Do you want to be known as a “nice person”?

I am not into any popularity contest kala. I believe in calling a spade a spade and therefore have few friends. People are fools if they only want to hear what they WANT to hear and not the truth. If the world is so wicked to day it is all because of this attitude. I have a cousin who is a real beauty but has been in and out of living relationships more often than she changes her clothes. She has an FB account and every one is seen there singing her praises about her looks. She has pictures of her clinging to yet another man in her life but every one is mum about it!

I am fortunate that people love and respect me now.Why,I don't know.I am not a man of arrogant nature.Although I don't budge even an inch from my principles no matter how much pressure is on me,but at the same time I remain careful not to hurt others.If I disagree with someone else,I express myself clearly,but politely.Fortunately people understand my point.They don't take me else.They think I am a nice person.

I always try to be as polite and helpful as I can, but I am not averse to adopting a stern manner if I feel that the circumstances require it. If someone chooses to interpret that in such a way that they consider me an ogre then that is their prerogative. Naturally we all prefer to be liked or popular, but I will not solicit popularity. I have been in a position of being in charge on several occasions and my usual attitude is that I have a responsibility towards the people who work for me. I have always strived to be as accommodating as I can, but obviously cannot allow people to take advantage of that. If someone had refused to do what is required then I have never had any reluctance in telling them that they either comply or face disciplinary action of some sort.

Hi Kala! It is great to see you start such an interesting discussion after a long gap . Back to the discussion - who does not want to be remembered as a nice person and of course that includes me. However, I have observed even if you try your level best you could not be 'nice' to each and everyone. Some people just push you to the wall and start taking your politeness, softness and humbleness for granted. They start thinking that they are smarter and more clever and could take other person for a ride. When you are pushed to extremes, one part of your mind starts warning you that your cool attitude is being exploited by the other person. In that case you become a bit harsh, rough and heartless and feel like paying back in the same coin. Also in such situations you feel like saying - "accept me as I am and I can not nice every time." Have a great day!

It's called confrontational. The older I get the more I try to avoid this. I have nothing to prove and I care much more about the negative energy that is caused by these actions then I do about defending myself against personal attacks. If this makes me appear weak well OK. My goals are to premote positive energy where ever I can and that is now my life's work.

Hello, kalav56! I was a nice person, the nicest you could ever imagine. Time and people have changed a lot. I have also changed a lot. I always ignore people asking for help especially those beggars on the streets. I am aware that most of them are used by syndicates. I am aware that I can never trust these people.

It is always nice to be a nice person. I try to be nice to everyone but some people don't appreciate my niceness and think that I am in for something. My mom's helper is one person that try to break my relationship with my mother. But mother being mother is always for their children and would not listen from others. I really don't understand why the maid is so angry with me when ever I am close to mom.

Hi kalav56, Yes I want to be known as a nice person, Why? it's because if other people will know that I am nice, they will definitely like me to be their friend. Have a nice day!

Dear Kalav Everyone wants to be nice and I am no exception. But then, everyone has an ego, and I have a little more. And again, everyone has some limits and I too have some for me. So definitely, I do not hesitate saying Take it or Leave it. But not being arrogant. I say that only when I feel that things are beyond my capacities of handling things or even beyond my capacities to deliver. I definitely say these words to not only others but also to me many a times.

When I was younger I mind and at times was affected by people's opinion about me but as aged I realized that you could never please everyone every time. Hence, now I just strive to abide with what I think, feel and do to be fair and proper without taking advantage or stepping over someone and don't mind if how would people assess me personally.

Hi Kala mam, how are you doing? It is difficult to show ourselves nice to most people mam. Only we have to show our true face and want to live like what we are. This would avoid many problems and also we could find the truthful persons to us. In my view if we try to pretend like good we have to keep it safe for the life long. When it is changed due to some occasions, people would speak behind us badly. It is wise to be nice to the people who are nice to us. Take Care.

Kala, i am kind always with helping tendency. Honestly my personality is not good which seems to be rough and tough, but my heart is very kind and interested in helping the needy persons as much as i can, not for the fame or name, but for my satisfaction

Of course I would like it. I want people know me for being nice and not a bad human being.But we cannot please everybody to see our good side always. Some still criticize our bad side and we are just human . Human is imperfect.

Of course i want to known as nice person. I dont know if i'm nice person or not but i'm try my best to help other people and make them happy.

My family and freinds know me as honey and up front. My kids don't always like to hear it but I am very honest with them. Oh ya!

I don't like shortcut communication. We should try to feel others emotion which may require long interaction. I can't find any wrong in it.

Wow Kala..you have come up with a great discussion... I am the one who is inclined to sidestep issues and often have a lot of mental agony at the end of the conversation or visit when I sidestep. I can take it for a while, but not forever. And in my mind ...what is irritating me starts encroaching upon my memory. I also become prejudicial in the process and start viewing everything that person does or doesnt do as bad...and deliberate. May be i am being harsh with me, but I am not a very forgiving person, not even with me. So one fine day, I do blow my top and the relationship is gone... So far though I feel the reasons behind those relationships going out of window were well justified. And as long as that is what I feel, I am quite ok with my side stepping routine, because I do not like to hurt others ...lets just say...they have to irritate me ten to 15 times and even during this ..I would be gently telling them by action or words that it is not appreciated...and when after this they dont get the message...I press the accelerator, and I am suddenly in the fourth gear without passing through second and third...which is what is bad about me..truly want to change...

Hi kalav56, I want people to know me as someone who always stood up for whatever she think is right. I have strong hold on my belief and I wouldn't compromise that just because I want other people to know me as someone who is nice.

I don't care whether people think I am nice or not. What other people think of me is none of my business. If I am happy with myself, then that is all that matters. I see no reason for me to be miserable to others and if that makes them think I am a nice person, so be it. If I want to do something I say yes. If I don't want to do it, I say no. What is the point of saying otherwise?

I wanted to be known as a good guy than being nice. I used to speak my mind, sometimes people would perceive indifferently or not. But I wanted to share my thoughts without inhibition, doing it in a professional way.