious.I really hate it.

My best friend seems like she is always complaining about the same thing in her life and yet she really is not doing anything to change the issues that she is having in her life. So when she calls me to complain about the issues that she is having with her boyfriend, I will listen to her and when she asks for my input, I will tell her that she really needs to think about what is best for her. Of course she doesn't do it and then a couple weeks later I will be hearing the same complaints from her again.

I would usually ask, what is the problem? Then I would try to analyze with them. There are times that they really don't know what is the problem. Sometimes what they are complaining about is an effect of a problem and by sharing some ideas, we could be able to identify which is the real problem. And from there we can be able to get the solution. Have a nice day!

I have a neighbor who is always complaining and is soooo negative. We live in a nice neighborhood and yet, he complains about it. Don't know what his problem is. Just a grumpy old man, I suppose. He really doesn't do anything constructive with his life. So, I just do my best to leave him alone, don't want to hear his negativity anymore. Yes, some people just vent. They really don't want to make the effort to move on with life. Nothing you can do except enjoy life. My husband and I went to a neighborhood New Year's Party and had a blast. We see the best in our neighborhood and grateful to be here, and are having fun. Lots to do and enjoy. Too bad this neighbor misses out but that is his problem, not mine. I appreciate the rest of the neighbors and look for the best in what we have.

In my experience, many people THRIVE when they have problems. They also like to see how far they can go to be understood. They sometimes want you to think they are strong simply because they have been through "so much"! This kind of person is the same kind of person who you do everything to avoid because you don't want to be the "strong" person to hold them up. You can't change this person, however you can change how this person is around YOU. You didn't specify what you always say, but I am sure it is out of empathy, sympathy, and inviting them to share more to you. The best way to get out of this situation without hurting feelings or losing a friend would be to be honest. If you aren't the type of person to tell them what they are doing wrong, tell them you don't want to hear about that anymore. It may startle them at first that you are saying this to them. But they will find something else to say next time, just to avoid that awkward moment again.

Fix it and do something what they had done!