How do I handle with parents' improper restrictions?

almost all people go through a situation similar to yours one way or the other. bottomline is, as long as you are living under your parent's roof, you don't have a lot of options to choose from. however, you can do a few things which would give you a higher chance in bargaining for your decisions. Here are a few: - get outstanding grades - make mature decisions in life - be reasonable when you bargain with them - show them that you can make the right choices - get a steady and well-paying job - do not give them a reason to NOT trust you and your decisions here's a little example, watching TV. if you spend half a day watching MTV then good luck. instead, watch the History or Discovery channel for a few minutes, watch 2 minutes of CNN or NBC, then turn off the TV. tomorrow, watch a few minutes of your favorite TV show then study. this way, you have shown your parents that you are a mature individual who makes the right decisions. another example, whenever you go out with friends, tell your parents where you are going exactly and what time you will be home. make sure you do get home at the time you said you will be. do this for at least a year and I tell you, soon enough your parents will let you decide for yourself. if all else fails, move out of the house BUT make sure that you can support yourself in the right way. oh yeah, this also depends on which part of the world you live in. If you are in a conservative Muslim country, you are basically screwed.

Sometimes parents tend to over react when it comes to rules. There is a time that i think that a child or teen should alreadt choose how they would like their hair style. Of course it would have to be normal hair styles, if it was to do something exagerated then i would understand but in your case i dont get it. You say that your parents say you will look more mature, i think that is because they are trying to see if you dont start getting to mature to do something they wouldnt want you to do. I feel sorry that you can only see the news, i would hate that too, especially because i love tv series and cant live without them. Parents that are this overprotected often dont notice that after a while their child is, in most cases, going to hold a grudge or are going to start getting out of control. I mean it has been told that the more you forbid the more you want. Your parents must gave their reasons although i dont see what reasons they wouldnt let you see what you want on tv or even going out and having some fun. Studying too much also leads to crazy. There was a man where i live, he had 4 diferent kinds of school degrees, he was wealthy and healthy but he study so much that he stressed out completely and went crazy. He stopped working, he looked like a homeless man and also acted like one. But he had a house and had what he wanted. His brain simply just blew a fuse from so much stress.

Yes, it is depressing to have a parent like yours. It is pointless to discuss further on stubborn people like that , they always have ridiculous reasons to make you upset, they like to treat you like their property instead of like their daughter. May be you need to get away from them for good and live like an adult by earning your own living without depend on these two old crappy human being anymore.

Hello there Sarah! I hear you and we share the same sentiments. I am a mother of three kids already and still, my parents in a way or another restricts me. We don't live in the same house but they always call me over the phone two or three times a day. We can never be adults to our parents eyes I guess. In the eyes of a parent, we are still their little child. I know the feeling because I feel the same way with my kids too. I mean, there are times that I think they can't do certain things though they are already in their teens like today, he is going to take his entrance exam in a university that is miles away from here. I guess you just have to don't argue much with your parents as long a s you stay with them. It is like they have almost full control of you since you are still living with them. Goodluck in your studies and I wish you the best. Happy Lottings!

If you are 24 years old you should be in your own home and be able to make your own decisions. Even my girls have some say in what they do with their hair, what they watch, and things they do in school, with us looking out for them along they way.

Parents are there to love us, protect us and guide us as we grow older, they give us good advices that they think really good for us but sometimes if you don't feel good about it you can always say and discuss it with them without arguing. Use your charm over your parents and let them understand that their baby is now a lady who owns a good life because of her parents but it doesn't mean they will rule your life, explain to them that time has come for you to decide for yourself ask them to let you make your own decision so that they can see if they brought you up really good...

I suspect we live with different cultures??? I have 4 daughters and except for when they were little,it never occured to me to dictate to them how to dress or wear their hair. They are all grown now and all very different from each other. I respect all of their individual choices. Are you still living at home? Maybe that is the reason that they feel they have the right to tell you how to wear your hair?? I think the key is to be independent and on your own and then they can't tell you what to do

Maybe you could visit a wig store or something and try on a long wig to see how you will look with long hair. Then you can decide from there if you want to grow your own hair out. There are also sites online which allow you to upload a picture and try different hair styles. As for your parents, I agree with what the others have said about being an adult. I also wonder about their stated reasoning for keeping your hair short. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think there must be more to it and its not because you won't look pretty. You should ask them their true reason if there is one.

If your already old and mature, you must decide on what you looks or what you wear not your parents decision. Because your the one who decide what is the best for you not any body else...

You said 24 years, which means you are adult and mature enough to make your own decisions. Of course, there are cultures where parents say "As long as you live under my roof, you will live by my rules", which obviously applies for your parents. You are old enough to live on your own and if you want to be free from these restrictions, I suppose this can be a good decision. Besides, you are old enough to get a job so that you can move on and be on your own. You have already discussed this issues with them and you weren't successful, so moviung out can be a solution. Unless they lock you in your room and don't let you move out for good?

With 24 you are an adult already since 6 years! Still living and listening to your parents? I think that there is no way you will win this since you still behave like a little child. If your life is important to you, it's you who have to change. Might be it's even time to move out and show/prove you are able to take care of yourself.

I had the same issue with my folks, and so I moved out. I went to work abroad even just to be so far away from them as possible because I know I have let them have their way with me way too long. It isn't easy, but at least I didn't lose my love and respect for them. I figure, it is much better for all of us that I am loving them from afar than for us to be all together and getting into each others' nerves. Good luck, and talk to your parents. There's nothing that cannot be resolved with a mature conversation.

If you are 24 years old, you can move out of your parents' home. Once you have your own place and totally responsible for yourself, then, no matter what your parents say, they have no power over you. You are an adult and legally, they can't do anything to you. You can only change your parents attitude when they see that you are being independent and responsible without living in their home. Why are you upset? Just tell them, 'Thank you very much for giving me a good and wonderful childhood but I am an adult now. I will make the decisions for my life now.' And then, make your own decisions, stand on your own two feet. Don't understand why you are still living at home at 24 years old. If you are still living at home, yes, you will have to adhere to their rules. It is their house and they have the right to set their own house rules. BUT, you are legal age, you can move out anytime. Get a job, go to school part time. Get your own independence. You will not be able to change your parents, BUT you can change YOU!!!

Most of the parent are very protective to their children and too much of it, is not good just what you experienced. You are now at your age to decide what you want with your life. The things is you are caught in the middle of a very strict parents. The first move is to do things at your best and show them that your responsible enough to take care for yourself. In selecting a hair style, dress to wear whatsoever, the third party looking and observing is the best judge. All these depend with finality to what you follow. We, as human always by nature want to be free and be with anything of what we feel comfortable for us to move and currently I observed most of female at your age want to enjoy of what style is on the go..

So sorry for how you feel. Surely at your age you can decide for yourself what you od with your life and how you wear clothes and your hair. Hope you feel better for at least posting your thoughts on mylot, you will find many frieds here to help you through your problems/highs and lows

I understand that it's really annoying to have your parents tell you what you can and what you cannot do. You are an adult and they should trust you to have a good judgment, as they raised you to be a fine young women. My personal opinion is that they might have a background that they did not share with you, or maybe a certain belief beside "ugly". Maybe you can try and discuss it with them. If there is no understanding from their side, maybe you can say politely that this is your decision and they can do nothing to change. I understand that you depend on them to keep you in the house while finishing your studies, so you might not want to upset them. And yet, maybe they will receive that you listen to them in most cases, but your hair is your decision. Nice, polite but firm decisions might help you. If not, then move out as soon as possible and do what your heart wants.

if you are still living under your parents roof..Then you should abide by their rules. at 24 you can move out and get your own place. then you can live by your own rules.

Id tell them you are old enough to make those choices on your own. Good luck with them...

Still there are such Parents who go to traditional customs and modes of aesthetics. If I were you, I would never mind what they are talking about. It’s not that I am rebellious or so, it’s just that I believe I am in the legal age wherein I know what I want to do with myself. And no one has the right to judge or to take over the decisions I am making over my life. Just be yourself, they will have nothing to do if you will do what hairstyles you want to do with your hair. Since they don’t own you. I for one experience such same situation wherein my Parents disagree on my decision on having my ears pierced. But they don’t have any choice but to accept it because it did pierced my ears and never listen to them because I know that I am doing something that satisfies my decision in life, and in the long run, they just can’t help but to accept the fact that I had my ears pierced.

If you are 24 years old you have the right to style your hair any way you want. I mean if you are living with them, they could make that a condition for you living with them if you aren't paying rent. I've heard of parents not wanting their daughters to cut their hair short, but never them insisting on keeping it short. If you are 24 and they don't want you to look mature, then at what age do they think it's acceptable? This is just silly to me. If I were you I would desperately try and find a new place to live, or just refuse to have it cut and hope they don't kick you out!