i miss my friend
By iluvusabado
@iluvusabado (2560)
Philippines
January 3, 2013 6:58am CST
she was one of my closest friends in high school. on the graduation day, she told me she would hit me if i would ignore her when we enter the university. we went to the same school.
in college, things changed. there are times when she would ignore me or just flash me a fake smile. when i joined this organization where she was one of the members of the screening committee for new members, i heard that she said i should not be accepted because i messed up in the interview.
i was just so shocked. of all people, i thought she would be the one defending me. i was really hurt because she was the only one who voted against me. i really don't know what happened. i'm sure i didn't do anything or say anything against her. i am in good terms with her friends.
i just miss my friend.
18 responses
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I also experience that and it is the worst feeling that someone closed to me very dear just ignored me one day without knowing whats behind that ignoring. I was coward before to confront him what's going on with him and I regret until now that I just let years passed by just to keep silence and ignore him also but those question stills left behind me.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
wow we really have the same situation.i also hate confrontations. i feel like i don't knwo how to start things if ever we would talk.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
4 Jan 13
A friend? I don't know the reason why. Let us see. Maybe she was just doing her responsibility as a members of committee. Sometimes its so difficult to guess if she hated you deep inside or maybe she is doing her responsibility as a member of committee.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
i would love to think that way. but it was kinda weird that if she really was objective, she would tell me honestly and though she voted against we, our friendship would never change. i would understand it.
@tshihmin2 (186)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 13
I am really sorry to hear that, friend. People really do change in a matter of time. Some will change quite fast and some will be very slow. It could be her emotion for that moment, she is like that. But, if you really like her, try to keep in touch with her more often. You got to put in more tolerance and patience on her. Soon enough, she will notice your good deeds, and she will be back to her old self. By the way, don't bang your hope too high or it can be lead to disappointment.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
maybe i'll just give her space until she realizes what happened between us. it's really awkward if i approach her and ask what happened?
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 13
It's really sad that she seems to so insecure she would sell you out and diminish her friendship with you for the sake of popularity at the university-- or whatever he motives are. Despite whatever her motives might be, there is never an excuse to treat a friend or anyone with such disrespect. I bet it is heartbreaking to experience her treating you this way. Again, I'm not sure why. I don't know if she is trying to be popular or wants to stay away from you, but whatever it is, there is no excuse for this poor behaviour of any person, let alone someone you used to call a friend.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
i was really hurt because i felt betrayed. especially when i didn't now hwat i did wrong.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
i really don't want to confront her because we've really lost communication. if i meet her, i don't know how to react.
@jiangchao (31)
• China
4 Jan 13
Hey,boy!From above ,i find you a sentimental man ,because you spare a lot of thoughts to his attitude towards you .As a man ,you should be like a man ,and never should you yield to anyone-of course ,this is not loftiness,this is very much about characteristics a person should possess .Therefore,just be yourself ,and invest much more time in something making you unrivaled and uncomoarable !
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
yes, i'm a very sentimental man. i'm sensitive and naive. she's my friend and we really have spent and shared a lot of times together. it's just so said that everything changes suddenly without you knowing why.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Jan 13
Maybe there was misunderstanding between you and your friend. If now reason she will make a change on your relationship as friend meaning you make her disappointed in a certain things that you didn't know. The best thing you can do is talk to her personally and ask why?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Jan 13
You really should try to talk to her and rekindle your friendship because you would never be able to forgive yourself if you were to wait too long.
You see, it was just over three years ago that I said goodbye to one of my closest friends forever. She passed away unexpectedly.
Now for me, it wasn't that we had a problem with each other, but I slept through the last time that she ever called us and I've still not been able to forgive myself for that. I really, really miss my Reesee.
@anil78650 (177)
• India
8 Jan 13
Hiii..... Ok she change so that means she wanted that.....there must two kind of situation she was having.... One may be she wanted to be change and second other wants her to be change..... Sometime persone do thing that he/she dont want to do but because of others he/she have to do it..... Like the friend circle she was havng may they want her to do this..... Or I think she dont want to be friend with you.... So no problem... Like a good frind just respect her decision..... And leave her alone...I know u miss her what could I say one day she will miss u too.... :)..... Cause u know its very hard to get a best friend by ur side :D ok buddy .......
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
That's sad. But people change, really. I had a very close friend in High School just like you. Both of us took up the same course from the same University. Although we were from different sections, I don't think it should hinder our friendship, right? We were inseparable during out senior year in High School. She just started to ignore me. And felt I look stupid smiling on her everytime I get to see her. I got tired, really. After so many years, I saw her in Facebook. My batchmates made an FB group and so I know she was also a member. She sent a friend request, but I did not accept it.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
28 Jan 13
That is sad. I find that as we grow friends come and friends go, some resurface while other fade into nothingness. Just like going from elementary to middle school, and then middle school to high school losing friends seems to be par for the course.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
actually i met more. there's this someone, my school mate in high school but we never were classmates. we just got together in college and we really became close. closer that my lost friend.
@echo060201 (540)
• China
3 Jan 13
I think if she is your true friend, she will be your friend forever, if she doesn't support you, then don't be upset, you just lose a friend who is only in word, not a true friend.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
well, if she thinks i don't deserve to be a member of the club, she could've told me face to face. well, i will still respect her decision since she's been a member before me.
@intelinsideyou (664)
• India
4 Jan 13
If she was the only one which voted against you then its really not your fault. I think she must be having some kind of misunderstanding about you. Otherwise why your best friend will do this with you. Its really surprising that close friend from your school times suddenly going against you. So according to you everything is fine between you and her in school time and the problem started at graduation. I wonder what happen at that time . You should call her and try to sort out the problems with her. As far as I think a simple conversation between you and her can really solve the problem and afterall I am sure you are not willing to loose your childhood friend.
@Archie0 (5652)
•
3 Jan 13
Sorry to hear that. But i believe we all meet someone or other in life to be apart. If you really love someone just set them free, doesn't matter what relation you have with them, if they really love you the same they will surely come back. For your friend what she has done, it is really confusing as to why she did that. I think for once you need to talk to your friend face to face to clear the doubt.
@siri26 (331)
• India
3 Jan 13
Sorry my friend. But there may be reason behind this. Try to know that. May be because of misunderstanding she did that. Communication is the best way to keep away misunderstandings and on the other way make you close to the people. Talk to her once. Everything will be fine.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
3 Jan 13
I can understand that you miss the friendship with her as well as miss her. Because you don't fully understand what happened, then there is no closure. Perhaps write her a letter or email and just express things from your point of view and that you don't want to hurt her in any means. Even if she doesn't respond, at least you have done what you could to mend the friendship. Then, you can move on.
@summer0614 (334)
• China
3 Jan 13
People are changing.I am so sorry for you.As time goes by,the close relationship between friends are fading away.We meet different people,make new friends and will forget our old friends gradually as well.So do not be so sad ,there are so many friends who are so nice to you,so just forget about him.
