Listening a weakness

Listening is a gift and a skill. There more talkers than listeners. Many People love to be listened than to listen. What is frustrating is that when a listener talk , few only will listen

how can be listening to be a weakness? ahhh you mean that there is no two-way hi way of communications between you and the people whom you have listened to? I am not interpreting here, just clarifying. Do you expect something in return when you do something good to people? I think if you expect something in return from what you did will really give you heart ache if you will not receive it. and I am sure since that you are such a generous person even if you say that this is now a weakness if a person close to you ask for listening ear you will not just give an ear but both your ears. It is innate in you. One day, along your journey in life you will meet someone that will listen to you too. For now, if you don't have any, well no one can do anything about that even you. unless you will express your dismay..to one of the people beside you and say "I need someone to listen to me now, can you listen to me, too?"

You can't really generalize that there are many people who wants to have good listener instead of adviser because it depends on the case to case basis. There are times that people just want to have someone to talk with and listen to their rants, so there are instances that if you are going to give unsolicited advises no matter it is right or wrong then the result can be the same as offensive because it is like you are contradicting or sounds you are arguing with them already so be careful with that. There are people who are not in the proper place for them to give advises more so they are not credible. How can you be a good adviser if you are not a good listener. Then you must be a good listener first but you have to analyze the thought, situation or a problem before giving advises and make sure the person who is talking with is willing to listen to your advises and take it from you yourself. If a person is asking for advises then that is the proper time or you are already in the proper position for you to give the advises but make sure it won't be sound offensive to the extent that you just want to look good or great about yourself. NEVER NEVER NEVER DO THAT! Be thankful for a person who talk with you regarding their weaknesses or problems because it is how they show their trust for you. Just like in my case I don't trust my cousin anymore to talk in matured manner and the situation it is because she is not a good listener and she doesn't even know how to talk. She is fond of talking too much that she thought she is sensible but the truth is it was just a crap. That is the reason why I am starting not to like her anymore because all she wants is to argue and she is becoming over acting to us. To think that our family helped them with their needs especially when her mother is dying.

i love to listen to any story especially when it is interesting. but, there are also times that i don't listen anymore especially when it's already redundant. in that case, i just pretend that i am listening, i know it is rude but i just can't listen anymore. :) i love giving advice especially to the things i could relate to.

It's good to be a listener, that means people believe you or sometime they need to be listen. That means, we can learn from other people experience or their life, how they deal with their problem and etc. I am a good listener too until today, but only 1 or 2 people want to be my listener. It's ok for me. the benefit to be a listener is learn more than talk more. good luck !

To listen is to learn but with limited topic. That is only to what he is discussing. But to open topic is to discuss on issues you knew a little and you want to gather ideas for more knowledge.

Sometimes listening to people about the down side of their lives are tough. I am good listener but I can't stand and dwell with their weaknesses. Instead, I used to cheer them up and find ways to boost their confidence.

I understand what you are saying. I do offer encouraging words and advise. If they don't listen to my advise, well, that is up to them. I felt I said what I had to say and now, it is their responsibility. The ball is now in their court. I just don't like to take in complaints without at least a word of encouragement. At least it uplifts me if someone says a word of hope and encouragement, even if it has to be me who says it. All the best to you.

For different reason, I am usually a listner. By listening to others, I can know what others are thinking, which is also what I am always curious about. After listening to others, I learn from them. For example, I might know something new, or I might obtain more social skills, or I would learn how to be a better self. It is fun to listen to others. Compare to me, you really have a kind heart. It seems like you had burdened other's sadness. I also thinkg giving advice is a good way to deal with the problem you memtioned. Moreover, providing a way to solve problems improves our thought process and earn more friendship.