My brother has failed his exam

@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
January 15, 2013 11:26pm CST
Today I received the news that my brother has failed one of his exams. He tries to divide his time among school, work and his family (he has a one-year-old child) but it is hard for him to find enough time to study for his exams. It would help if he gave up his job, but his wife's salary wouldn't be enough to pay the bills, so he needs to work and study at the same time. I also worked when I was a student, but my ex-boyfriend and I didn't have any children so it was easier for us to find time for both work and studies. Are any of you in the same situation as my brother? Do you have to find time for both work, studies and your child/children?
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@Manasha (2755)
• Pondicherry, India
16 Jan 13
Ask him to work hard in order to achieve success. Only hard work gives success
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
16 Jan 13
I believe that he can succeed in the future. He failed one of his exams, but he will get the chance to take the same the exam again and hopefully he is going to pass next time if he works hard and studies a lot.
• India
16 Jan 13
Hi porcospino. I was just wondering why is he studying after getting married and also having children. I would never do that. Doing some professional short term course is another thing. I think it is his wife should come out and take the burden out of him on raising the children. And he should concentrate more on studies if it is so important. There has to be a trade off. You can not have them all. Have a nice day ... SuperShames
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
16 Jan 13
My brother has chosen to study now because he didn't take an education when he was younger. He has had many different kinds of jobs, but he is tired of the jobs that he can get without an education and he wants to study now because that will give him the chance to get a better job when he finish his education. It is not easy for him to study today where he has a family to take care of, but I understand that he wants to study and hopefully he can get a better job in the future instead of the low-paying jobs that he has had in the past. I hope that we will manage to pass his exams with the help from his wife.
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• India
18 Jan 13
Hi porcospino. Well formal education is in fact very important. I am very glad that your brother is still willing to learn. As I said earlier his wife will play a crucial role in his success. As they say " Behind the success of every successful man, there is a woman" Have a nice day !!
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
2 Feb 13
Hello Porcospino three weeks ago I knew that my daughter has failed her math exam. I got very sad, because is the first time she fails an exam. She was willing to go to a party, but I scolded her about her behavior. We as family are facing financial problems, so she has to work and study but her math exam was for a 10 year old girl and she is 14. It wasn´t a hard exam, she didn´t make the effort to succed. I talked seriously with her, and I think she understood my anguish about her future. Your brother must succeed, he can´t quit his job, nor his studies. Each time life will be harder and harder. I think this is the best moment to finish his studies. Blessings Porcospino... dainy
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
16 Jan 13
Sorry to hear that. I know it must have been hard for him. But maybe he needs some more support from his family during the time when he has to take the exam? Like his wife would make more effort to see to their kid for longer hours while he studies. Maybe he can also request for a few days' off from his work to prepare for his exam. Time management is key, you're right, but before you can manage it, you have to set your priorities first. That way, you can divide your time accordingly.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
16 Jan 13
Yes, it was a disappointment for him that he didn't pass and I understand that. His child has been ill and she has been crying a lot which made it hard for him to focus on his studies and he got interrupted all the time. I think that it would be a good idea if his wife took care of the child while he studied or maybe he could study at the library instead of his home where there isn't very quiet. He has a really busy life since he has to work and study at the same time and and also wants to spend time with his family. I hope that he will manage to pass his exams and finish his education because it is very important to him.
@Shavkat (139942)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
When I graduated from College, I started to work. Then I enrolled to graduate school and I must say it is so difficult to manage the time. But I endure the chances and finally things pay off. I understand that it would be hard for your brother, since he has a family to look after while studying.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
17 Jan 13
I also worked during my studies and sometimes it was hard to manage everything at the same time, but my ex-boyfriend and I needed the money from my work so I couldn't just quit and focus on my studies. Sometimes was too tired to study when I returned from work, but I forced myself to to study and like in your case I would say that things finally paid off. My brother is trying to divide his time among both work, studies and his family and that makes it even harder to manage everything, but he is determined to finish his education and I hope that he will pass his exam next time.
• China
16 Jan 13
To be honest,even he has enough time except working and looking after his child,he would get tired and don't have too much energy to study.Not to mention if he is busy with the troublesome work in the daytime.He may be exhausted and not feel like doing anything then.I suggest that if he wants to take that exam again,he should have more rest and try to study more efficiently.For example,he try to search from the internet about that kind of exam and see if there is any short-cut or good advice on how to review it and then make a plan first.And his wife has to share some responsibility of taking care of the family or doing the housework so that he has more time to study.And he needs to repeat it frequently so that it is not easy for him to forget the knowledge he learnt.Best wishes to him and hope everything goes well with him. Have a nice day.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
17 Jan 13
Thank you He is determined to take the exam again, and I think that you are right, he needs more time to rest and he must find a way to study more effiently. It was been hard for him to study for his exam because he was too busy with other things and his daughter has been ill so she has been crying a lot which made it hard for him to focus on his studies. His wife finished her edcuation a long time ago, but my brother didn't take an education when he was young and he wants to take an education now so that he will be able to find a better job in the future.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 13
Porco, how are you? long time no news from you. Recently, my Outlook had crashed and i had loss a few thousands of emails. please re-send your email, so i can reply to it. Waiting to receive pictures of your lovely holidays from you. One of my brother in-laws ever studied and took exams for his Master's degree while his children ages 8 - 12 was staying with him. Although it is quite tough since his wife is working. He tried his best to prolonged the studies and managed to get passes for all his exams. He is lucky that his parents in-law are staying nearby so helping out in taking care of them. Hope your brother able to find time to re-study and re-sit for those fail exams. Having a better qualifications during this moment is really important. Because it equals to better pay in return. hope to hear from you soon again...
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@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
16 Jan 13
Failure teaches one's a good lesson and success spoils one. So ask your brother to keep on trying as this failure will teach him something and make him more strong.
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@Shavkat (139942)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
When I graduated from College, I started to work. Then I enrolled to graduate school and I must say it is so difficult to manage the time. But I endure the chances and finally things pay off. I understand that it would be hard for your brother, since he has a family to look after while studying.
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• China
24 Jan 13
wow! your brother is so great,you know,it's unimaginable to raise his family while study at school at the same period in China,send my well-wishing to your brother
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@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 13
since your brother has a willingness to study, he should not to give up to retake the subject(s) again. A fail in exam is not a barrier to get graduation. Instead, a failure in exam can be a great teacher for us in our future. I've ever failed in some subjects when I was in college. But it didn't make me stopped. I had to retake the subjects and learn more about the subjects while it can make me more master in those subjects.