Is old ways much better to discipline your child?

i remember the way my parents disciplined me. my mother would say hurtful things to my face and she would even paddle me, that's kinda funny and shameful but it's okay for me because i learn things and because of that i grew up well-disciplined, as far as i know. as for my father, though he is a soldier, he had never paddled, hit or spank me or even said hurtful things to me but he is more strict to my brothers. i remember when he would box them and hit them with whatever he's holding, that sounds like abuse but for me it is just fine because my brothers grew up as good young men.

I don't know where you got that information about the US but there is no law saying you can't spank your child. There is a lot of people in the US that don't believe in spanking as form of discipline but it's not consider child abuse yet. Yes hitting a child is abuse I do agree with that but the letter of the law says nothing about spanking at all yet and it probably won't change. I was spank as a child and I learn to do things better like get way with things with out my parents finding out. It didn't stop me from being bad at all. In a lot of case spanking can lead to a child having issue with parents and more behavior problems then not being spanked. I deal with my kids but giving them time out it works not a lot of people think so but it's about the fallow throw when you say something you need to mean it when your talking to a child. No way as a parent is it ever perfect and it doesn't always work for some child. I believe spanking (hitting) a child leads them doing the same to there child as well as teaching a child it's okay to hit someone when you are mad at them or when they do something wrong which is abuse. Now if you spank your child other then your hand it can be consider as abuse depending on where you live in the US.

In my point of view, the way of disciplining your child has no standard. I mean, a parent should base it on how the child is. We know that e ery kid is different from the other. And so, one kud can actually just be told by a parent, while another child needs to be given a little more than just a talk.

Yeh, this just is different countries have different culture, including the style of education. Now, in Chinese spanking children are less and less. In my opinion, I don't like this old way like spanking. But I think disciplining chidren is necessary most time. As you said, sometimes children just understand one thing.

Well I have also noticed that nowadays kids do not know how to respect their elders,but I don't think the spank is the good way to discipline your child,and as a people from Asia I don't see that spank kids is a popular discipline,and I think that the best way is try to let your kids to understand the moral and ethics of our society.

innovtion and evolution is the key. Violence is not the key.

In the past both the teachers and the parents in my country were allowed to spank students and children, today both things are illegal. When I was a child it was not illegal to spank your children and my father spanked me when he wanted to punish me. Today I would break the law if I did the same thing, but I wouldn't have done it if even if it wasn't illegal. I think that it affected me mentally and it affected my relationship to my father. I don't want that to happen to my own child. Some people say: "I was spanked as a child and it didn't hurt me so I don't think it is wrong to spank my own children" I don't feel that way at all. I was spanked as a child and that is main reason why I would never do it.

I live in Canada, spanking is not against the law but frowned upon. I don't think spanking is as horrible as people make it out to be in general, as long as it is reasonable and not excessive. I personally don't really spank my children for the most part because I find it does not work. I find talking and reasoning has normally worked better. As well we teach or children not to hit others but hit them to discipline, sometimes seems counter productive. Again I'm not against spanking per say, just don't find it is an effective disciplinary tool.

When I was a child I used to get spanked but not very often because when I was Ii child I would never be spanked for the same thing twice plus it was more of my grandmother that like to spank my mom was much cooler when it came to discipline. I think that spanking can work and is not a bad form of discipline if used correctly but I myself when I have kids will try as hard as possible to refrain from spanking. I don't see any thing wrong with a small tap on the hand form time to time when talking and other forms of discipline don't work. The way I see just like any thing else in this world spanking is fine until it reaches a certain point, if every time you raise your hand to reach for something or for whatever reason your child flinches then there is a serious problem going on. Also spanking a child while angry or with out telling them why they are being spanked helps no one because sure a spanking hurts but if it becomes a regular thing the human body is able to build up resistance to pain and eventually you will have one of those kids that become part of the 10%or worse( by the way most of the people that go to jail once in their lives go for really minimal things like stupid college mistakes or overdue tickets nothing major)

I do no think that spanking children is necessary for disciplining them .I myself am an Indian and do not remember ever being slapped by mom or dad .In school we had to open our hands and the class teacher would hit the palm with the ruler for talking in class ,but now Ithink this much punishment is necessary to inculcae discipline in the students .The child as it grows up always tries to follows the elders ,if our behavior as parents is disciplined before them thentheir will be no need to spank them.We were a large family of seven brothers and sisters we all knew that we have to obey our parents and elders ,if mom said no choclates then it was a strict no no ,even if Ihad the money to buy them .

Long time before, the parents discipline their children in a military way. Though it is mot acceptable anymore here in our country. If you do any punishments that is not acceptable, the social worker sectors will intervene.