Her speech left her after the stroke
By dee777
@dee777 (1417)
South Africa
January 7, 2013 6:26am CST
She was the backbone of the community and was always there to help raising children, cook a pot of soup for the hungry, or help cleaning a house when someone was sick. Five years ago she had a stroke. She is bedridden and cannot speak anymore. She gets no visitors and NO ONE FROM HER CHURCH has been to her house the past five years. Her daughter takes care of her - ALONE...
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@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 13
that is so typical human nature , but i am sure occasionally someone may remember her and pay her a visit, apart from that ,i think ,the thought is there but somehow one nevers gets around to doing it, i am not being cruel when i say this, but when the word stroke is mentioned, especially among the aged ,most just assumed the worst after a few months, only the genuinely kind hearted and concerned will make any effort to go visit, the rest will just get on with their lives ,and forget, or pretend to not remember the situation of the church member, why dont you just casually mention it and jolt their conscience or remind those who genuinely never crossed their mind that there was once this nice church member who did a lot for the community, i am sure whether or not the intentions are for show or truly noble at least the poor lady will benefit in some way, a visit will do a lot of goodwill and perhaps ease the cynicism of many, her daughter to start with.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 13
dear me if she is aware of what is happening around her then it probably means that she can also feel the despair of her situation and can be made to feel cheer by simple gestures or approaches of concern although physically she may be restricted but emotionally she can still feel happiness and sadness, and no definitely not, her condition should not be a deterrent for visitation and make people feel ackward, if it is so , it is selfish isn't it, she is in a more pressing state than the feelings of normal healthy people who used to call her a sister in christ.something is not right with the picture portrayed in the situation. petty emotional or situational considerations ought to be brushed aside in the interests of a sister in need of cheering. she can even attend church services if there is a strong support structure in her church community coz although she may not show it. she is aware of it. meantime for the more spiritual and genuinely moved by her plight , can only pray for her well being.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
9 Jan 13
I have contacted her church and spoke to many of the members... to no avail. The stroke did not affect her brain - she understand everything that goes on around her.I wish you can see the life in her eyes! Her vocal cords are affected and then of course she is bound to the wheelchair as well. I think people are scared for they are not sure what to say to her... that is still not a reason to avoid her, hey.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
How could a community completely forget about her when she was so selfless when she was still strong?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I feel so bad for the old lady....I hope somebody would just remember about her. Isn't it possible to announce it after a mass/service about what happened to her so that the people will be aware about it?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Jan 13
That is so incredibly sad to hear that no one thinks of this woman any longer after she had fallen ill. I would think that if someone was in this kind of a situation that the community would be there to help support the woman that helped so many of them out when she herself was not well.
When my father was in a coma almost 18 years ago I was shocked to see how many people brought food to our family or tried to visit him in the hospital. He too was one of those people that was always doing what he could for other people.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
7 Jan 13
That is so sad, but here on earth love is so conditional. We expect any kind of return like if we love that person, we expect to love us. That is a real world. She's still not all alone because God is still with him and her daughter even though people are gone from her side.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
8 Jan 13
Yes. That is true. No one is an island. That is why those people who don't want to get married, well, they have still cats and dogs as their pet. I've seen some of them. Like me. I don't have a partner, but I have cat here at my house and that would be enough with me. Ha ha.
@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
That's too sad to hear, I know that life is hard to be sentimental when it comes like this. There are so many disheartening to realize that having good deeds; the people didn't pay time to visit her. On the other hand, I am sure some people will remember her and have the conscience to visit her.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
7 Jan 13
sorry to hear that.. Ive seen those things in people before. be glad she has so much left in life. God bless her there..
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
7 Jan 13
It is really very sad. She has three daughters and only one of them has given up her life to move in to take care of her. It is heartbreaking to see this lady. Her eyes are full of life, and I am sure that she has so much emotions that needs to get out, but not being able to utter a word, must be horrible!
