what do i do
By coolimrose
@coolimrose (539)
New Zealand
January 9, 2013 5:40pm CST
HI everyone. I have an issue here and I need help cause I just cannot cope with it. I live with my mother in law who is soon going to visit her daughter who lives in another city. Now my five year old is way too attached to her granny and knows that her granny is going away and is very disturbed. To add to this she(granny)keeps on telling my baby that she is going for 3 years though in reality she is going for only 2 weeks. All the time that old lady keeps saying it and my baby keeps on crying. I am getting fed up. Yesterday at dinner time too, the old woman said that I told my daughter that her granny is going and will never come back. And I reality whole day the old fool keeps on saying it. The same happened right now and I kept on calling my daughter to come to me but she is too interested in telling the old fool to stay. I then shouted and cursed the baby and all that. What I am doing is not right and I know it but I am so fed up and depressed. What should I do. please help
4 responses
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I do not understand the purpose of your mother in law to behave that way. If she really cares about your daughter, she would explain her the real situation so that the child would understand. I do not know why she has to do those things you've mentioned to make the child cry. I think that she is torturing the child for doing that. That is not funny at all. You should talk to your husband and explain what his mom is doing. That ain't right. She is acting like a kid.
@coolimrose (539)
• New Zealand
10 Jan 13
even now when my daughter was hungry o cooked quickly and when I was about to serve her granny started eating fruits and offering her and the little one too went for her granny. And I kept on asking her and she refused to even answer me.so I went away. now the old woman got up and is serving her food and is feeding her. Is she mad or I will soon turn one.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I think that you need to let your child know what is the whole truth about her granny. I am sure that if you tell your child about it your child will understand. What is the purpose of your mother in law to be saying that she'd be away for 3 years, anyway?
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
9 Jan 13
YOU are yelling at the wrong person. Your child is just a little child, only 5 years old and they don't understand. You need to tell the grandmother to STOP telling her that! Of course the little one is going to cry, what else did you expect? It's the grandmother you need to reprimand, not the little one.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I think you should talk to you mother in law and try to convince her to assure your daughter that she's coming back after 2 weeks. Also make some time to you daughter go out with her and create a new happy memories with you, in this case she can forget even for a while that her grandmother is leaving for a while. Yelling to your daughter will not the solution to you problem but bonding with her might help you to make her comfortable again and stop her from crying. Good luck and have a nice day!
