A Complete Family

Your daughter is very lucky to have a family like yours. And she's even luckier that you, her mom, gives her time to answer the questions that she have. I'm sure that you're also glad that your daughter will come to you for answers instead of anybody else. It only means that you have established an open line of communication with her, and that she would ask you and believe you more than anyone else. I agree with you, at such a young age, kids are very vulnerable to even the slightest spat between their parents.

That's good that she now appreciates what she has. That's the one thing we have enstilled in our children, appreciate and be grateful for everything you get and have...Its a very important thing for everyone to learn.

A big help to every family a close communication. Some parents forgot to talk to their kids specially family matters. I admire the parents who are close to each other. I want my family to be closed and open to all matters except those intended only for me and my wife.

As time goes on, she will get to learn more and experience different aspects of life. Your only task is to support and guide her on this. Be there for her on her ups and down. That's the best way you can give to your children, as they grow and become adult in the future..

I am always careful about asking my mom about her marriage with my mother. I think that is a relationship reserved for the both of them but it does greatly affect us, the children. After all, it's the parents who decide on constructing a family and anything that happens between the two of them will certainly affect us as well(whether we like it or not). Sometimes, it's hard to get a say in a marriage of your partners but it is a reserved relationship. Actually, I just leanred of how my father and motehr got married last year because of a remark I said. I said. Although it wasn't the type of romantic novels, it's pretty good stuff for a couple past their 25 years.

You have a close knitted family and that is great. Your daughter feel secure and can therefore freely speak to you about her concerns. She is learning from you and also understands that life can sometimes be very hard.

It depends on each person what problems consider them big and I am glad that your daughter realized that. There is no perfect here on earth. Some rich envy the poor because their problem is about "emotions" and "feeling empty" because they have everything but they lack on something while some poor envy the rich because their problem is about "money" and "feeling abused for not having money on their pocket". They lack money and they didn't have everything, but when it comes to "emotions", they are "sufficient" and "stable" because family supports and they are all complete.

I'm sad to hear of your classmates problems as well. It is good that she is able to appreciate that she less severe problems than others. I'm sure she will start to understand that there are more important factors than always getting what we want. We have to provide for our needs. I agree that success in other ways does not compensate for failure in the home. Many people do not realize this until it is to late.

It's good indeed to hear that your daughter her eyes are openened. But it's not said that every child growing up with a single parent is someone you have to feel pity with or is pathetic of full of problems. The way children do grow up has nothing to do with having 1 parent or 2. It has to do with the attitude of the parents. There are very rich single parents and poor ones. There are parents (2) who both work and are rich and never spend some time with their children. Having a complete family doesn't mean you are a lucky person if your father is never home, a violent guy, your parents are not interested or work day and night or are just interested in each other. Getting everyting you want is also not great if you never see your parents and they don't spend any quality time with you. There are so much people and so much different families. Raising children can be difficult but it's not more difficult for a single parent as it is for a "complete" family. Sorry to say but I can't say I know many complete families who are that great. Also in many cases the woman is doing all the work incl. the raising/taking care of the children. This besides of the fact that problems can be made also... problems who don't really exist and have way more to do with the attitude of children who find it normal to ask and get (no matter what) instead of saving themselves for it (which should be a part of the raising as well) or adults who make problems already out of things that are not a problem at all yet. My children seldom ask for something. They never say other children have way more or get more as they get. They are happy with every small gift no matter if it's brandnew or used. This has to do with the way you raise your children, with their character and the fact they have plenty of self esteem. None of them feels the need to get stuff to be accepted to a certain clique. They don't care about that. They are who they are and most of the time they are very happy.

That is wonderful wherein you and your daughter have good communication. Communication is a must to have a better relationship in a family.

that's so nice of your daughter to understand what important things she has in her life.its good to make kids realise material things are not everything,having a loving united family is so important ,good health and life ,we tend to forget to talk to our kids about the things they take for granted.

I like your last sentence: Any success cannot compensate a failure inside the home. It is so true. The family is the building block for society. If the building blocks crumble, then so does society. All the riches in the world can not make up for a dysfunctional family. It is good that your daughter and you are able to have deep and meaningful conversations. What is important is a good mother/daughter relationship but so is a good father/daughter relationship. She is looking up to both you and your husband. My husband and I are still married and even though we didn't have a lot of money, we were able to provide a loving and stable home and family for our children. More important than education is a loving family. Which is what you and your husband are able to provide for your two children. Perhaps, she will be able to influence her friends at school and they can see how valuable is a loving and stable home is - and therefore, will not want to repeat a broken family when they grow up. Many Blessings to you and your family.

I think its good that you daughter now know that she have a better family than the other, and your daughter feel lucky to have that. I think your daughter will appreciate everything she have now. She won't spoiled when her request can not be met. Just teach your daughter what she have now to share with her friend like love in family.

So wonderful you can have deep conversation with your daughter. I believe that love is the best education. Here in south China it's popular for parents to send their children to learn some skills, like English playing piano dancing etc, no base on children's interesting but just because they think it' useful for them. I would prefer to let me son stay with me or my husband rather than other people. Now my husband and me spend a lot of time palying with him. This is the best gift we can give.

You must be very proud that you have been able to give her something that is far more important that material things. And you must also be proud that you have raised a child that can apreciate that. How old is she?

Good to know that she learned and realizes many things at her age. Some kids (even adults) complained/whines a lot of things without thinking how other people suffer more than they are. That is why, maturity is not all about age. I admire kids who thinks and acts mature than their age. Those kids who understand and knows how to appreciate their life, their family and have contentment from simple things that they have.

Good to hear she realizes this, I remember thinking this in school. All my friends parents were divorced, or non existant. It really shows in a child, with their personality, work ethic, and just their view on a family.