is virginity a big deal?
@valorieesquilona (442)
Philippines
January 20, 2013 8:53pm CST
it's been a taboo in the society especially in the catholic countries just like the philippines where i am located. why is it that when it is being talked about in a group, some people would think that you are bad girls or you are not pure anymore? is it bad if you are just being open-minded? Sometimes, if other people would know that you are still a virgin, they would tell you that you have a boring life, you are pathetic, ignorant, innocent and "kill joy"? I cannot understand other people, they are confusing. If you are being nice they would tell you that you are fake but when you are being vocal and true to yourself they would tell you that you have a bad attitude.
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15 responses
@mbzzbd (31)
• China
2 Mar 13
this problem you have a very,very good answer,just like you said"you get what you want to get,you become what you want to become adn you see things the wany you want to see and understand it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so no one can question how you interpret things around you.In the world where differences and binary opposites exist,no opinion is wrong"
I like these words very much,and I think you must be a very smart and kind Philippine girls!
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
thank you for appreciating my answer to a discussion! thanks a lot really.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
Some people just want to look for things/abilities that a certain person hasn't. And these kind of people just like controversies.
@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 13
Well I don't judge those who aren't virgins anymore. That's how they roll. But for me it is important to keep it for the right man. Not necessarily my husband but definitely someone whom I love and who deserves it.
As for pleasing other people it's a lifelong pursuit which leads to nowhere. You cannot please everyone. I've finally learned it after a long time of trying to please every single one. Please yourself instead.
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
People tend to judge a lot so it doesn't really matter anymore. What's important is how a person looks at herself after losing it. Other people's opinion doesn't matter especially if they too are being hypocrite about it. It's the culture in this country that women must feel different after losing it. But it's a different era now and all depends on what morals or culture that person is believing.
@arjun2492 (16)
• India
21 Jan 13
This is a good post.We among friends have discussed about virginity a lot.Most of has different opinion on this issue.I personally doesn't give much importance to it.After all a person cannot be judged just on the basis of virginity.But most of the people I've talked to give a lot of importance to it.Most of them prefer a partner who is virgin till marriage.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
21 Jan 13
Well firstly of all,people no need to care about others judgement and just be yourself,and I think it is very silly that some girl lost their virginity just because others tell her that she is pathetic or boring or something,no need to care about this kind of judgement.
But I still think that girls should give their virginity to their best lover and future husband,and though now it is the taboo to discuss this problem,but I surely confirm that if your husband find out you still a virgin in the wedding date then he must care you more.
@Shavkat (139827)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Can we question our own culture? Would you like to review the bible doctrines? Can we change the moral norms that was passed from one generation to another? These are only a few questions that need to ponder for people who are in the umbrella of being a Catholic. Nowadays, transition is now starting to evolve to a new lifestyle. Being pure is a gift and can never be questioned. But it happens, it is inevitable to lose the sacredness of this.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
So true.. people always say negative.. but who cares on what they say.. as long as you live your life without stepping anyone go on and have fun.. life is short to worry on what will others look and say to you.. anyways about virginity.. before I really treasure it a lot but as i became mature in life.. for me virginity doesn't matter at all as long as you value your self and you respect yourself and most of all you love yourself you will never regret giving up virginity even if it doesn' twork with your partner..
@mikemontez (357)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
It depends on a person. i think boys and girls have different opinion for that. for me its a big deal because its measure the cleanliness of a person maybe for boys its okay, how about for girls? if a girl says she a virgin what first comes on you mind? (Shes clean)
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Don't what bother of what they say, pay attention as to who you really are, your priorities in life. To be true is usually not a guarantee to be good it depends on the occasions. Some say not all the times what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong you must know the right timing, for me I prepare for the truth.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Jan 13
You are you, always. V or no-V will not change anything. The man who truly loves you will love and appreciate all that you've gone through as well. It's just what you've experienced that makes you better, and you'll not be the beautiful fine lady today without any of the things happened in the past.
So learn to be fine with the past. Have gratitude in your heart and you will harvest a fruitful life.
@Sparta72s (60)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Its okay to lose your virginity after your married. Woman have been r4ped, they do or don't report it and to deal with it and make it okay they have more s^x. Woman have been sold into pr0stitution and they stay in pr0stitution when they have been released by their pimp. S^x is great, but to say it us fun is stupid as I have fun doing nothing at all.
