Are you emotionally self-sufficient?

It is very difficult to be self sufficient because in order to have everything, we must depend on others. Similarly, in order to control our emotions, we need at least 4 to 5 persons in life. Becoming emotionally self sufficient is next to impossible in this world. We need some one who will be there to guide us and show us how to proceed in life.

I have always thought my first born is a loner. But I have never thought of him as "emotionally self-sufficient". While it might not seem to be any problems, especially to his teachers, I'd really like to see him socially interacting more with others.

I am sort of inbetween. I like to be alone sometimes, and I like to be with people. Somethings I can handle by myself, but others, I cannot. I would hate to depend only on myself emotionally because there are times when I make mistakes by doing so. Often I think that I am rather cold-hearted, but when I talk to others and to my friends, they say it is all in my head. So there is a problem thinking you are that way, because most of the time you are not.

Theres a saying "a leapord cannot change its spots" Which means some people can adapt for a while but keeping up a false face is not an easy thing to do.I don't mind if I spend a bit of time on my own,but there comes a time when I need company.All my friends are the same they like to come for a tea or a bit of lunch.It is not healty to spend to much time alone.I always discuss my dilemas with my friends to see what they think.I like to think my friends can come to me to talk about their problems,it is just nice to hear someone else's opinion and maybe take their advise.I have had my friends for years and we know each other well so we can always say what we think.I would never dish out advise to someone I don't know very well.Mainly because every person will react differently to certain situations.We like to go for walks and enjoy a laugh as well it is not always serious but when it is we are there for one another.Sometimes it is just nice to talk and someone to listen.You do meet alsorts of people some are serious ,some are mean,some are good fun.It is wrong to try to change someone it is up to that person to change themselves.Some people do seem full of confidence and don't appear to need anyone.Talking for myself I need other people but sometimes a bit of solitude is good as well.

hi there spicymary, what you have written truly educates me. as i have learned a lot from this short post. i guess, i should give it a try to transform in this sense, especially now that i want to change my ways. perhaps, it is about time to do it and thinking to start it as early as now.

based on your description... I am a self sufficient. I can be alone, can spend time with friends. I don't talk at home because I am just alone. Though I talk through the internet with friends and family. This is so me, what you have described Ouchies... (They can be seen as cold, strange, non-adaptable, insensitive.) However I am hot (LOL not cold), and can adapt to the situation. I hope I am not insensitive and strange though because these traits I wouldn't know if I am as no one told me yet.

Emotional outburst is not an answer to any of the problems that set in. It is always advisable to remain calm and peaceful and rise up to the occasion in a bold and brave manner. Getting emotional is suited only for the feeble minded with little experiences in life. Keeping cool and avoiding emotional uproar are traits of good personality.

It looks like me. I don't make relationship as the center of my universe. I recover easily because I don't want to stay too long for being sad, stress and being depressed. I don't want to be approved by others. In fact, I don't authorize a person. I can stand on my own. For me, what I think is right and good, I just do it, but I don't want to be admired, he he he... but I like it too. Just a little bit, wa ha ha... deep inside, I want to be appreciated by other people. I want someone who would understand me as me. I learn to be alone and I used to be alone. I sometimes ask for company but I rarely do that. Most of the time, I am alone and I used not to have a company, but for me, money is not for having fun. Money is for me a survival. Money is doing for your loved ones like surviving for food. In my outside appearance, I am not that approachable. I am not that friendly because I don't easily trust a person, but once they know all about me, I will be a good and loyal to a friend.

I can't say that I am, but who knows? I personally think that being emotionally self-sufficient is good. Someone who is too extrovert will not be able to concentrate on things if there aren't enough people, while on the other hand, someone who is too introvert won't be able to concentrate given that there are a lot of people near him/her. Being able to balance having time for yourself and having time devoted to your friends and family is something that I think most of us strive for, other than work. That is why I strive to be more emotionally self-sufficient, that way nothing will be as life-changing, and tragic events will be easier to recover... :/

I am emotionally stable to face the reality. The way of knowing what is right or wrong is enough to be self-sufficient, taking note that it should not be in personal gain. We need also to consider the welfare of other people for not being selfish and be guided with clear conscience.

i think emotionally sufficient people are not as cold and insensitive as what they had seem to be. emotionally sufficient person have also some weaknesses. they are just any other normal person. but what makes their personality quite different from others is they know how to handle their emotions and they know how to hide their feeling from others. they usually want to make everything look normal even if its really not. they are just showing that they have strong personality.

I am emotionally self sufficient in the sense that I accept all my positive and negative qualities and keep improving myself for the better. This kind of emotional self sufficiency can make one peaceful with oneself, which is a good thing. I do need company, atmosphere and money to have fun and do good things to others though :)

I spend a lot of time by myself and have no problem, but I do enjoy the company of others. I'm not reliant of them, but I do like to talk and laugh and just have fun.

I feel like you are restraining a lot to be like this. I feel like why are we thinking like this. Enjoy what you do. And love all the people around. I feel like you have not met a person with whom you cannot live without. Thats my take