Women who have no self-respect and my ideal woman

No Madam you are not wrong, a real woman is who has respect of womanhood, this is what make her woman. Same is for Men, a real man don't disrespect real women, this is their manhood, this makes them Gentleman. A woman with no self respect, will not get any respect from real men either.

Hi Aja! Whatever qualities you expect in an ideal woman are up to the mark. Most of the guys would respect a woman who is aware of her self respect and self esteem. They would expect that a woman should have all the positive traits and she could be able to stand for herself. Having said that, it is important to realise that we all are human and every woman can not have all the qualities in her. Also, till you observe some below bench mark women, you can not appreciate above average women. I mean to say the value of a good person could only be gauged when you see a bad person. Another aspect is - those who are highly qualified or are very beautiful carry huge 'ego' with them. They give a damn to the person in front of them. Those who do not have enough qualification and/or financial standing/back up and resources at their disposal, sometimes tend to go with guys which are not worth them. You may call it compulsion. I mean to say that it will all depend upon person to person and situation to situation. No hard and fast rule could be laid. It is appreciable on your part that you want to be an ideal woman and you are vying for it, probably. All the best. Have a great day! "A man/woman is known by the company s/he keeps"

People are too judgmental and that's the main problem. I know a lot of respectable women and space is not enough to mention their names. Anyway, I don't mind people who judge other people easily (sometimes those kind of people are insecured)

Hello Aja, it has something to do with breeding or environment that they have grown to. some people did it because of lack of love and security from their own families, but the feeling is mutual, it's the same feeling that i have for my fellow men, they should have been showing more good example so that those who are good won't be judge. before i used to get offended silently when a girl would say that men are all the same, i didn't want to defend myself knowing that the person is going such a trouble.

If you read all the discussions over here you will find out that many people do not have self respect at all. Men and women. Men are cheaters, abusers, liars also. There are men who let themselves humilate, have a big lack of self esteem, don't care if their wife is paying for them at all, they are far of independent. How much self esteem, pride you have has to do with character but also the way you are raised. Not everybody does has the courage to fight against family, friends, the community they live in. Family, friends, the society, even the government tells you how a woman has to be. It is true that if you do not respect yourself, love yourself, pamper yourself, nobody else will do that for you. Especially not a man since most find it still normal the woman is not more as a servant and you can rape her anytime you like. As a husband, as a neighbour, as a father, an uncle, or as a community if she takes the bus. I don't want to be like that so I did fight against the whole community I once lived in and was kicked out. The world did not change after all these ages so my children do fight too against it. But we all have a lot of self esteem and are able to live alone. We don't need a man to take care of us, but also not a man to pay for and solve his problems or stroke his ego because he needs a strong wife behind him so he can be succesfull. We would never let a man be succesfull over our "body". If he can't do it alone he can stay a big loser. Since we have to do it alone as well. We live in a community where women are more worth as men. Since it's women who give life, not men.

During the old days, I do believe that religious symbols can be seen any where you go. It is normally in the places that are too religious. But now, things change and it is not likely being seen in public places.

It's a very idealistic notion and would only happen in a perfect world. Have you seen the movie Stepford Wives? This sort of thing could only happen if men were also perfect, then there would be perfect couples making perfect marriages and having perfect babies and raising them to be perfect people.

hi Aja yes I agree if we woman want men who respect us then we must first respect ourselves and act in such a way as to show we are strong, able to c are for ourselves, and that w e respcect others and respect ourselves too.I did mot marry til i was 31 because those whom i dated did not show real respect towards women and I refused to marry someone who did not respect himself or me either.

I like your definition of how a woman should be.I Would like you to add one more there and that is a woman who will never judge others.

I feel there are different reasons people act a certain way. Not all insecure and dependent women chose to be that way. We do not know what they have been through or how they were brought up. I do not think its good to assume things about people we do not know...