Do You Get Tired Of Being The Listener?

Geeeeeezzzz!!! Trust me, I get tired.....because most times they don't even take the advice you give them, then come back crying about the same situation over and over. But you know that sad thing about it, we just can't stop listening because we have already gotten in too deep. Until they fins someone else to tell their story from start, then I guess all we could do is........................sit and listen...sadly

Good day AussieGal13, With reference to your query, I never been tired to do the role of being a listener to my friends though there are times that I need to pause for a while. And I guess, this is just a usual thing to do for a person to be recharge again with positive energy. Hence, being a listener will make you exhausted, not physically but your inner being since you are somehow absorbing some negative thoughts if there is a problem being discussed to you. In either way, if you are listening to some happy thoughts, then, it will also make you exhausted, since you are somehow get excited from the story that you are hearing. So in either way, you need to be recharge again by taking a pause for a while.

I am tired of listening the problems of my friends. No other person they trust to tell their problems and secrets. I am better known Councillor to them. If they cannot reach me personally they are calling me even late at night. That's my task to this world and I am lucky that many people trust me. I don't want to destroy their trust to me.

I like listening, and most of the time I don't really expect anything back. But I can get fed up, when I need some reassurance, and I want a shoulder to cry on, some of the people don't even listen to me or start changing the subjects. Well, some of us humans are really selfish. But I have some really good friends who wouldn't act like that, fortunately.

We as listeners will always encounter this. I don't know why someone who we have helped will suddenly feel we aren't, any more. All we can do is listen, when we feel we can. If our minds are too consumed anyway our listening does no good because we can't offer our response as help. It will just lend them more to deal with because our response isn't top notch.

I am a good listener to good things only. However, I am unable to be a good listener to people who go on and on about nonsenses all the time. Some people talk just because they feel like it and think that some us are forced to listen to what they have to say even if what they are saying is not at all interesting. I am also not selfish, but sometimes certain people force you to be because of the way they do things.

Hey, I have known some people to always have something wrong with them and even though I like helping people out, it got a bit tiring to see them but always have to talk things out. It was a mood killer. It's hard to say that you can't talk right now because some people take offense to that.

i never get tired of being the listener. it is how we learn he most about other people. it shows our compassion and understaningd our oncern for the feelings of others.

I do not have problems listening to people who may want to open up with their problems with me. I am very much willing to give a helping hand to a friend.

It depends on the personality of speaker and subject of speaker, how he/she is delivering. I also depends how much pain he/she has taken to deliver the speech or power point presentation. Have a nice day.

Yes, being a listener can be very tiresome. The people with the problems will pour out their feeling and can talk for hours. Then, there we are just sitting there throughout the hours listening to the person problems until aching. But, let's look on the positive side. You are actually doing a good deed by helping the person to feel relieve. The person needs someone to be a listener and that's all.

There is such a term called compassion fatigue, it happens when you empathize with people a lot and their problems are affecting you and are having negative effects on you as well. It is the result of listening to too many of other peoples problems and you involve yourself and you feel for them too. When this happens, you tend to not care as much, it's not because you're a bad person but because caring pretty much becomes "exhausting". I think you need to vent out your feelings as well. We're not perfect, we get bad days as well, were just human and we need to be listened to as much as other people need to talk. It wasn't fair that your friend assumed that you didn't care, otherwise if you really didn't care, you wouldn't be with her in the first place. Give it time, mylot is a good start. :)

It is really terrible to hear someone's problems and suggesting and suggesting.It is intolerable thing one can do. i am also a good listener. Friends always tell their problems to me but same time i too have lots of tensions, pain inside me. But to share with them i don't feel comfortable. Only i can do is suggest. sometime i feel just end all the things and run from the place.

Hi AussieGal13, I always enjoyed listening, I've never got tired of being the listener. I'm not sure why, but it brings me joy and the satisfaction of being able to hear someone's rant, and at the end of the day, making them feel better as they poured their hearts out, problems, difficulties, what ever obstacles or troubles etc. I have my own problems as well, in fact lot, however I don't really share much with others. I keep them to myself, but at least with all these problems and troubles that I have, I'll be able to put myself in the shoes of others. In a way, it helps to keep me going, as I know I'm not the only one with problems. And I might find some answers to my own problems along the way. If you need to rant, I wouldn't mind listening. ;)

it is tiring sometimes. Im more of a listener type in fact but i love hearing stories -- good ones, not problems. I give people a chance to vent their problems on me but i dont like listening to it most of the times. Whenever i feel sad or problematic, i also let people listen to me whenever i can no longer keep it to myself. I just let them listen and i dont take responses -- then i feel ok after i let it all out. Its nice when u let it out sometimes but dont bombard other people with problems.

For the most part I have to say that I've never had an issue with being a listener as opposed to being a talker. There are some times that it does get tedious because the person is always rehashing the same things and they are never there for you when you need them to be able to talk to them. That said, I do find that there are times that it is very valuable to be the listener because you are able to learn far more by listening than you are ever able to learn by being the talker.

I know how you feel. I try my best to be that good friend and I listen to their troubles when they really need someone to be there for them. But I also get problems of my own. I do not exactly expect the to return the same courtesy, I mean if they will then I will be so thankful. But just like you, I've had those that gets mad at me for even having a problem myself. It's just not fair.

Sometimes I get tired of listening specially with the dramas. I just couldn't stop myself from helping my friends, most of the time it's the only way I could support them even if sometimes it's too much because the problem is just the same again and again but they wouldn't listen to some good advices.

I was attending an art/crafts class. The teacher is a very good artist but she also has personal problems. There are not very many people who attend her class and now, I know why. She just wants to share with others all her personal problems. I listened and listened but there came a point that I just couldn't attend her classes, just to listen to her problems. So, I figured out a way to 'bow out graciously' which is I told her that I now have a part-time job (which is true) and that although this part-time home business has flexible hours, I will be too busy to attend her classes on a regular basis. So, we agreed that I would come when I can, even if it just for one hour or once a month. I still want to be friends with her but not to have to listen to her problems so much. So, sometimes it helps to figure how a way to politely and kindly 'exit' - the saying is: 'bowing out graciously' and I think that is just as important as listening. Knowing when it is OK to not listen because you don't want that person to stay in the same mental state of always sharing their problems. And you can only cope with so much from other people's problems. I have enough, just to cope with my own problems. So, it is OK to not always be listening, because most times, people aren't willing to improve. But, I can improve myself.