If you don't have anything nice to say... then don't say anything at all!

I also read that it is important to be positive in your thoughts, so that you benefit yourself and others also. I recently attended a workshop, titled "human values", in which they taught something which changed my thoughts from the negative to positive totally. They teach the, everybody in this world want the other person to be happy. Ask yourself, these four questions: a) Do I want to be happy? b) Am I always happy? c) Do I want to make others happy? d) Am I able to make others happy always? I am sure that the answers for the a) and c) is "Yes" and b) and d) is not always. So the conclusion is this that every person in this world want to be happy and want to make others happy. This realization makes me think positive about myself and the others also. So I prefer to say the nice things to others, because I have left no other choice for me. This is the reason behind my positive thinking.

Wow, that's hard to do in this day and age. Its a great rule to live by and an even better one to enforce. I tell my kids to speak kindly and every now and then they get off track and start a verbal war. It starts in the home and spreads to the streets if done right, the problem is that people think they have to get in their verbal jabs first and then will no doubt react to it. I try to keep my thoughts positive and creating an environment such as is very important if we want to change the way we speak to each other..

that right for me since i do appreciate a quiet environment when i am busy working even outside or inside my home. so i really speak less and in allow voice not too loud that it irritates the listener. so if everyone follow that saying maybe there would be harmony that thinking of intrigues which only destroy lives so better focus on the improvement or progress of thins we like to achieve than involving self in gossip and wasting a lot of time in matters which are not importance.

Yes, I agree with you. It would be the best if we use it to encourage more positive thinking. It does not mean we need to pretend to be nice I believe that we still can speak the truth but in a positive way. Sometimes if we do know how to say the truth in the right way we can turn it to be a wise advice to others.(^^)

It is right now not possible to keep my all thoughts positive but am looking forward toward keeping all my thoughts positive.You can manage very well to not to speak any thing negative out side with words but you some time can not stop thinking negative.

i feel like its good to say nice words to all. But to close ones, i feel like its better to say what all we are thinking. So that they can capture our mind and don't be fake to them. So that we don't regret later we could have said to them and close one will be always special to us.

In any possible manner yes, I want to think and speak positive thoughts. There are times that I think negatively but I tried to avoid thinking/doing so. I am a talkative person, but I know when to start talking and I know when to stop. I believe that if you have nothing to say "nice" better refrain from saying a word that you might regret in the end.

Yes of course. My only concern is what if for you is a positive words but for those people who hear it, for them is a negative? It is so hard to know whether what we say is a nice thing to say to someone or not because it is also depends of whom you are talking to.

I learned that saying during my training. It's actually part of the Christian song. It's a fact if you got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything. When you practise that, you will not hurt anyone. The fact is we people can be very hard to do it especially when we are angry of someone. You know right, sometimes, once we are in anger, we somehow just lash it out and speak whatever comes in our thoughts.

It's sometimes hard not to open my mouth, I have to admit... but even if I say bad words, it isn't because I'm just feeling like criticising people, but when they have bad manners or annoy me personally so much with bad behavior. But I know how I'd feel if someone hurt me by words, and it's really awful, so I try to be as positive as possible.

I agree, it is better to keep our mouth shut whenever we feel not right against other people. Though we can still give suggestions or constructive criticisms not to hurt their feelings. But it will not always the case, people have different personalities and different approach in interacting with individuals.