Do you think things through before you say anything?

if you refer to mylot, depends on the discussion. If the discussion is interesting and something educational (I mean people will read and learn from it) I think thoroughly and explain profoundly. if the discussion is about health since I am not a doctor but had experience it or saw someone had experience it personally I share and I put links so it will not be coming from me. Though I can cite some instances based on my experiences or observations. If it is not so interesting I just answer. Mylot gives me time to think and research on the topics. if it is saying as in saying. Depends on the situation. sometimes, i just speak my mind, if it calls for it (which happen most of the time). It is entirely different from knowing the background already before facing the person personally and meeting the person personally and facing the situation at hand. If I knew the background already, before facing the person, I can think of the words to say and weigh if the words that will be coming from my mouth will be "digestible" to the person's thoughts and being. LOL. digestible.. hmmm.. or in other words.. i can think of appropriate and diplomatic words to say to the person. if it is spontaneous i can answer the questions to whatever words that come out to my brain and deliver by my mouth. Two sides of the coin... sometimes I do it good, sometimes I don't. have a great day.

It depends. If it's about something that I'm familiar with, I usually have a fairly quick answer. If it's something else, I try to take my time and think about it more. One good thing about using the internet is that I can think things over and no one knows how long it takes!

It depends on the situation. If someone needs a serious answer and desperately need a good advice, of course I think of all the positive thoughts before speaking. I love to talk and I love to laugh, but I am serious when it comes to important matters.

Hello ZoeJoy, Most of the time you really have to think of something that would prevent others from misinterpreting your words. there are some things that I've said in the past that has caught a different meaning to others, hence offended because others would have a misunderstanding. i don't want to answer quick just think it through so that it wouldn't offend the person. people say the truth hurts, well the same kind of message will be given to the next person.

I can usually think on my feet but I don't choose to do this. I have many people in my family who just say whatever they are thinking and it tends to hurt many people they speak to. I choose to think about what I say to avoid making a fool out of myself and others...

It depends on the conversation, but usually I come up with a pretty good response right off the bat. My family is pretty good with words.

My problem is, with my friends, by the time I have analyzed the question, it is nearly always too late to offer my opinion. That is why I like MyLot.

I don't know anyone who thinks about what they will say all the time before they say it. I don't most times so i usually end up saying the wrong thing. Tho i do think about what i will say sometimes which is good but i need to do it more often. Yes i think when we think of what to say before we say it we give a deeper answer and more thought to it.

For the most part I try to think things hrough before saying anything to give more meaning and discretion to the situation at hand. If I say things in anger and haste too much is lost . Thinking things through really does help with any problems and should be considered.

I think I'm getting better at answering questions everyday. I used to take a lot of time to concentrate and produce an answer which I'll never regret. But nowadays it's getting easier for me to bring my philosophy into practice and produce answers that I'll always be proud of. A lot of the credit goes to mylot for making me capable of producing appropriate answers. In my opinion being able to think quickly yet, giving a profound and confident answer is very important as life's too short and special events never come again and we shouldn't miss opportunities.

I admit, I'm reactive to anything at times, to the extent of getting into heated arguments. Most specially if I hear something that make things negative. I immediately make swift comments or reply, not thinking of the consequence of that deed. But, I think, that is a thing of the past for me, I'm getting used to mature way of thinking. Nice discussion. Thanks

Hi, it is always good to think before saying or doing anything. I always thing before doing anything. But I am straight forward type of person. So sometimes I say something without thinking and hurt others feelings. But now I am trying to change my attitude. I feel very sorry when I recognize my mistake. But we can not take back our words. So we should use words carefully.

as much as possible i try to think a lot of times before saying or doing anything. i don't wanna hurt people and i want to do the right thing. but most of the time, it just slips out of my tongue.

Me, I have to think first before I can say something because I don't like to be impulsive. I might say something wrong or not good to others if I say right away I am not that good like others who can say things impromptu .

I think that it's best to think things through before you say them because it seems like that is how my daughter keeps getting hurt. Her friends say things in anger that hurt her and of course she forgives but she doesn't forget and it just keeps hurting her. I try to think things through but everyone knows that you can get so mad that things slip out that you wouldn't normally say but I have never had close friends like my daughter so it didn't hurt me so bad when they walked away. I also find that when things just slip out in anger it's normally true. How you feel, what's going on things like that. Even when they're said when you're upset they seem to be true.

Hi there ZoeJoy, With regard to your post, there are times, I can easily think of a best response to every questions that I encounter. Although, there are moments that I need to think it deeply as it requires a much complex response. Aside from that, I want to make sure that I used the right term and subtle words as I don't want to sound too proud with my answer. However, it doesn't matter sometimes, on how careful you are when delivering the words, as there are some people who are prone to adopt a misunderstanding. And we cannot really avoid it except if we have the long rope of patience.

I think I should think more than I do. In informal conversations among friends I usually speak spontaneously without too much thought. Sometimes I wish I had not opened my mouth if I have said something unkind which, happily, does not happen very often. My quick to respond nature is also basically a a kind one and I have always been very upset if a throw away remark hits someone unexpectedly. People who stop to consider before they say anything are regarded with a little suspicion - why the carefullness, have they something to hide? Since most of us do not measure every word we speak then those who do seem guiet or shy or else by the time they have an opinion to utter the conversation has moved on.

I try to.. dont want someone to mis understand things.,

This is perhaps one of the biggest problem with me that I don't think before I speak and this lands me in undesirable situations most of the times. Sometimes it leads to breaking of some relations.

I try to edit myself and think before I speak. I don't like to be "that person" who simply says any and everything. I know that works for some people, but I'd rather not take my chances. When I do have the chance to think, I can comfortably come up with something to say. On my feet, I could use a little work. I do rather poorly in debates and arguments, always thinking of a better point when things are over and done. I really like to think about questions first, because it gives me a chance to dig deep and give that good answer. I'm the kind of lady who likes to decide and weigh her options. Sometimes, that luxury isn't always available.