does online relationship and dating work?
@valorieesquilona (442)
Philippines
January 20, 2013 9:03pm CST
i have heard stories from some of my friends who are fond of chatting with people from different countries and joining dating sites. according to them, some men on dating sites whom they chat with are not into serious relationships and just having fun and the worst thing that i have found out is that, some guys are showing their private parts through the webcam and they force girls to show theirs too. hearing this kind of situation is disgusting and disappointing and i cannot understand why other people do this kind of what they called "pastime".
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20 responses
@michaellxz (26)
• China
21 Jan 13
i think just a little people like showing their private parts through the webcam,maybe they have some psychological problems.if you meet somebody like doing that, don't talk to them again,never let them affect your mood.most of people on internet are friendly and respectable.god bless you.
@Admin1993 (628)
• India
21 Jan 13
Your's is a very good Idea.
I thought online dating sides are scam as they charge fees to continue.
But now it's 50/50,i first thought it's a scam but now it stated that they are also sharing their privite things online through webcam.Haha..Totally funny.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Feb 13
The internet is just a more-interactive telephone, a device for (among other things) finding your mate and arranging to meet them at Gospel Celebration Fellowship--NW 45th & Military--sometime from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. on Saturday
@WildHorses (718)
• United States
6 Feb 13
The only difference between face to face and online is the anonymity until people start sharing pictures and as you said private thing lol .. I've had my romance online and it transitioned into real life once we started talking on the phone. It's something I will never regret.
@Newyorker06 (79)
• United States
21 Jan 13
As soon as I read the title of this post it reminded me of the show Catfish on MTV. It is basically about this guy who was in an online relationship himself and he is going around the United States helping people that are in online relationships meet each other. It is sad to say that most of the time the one of the persons in the relationship is not the person that they say that they are. As for the dating sight and people showing certain body parts to there people I think that when you get on a place like that you have to go in fully aware that there are going to be people like that and just avoid them and stick to people that actually want to have conversations.
@Bella128 (2471)
• United States
17 Nov 15
Just remember no one can force you to do anything. If someone is trying to show you something you don't want to see just turn the webcam program off and block them! Don't show things you don't want to show either. That's the nice thing about talking to people online, it's easy to block them.
@khithi17 (762)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
If it's lust before love then it is really disgusting. Getting someone to like you because you are showing some skin is inappropriate in my opinion. Let a person like you for who you are not for what you look like or whatever else you are showing. Private parts should be private until you are married.
@nini89 (670)
• India
21 Jan 13
Even I have heard like this types of gossips are shared through internet webcams. The youngsters does not understand what they are doing with their life. Some guys are serious about their life and with the chat they get into relationship with their friends but some are the great failures and just do for their fun. I suggest that as far as dating and chatting is worst they are playing with their life. They should not go beyond once dignity, be in a line of control till friend.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
hi there valorieesquilona,
i guess to some this online dating and relationship do works. perhaps, they are bound to meet through this way. and they have just to use this medium to meet and get along. though i am not pretty sure if this really works for everybody. honestly speaking, there are times that i do want to try it but i am quite afraid to bear the consequence.
@gelomon (286)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
i think this is the one of the current state of relationships now that come from internet things. finding your love in the internet is a great thing because you can somehow see that even distances that you have cant make relationships impossible. this thing is a thing that some people don't take seriously but this is a great thing though i have not have one yet :D
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
21 Jan 13
Wow yes and actually this kind of phenomenon is very popular in our society,and there are so many guys joint this kind of sites aim to find some girl for "ONS",so I think you should get away from this kind of websites,but I just do not understand,why still there are so many girls will swallow the bait?
@littleloraine (12)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
because some people are really disgusting..lol..they are so liberate especially on the net.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
I had been into this kind of relationship and it lasted for 6 months.
We've been into cam to cam chats and even when he was still courting me, I told him I am not into those sore of intimate talks and I guess that's the reason why we reached 6 months because I was believing we were working out even without it.
When we ended, I am just not sure if the reason is because we don't do "it". hahaha :)
But kidding aside, i just feel respect when a guy doesn't ask me to do that for him. Or i may even feel real love when he won't ask me to do that and yet the relationship goes on.
Online relationship didn't work for me, but it may have work for others. good for them :)
@xocolatedrool (414)
• India
21 Jan 13
Why shouldn't online dating work? Offline dating also has its risks and dangers.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
21 Jan 13
This has been going on for so long now that some fraud adult dating sites now take advantage of it. I really love to read stories online on how many people ended up giving away their credit card numbers to them. When their money is stolen they cannot even fight against it because of the fear of losing reputation in public.
Recent studies done on it in Europe revealed that those who are actually serious about dating online are either divorced or in their 30s and 40s.
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
21 Jan 13
Chatting online to know knew persons from all around the world has got its risk, that's true. There are people who abuse the intimity they believe to have. That's for, honest people who use this way to know new ones to make new friends or even more have to be carefull. But, I never would let someone force me to show anything.
In 2000, I also knew people through chats and had the oportunity to meet some of them and thanks to this pastime I met the person who nowadays is my husband.
The chat is a (still unusual) way to stay in touch with your friends and a way to make new ones since technology started. By this way, you may find friends in all over the world and learn from their country, culture, way of life, change experience, photos, beliefs and so on. It can be very interesting if you know how. Of course, you have to protect your PC and yourself being aware of those who only wants to misuse internet.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
21 Jan 13
To some people, online dating works. To others, long distance and online relationships isn't for them. It isn't for everyone. It's just like a "conventional" relationship, only both parties must exert extra effort on communication and creativity to keep it going. It is also more challenging as far as trust is concerned since the couple are not physically present to demonstrate their love for one another. I should know, because my husband and I used to be in a long distance relationship although we didn't meet online; most of our courtship though happened online because we work in different countries then. (By the way, I am also a Filipina married to a western guy). It is tough but it is up to the couple on how far their love can go.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
21 Jan 13
well there is nothing wrong with on line relationship.. i never heard of on line dating though. i heard some sites orchestrating the meeting but not really online date.. Ohh i wouldn't want that. I will not receive real flowers and chocolate and will not be able to wear formal dress and make up on. hahhaha just kidding, but definitely that is weird on line dating.
Anyway, on your discussion no one can really tell anyone of what to show or not. I have made this clear to the people I have met on line. I delete and ignore men asking me to show my privates he doesn't mean clean friendship so goodbye. I mean no one can really be forced if the other person doesn't like it too. it is both the choice of the woman to show her privates. If she doesn't like, she can just turn off the cam or shut down the computer.
I have a lot of male friends on line from different countries, but neither of one of them is involve with me romantically... We just chat and talk things out, we even talk about intimate topics for we consider ourselves adults. I have these friends around 3 to 5 years now, for I stopped going to chat sites already. until now we chat everyday.