Your opinion turns wrong about a person you meet.
By Raj
@rajendraingale (289)
Estado De Mexico, Mexico
January 22, 2013 5:57am CST
hello friends,
Has it ever happened with you that you meet a person for the first time and without even knowing him properly you start giving your opinion about him.No sooner you realize that how wrong you were about that person and how different he is.
How do you cope up to the situation when you meet that person later,do you change the way you speak with him/her,try to be more friendly or if he/she turns out to be a bad person do you completely stop talking with him/her..
Your comments pls..
Raj
4 responses
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
22 Jan 13
I have been in a situation like that before but I was the one being judge. The first impression when people see me is that I am of the bad boy type and I am smart. I remember when I transferred to another school. All the hype and popular kids wanted me into their groups. In my country hype students are the one who usually does business subjects. So everybody thought, I am a hype dude, I am bad, I am rude and I do business subjects. It happens to me really often.
But as soon as class official started people saw that I wasn't in their business classes. SOme thought I was skipping classes but the truth was that I was in sciences classes. I am interested in becoming a doctor, not a business man. So people impression on me change dramatically, some stopped communicating with me and stuff. But it was life, it wasn't going to force to talk to anyone.
Exam time came and I topped the whole school academically. Everybody was astonished that I was so bright, passed all my subjects with the highest grade on each subject. That is me. Now you have people starting to treat me good again because they want help with this or with that. I feel like I am being used sometimes, I help out when I can but I wont waste my time on people who only talk to me when they need help with something. I am not like that and I will never be.
happy mylotting.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
25 Jan 13
Sorry I took so long to respond. Didn't receive the notification in my email for some strange reason. Any how almost all of my close friends actually also misjudge me. Like some of them were telling me something similar to the rest of kids but the only difference was that. My friends thought i did business and they wished i did science so we could socialize cause i looked interesting. SO basically their wishes came through. I am so close to my friends.
I do separate people who treat me bad from those who treat me good though. And if any of them really need help, I would try to stop doing anything I am doing for the one who cares but for the ones who don't, I might only help when I am absolutely free. Some people might think I am strange that I would actually help them but I am that type of person to help.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Jan 13
I understand how you felt, I had also been misjudged by some of my friends before they got to know me better, I know this because they told me themselves when we were already good friends.They thought I was snob and stiff nicked, I just laughed at it, but I told them I can't stop anybody who likes to make assumptions about me. I don't like to waste my time thinking about those people, if that's what they like to do then I think I'm better off without them. I want my friends to be my friends because they know me, not just because they heard this and that about me from someone. Or because they think they can benefit from being friends with me.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
23 Jan 13
@ renhard,
That's indeed one should be always,not to change for someone and never try to be who you are not,that's an injustice with yourself and with the friends you are trying to make.And also there is a different feeling when people judge you for what you are not and later when they realize how wrong they were,then they start treating you in a different way.The thing will create a space in your mind about a person who misjudged you and somewhere you will keep that in your conscious.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Jan 13
I usually hide what I thought towards other people, but if I'm given the chance to make amends I try to be nice the next time and take time to get to know him/her better. If the person has undesirable attitudes, I often avoid them though I don't do it abruptly.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
23 Jan 13
hello friend,
That's really a nice way to tune in with new people.but does it make you feel a bit awkward when you interact with them later,or may be a hesitation.? Because some of them are really what you thought about them and they some how try to talk to you for no reason and you want to but can't ignore them.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Jan 13
Yes, it does feel awkward a little bit, but it's only me who feels it since they don't really know that I misjudged them, that's the advantage of hiding my thought. There are some people that talks to me whom I don't really like to talk to but I try to be polite as much as I could and avoid to prolong the conversation at the same time.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Such situation is quite hard to comprehend because you are torn between acting decent or acting a little bit strange because you know some dirty secrets over the personality of that person.
However, if I am stuck on such situation, I would still keep the communication over that person but I will also keep in mind that the person I am mingling with is not trust worthy, so I rather keep a low information that I will be sharing with him/her. At the same time, though I am communicating with him/her by some time I will try to slowly transition on keeping my distance to him/her so that I will refrain myself on be friending a bad person.
@simpleliving3251120 (498)
• Manahawkin, New Jersey
15 Feb 16
I totally agree. It is good to give somebody a chance before you form a strong opinion about them.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
16 Feb 16
Thank you for your comment Amy,
Yes, It´s very important to know the person very well before making an opinion about them. A little misjudgment changes everything and then a good relations turns into nothing.
