Real Friends for brother/ sisterhood: Do we need to join fraternity or sorority?

I never joined any fraternities when I was in college and my two boys who are in college now have not joined either. I think is a complete waste of time and some of those people engage in risky business.

Hello. Just like you, I finished college without joining this too. As well as my other 3 siblings :) Our parents didn't want us too join. Even if these organizations promote brotherhood/sisterhood and providing help, our parents insisted not to join and that us (their children) should rely on our parents. :) They said can anyone provide help more than parents can? For me, it's good if these organizations had served good purpose to other people, but I can also say that being someone who don't have this org still makes me normal :) Cheers Shav, I'm with you.hehe!

I have not joined any sororities, and i was never tempted to seek refuge and to seek companions with such a group. because i had friends and i relied on myself primarily for my studies, and all. But if these organizations or brotherhood and sisterhoods are good influences, i would not hinder anyone who wants to join - they are there as support group and it must not be taken as something that would only promote violence. I know some who are members of such and they have quite a bit of a connection, in almost all fields - they can just ask for assistance and they would get it.

Even during my high school years, I knew that some of my classmates joined this kind of group. But I never had an interest on this one. I believe hat I an do things by myself without the help of anybody. Although I already change the way I look at things, I am still glad that I had that kind of thinking before.

Hi friend, what is brotherhood? is it a social service team? for the first time i am hearing about this. As you mentioned that lot of bad news are circulating about this thing, better to keep distance from it

I never believed in those groups, most I knew were just a bunch of students who wanted to party. They really didnt use the groups like they should. Take care there.

Exactly! I agree with you. You can always find good friends if you yourself is good enough to be called a friend. There is no need to join fraternity or sorority just to find friends. The fact is you are most likely putting your life in danger if you do. How many have been killed during initiation rites? How then can we say that frats are for friendship if they go to the point of killing? So it is a big foolishness to join frats and sororities if only to find good friends. I never joined such kind of organization but I have so many good friends in my life. The key is indeed being a good to others and once they see your goodness, they'd befriend you and will return your goodness. I remember when I was in college, a classmate would go to the class with her hands all bruised and those bruises she got from initiation. I could not believe she allowed that brutality to happen to her all because she wants to pass the initiation to be a bonafide member of that sorority. She was even inviting me to join with her but I turned down her invitation with this words, "I am not stupid."

Good day Shavkat, Honestly I have never experienced joining a sorority in class as my father was so strict when I was in college. All he wants me to do is to give a full concentration on my studies. Aside from that, he does not want me to join any other groups that concerns with this or else he will cut down my allowance. So I just made a choice and that is to give a full attention on my studies and never joined any group as I don't want to disobey my father in this regard.

We have the same views with this. If these fraternities and sororities didn't involve themselves with bad things, I might have joined them coz it could be my way of being exposed to different kind of people. But knowing that joining such would be harboring danger, then I'd rather stick to my small circle of friends.

I don't think you need to but then again some of these groups will help you get a job later in life, which could be a blessing in today's economy of ups and downs.

I think those who join such a group wants an acceptance, and need that want and needing to be in a group or acceptance.

The truth is being a good neighbour, you can be a good all rounder.Brotherhood could become cult,and there is chance of you being carried away by eccentric ideas of a clever spokes person.So when you big a good neighbour,you can love and tolerate anybody who needs your care.He could be your fellow traveler,fellow worker or anybody who is near you and needs your help.

Hi everyone! I'm now in college and I joined a fraternity. I did not regret joining because I can say the members really consider their co-members as sisters/brothers for life. They help me in times of need and I enjoy our activities. Since this is a lifetime membership, I can see that our alumni who were already employed are helping our newly-graduate members find their job. Besides, this is a legal/recognized fraternity in our school that is why I am very confident and happy that I joined this group. I think we can join a fraternity/sorority but let's do some research before joining. Let's see their Constitution-and-by-laws as well as its mission and vision before joining it.

Hi! For me i think brotherhood is great, but before joining it you must research it, know what they do, if its all good then join, fraternities and sororities has perks some is really enjoyable to join if you know what they do in their clans.

I dont see the needs for those kinda group . They are not here in the Caribbean but they try to make similar things but I dont care much for them . I will be going to an international college this year but I will not take part in those , I also believe that its kinda putting ourselves in danger by being apart of them .

I was glad I never had to deal with the pressure of entering a sorority back in college just to keep up. It wasn't as big a deal in the university I went to. I think in the Western part of the world it is.

Hello Shavkat, Every one has their choices in life, some believe it's good to join the brotherhood, others are blinded to believe it's all good to join the fraternity. the truth is that "this is not for every one" research on this first like every member of this group says. be prepared for the better or worst. but some frats are not mature and violent, victims are usually fooled by this or simply because they wanted to be part of something or beign part of a family. not every one gets lucky and this generation of fraternities aren't as good as the other.

Hi I dont think we have any such groups here. What is the requirement of there groups? is this useful for any?

for me, i have never experiencing joining the fraternity or sorority when i was in college life, though my classmates before was encouraging me to join because its good. said.. but i dont want to harm my self and i dont want to get hurt.coz i saw them has burst on their legs and they cant walk normal with that. why would i join them if my family can protect. and beside i am not entering school for that groups. and my family sent me to school so i can know more and more knowledgeable in school. my family want me to focus my study and can graduate with no hassle. thank you .

Your a strong girl at that time, you managed to stand alone and be on your feet. For me, most of the people joining the fraternity/ brotherhood are weak. They are the people who can't stand alone. Most of them believed the power of unit, derived from the prashed, In unity there is strength. These people usually are the trouble some in the School compound. To let everybody knows of their present they make some actions sometimes good and usually the other way around. Other joint as training ground for their leadership abilities, these people are usually the organizer. Well congrats for being strong.