Do you want to get married?

There is nothing wrong with staying single. I am single. There is something you should know about. If you want to have kids, most of your ability to have children will be gone by the time you hit 30. The longer you are single, the more difficult it is to learn to live with someone. The older you are, the fewer guys will be interested in you. Girls who are over 30 years old, have a very difficult time getting a man interested in them, because they are over 30. 30 year old guys, often marry 20 year old women. Even 40 year old guys marry 20 year old women. Guys interested in 30 year old girls, are in their 50s often. Now if you truly completely do not want to get married, and have no intention of being married at any age, then go for it. But if you are just lying to yourself, and you really want to get married.... don't wait girl. Don't wait, you'll regret it. Just a warning.

I don't like to be married. I mean to marry another one because I have my own marriage contract already. I am about to become a father of my son. I am excited to see my first baby by next month.

Hi Wwjwcom, well, I will say that you definitly do not sound like you would be well suited for marriage. I have been married and it was fine while it was fine but it did go bad. I actually liked being married at the time. The ending was a bit rough and I adjusted to being single and am perfectly content with it. I do not have any desire at this point to marry or to live with a man. As for my parents, well, I always was willing to help them even when I was married. I moved out of my parent's home at the age of 18 and was more than excited to be on my own. Doing dishes and whatnot...never bothered me. Taking care of my children..yep..lots of work but I loved it. It sounds like you just either don't want these things or maybe afraid of them? Either way...it's ok. It's not for everyone. It sounds as if you have a good job and are happy just the way you are.Marriage is just not for everyone. And who knows..you might change your mind later on and then again maybe not....it's ok either way. Just be happy with whatever choices you make.

I am already married with two kids. I once had the same fear and hesitations as yours. If you are not yet wholly prepared to get married then dont feel pressured. Enjoy the freedom that you have now so when you finally decided to settle down and start to build your own family then you wont feel that you missed something in your life. As we grow and improved our priorities and desires in life changes too. So I must suggest just live your life each day.

I want to get married eventually, but not right now.

We do have different preferences and staying single is just one of the few. It has its many advantages for someone who is not the marrying type, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want! But eventually, the thrill wears off and as we get older, we get tired of the things we're used to and seek for a deeper fulfillment and as for me, I found that with my kids. Needless to say I got married.

I have the same view as you but I don't normally open this kind of idea to my friends because they wouldn't understand it. They have so much rebuttals when I tell them the reason why getting married is not part of my plan as well as having kids. I mean I like kids, no issues about that but the thought of getting pregnant and having to suffer the pains of giving birth is just too much for me. I don't think I can handle that. Although I am open to the idea that maybe someday when I'm older enough I might change my mind about things. A friend told me that I can only say these things now because I am enjoying what I have to the fullest. However, that friend told me that when I grow older, I would still want to share that moment with someone so I might end up looking for a partner. They say it's always good to grow old with someone. No man is an island and we can't be alone for the rest of our lives. I perfectly understand this but as of now, I am happy to what I have and where I am in life. I love my freedom a lot. Maybe someday I might reconsider my options. Happy myLotting! :)

Why you are getting worried my friend. getting married is nothing but the change in your life which is a but natural. Everybody have got the dream to have their own family and to create or make your family then you have to meet the stranger that comes in your life which later will automatically become your life partner. Go ahead and get married it is your life which you have to lead happily with your partner.

Well What do I think about this? The same thing about you! I am single, I still have no job (unfortunately) and I live with my parents. I've never been involved in a romantic relationship (even though I'm 38 years old), and am so glad. The problem of work in my view is bigger than that  the married! I, like you I'm single and I live with my father and mother. I do not make too many problems in the future (even if here in Italy we are in crisis!), But always live with the hope that something will improve! Love affairs, no thanks!

Yes i want to get married...Soon,it's great to have a family and to bond and have kids. It's a gift from God and it feels good to be with someone you really love.. and i respect your point of view, if that will make you happy ..take care

Getting married doesn't mean you have to get children as well. It also doesn't mean you have to give up your own life, friends, your job and take care of your husband. It all depends on the partner you get married to and the rules you set (same for the husband). If he sees you as a free houskeeper, laundry woman, nurse, etc you better not get married to a person like that. BTW all great cooks world wide are men so you can get married to a man who can cook as well, wash the dishes and do the laundry (mine can and does). No I never wanted to get married. I once did and I am still happy I divorced him about 23 years ago! Men are way more trouble and take away way more your freedom as children do. That is my personal experience. I don't like the childish behaviour of men, the way you have to pamper them, how many time you have to "stroke their ego" the way they Always feel pity about themselves or think they die if they are a little bit in pain or have the flu. I know it's the way many men are raised (so in a bad way and the way most women don't like them, so I am happy my only son is not like that). If I could do it all over again I would never get married again. And with me I heard many women say the same (my granny was one of them). Also my friends say the same. I did remarry over 1 year ago. We don't live together, he lives in Africa. It's fine the way it works now. We both have our own life. BTW he wanted to get married since it's important in his culture.

Getting married is a desicion only made when you are ready for it.. because it is a big resposibility.. having a family is not a joke though it gives you happiness but it also comes with a huge responsibility., so if you are not ready financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually, don't do it.. if you want to stay single it is your choice but having a famiy will complete ones life.. in my opinion..,

well marriage is something to be think about. as you said it takes time and effort and money. But if you really love each other and willing to undergo risk and hard times then for sure you will endure marriage. I am not saying that all marriages are having hard times, it is something that is inevitable since you couple raised differently. culture and being a man and woman already has so many complications, but as long as u meet in the middle in the end of the day .everything will be okay. Just be patient and positive love and care for each other.For sure you can make a happy family.