If you did something wrong would you tell the person

@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
January 25, 2013 8:05am CST
If you broke something, or used something of someon else's would you ask or even tell afterwards?. I by all natural organic shampoo ad conditioner, $15.00 each bottle. It lasts me normally 8 - 12 months. I come up to the bathroom to have the usual bath, and my shampoo was half full now is enough to wash my hair once. I am fuming, I can;t believe people can just live their live when they lie like this. I go down and bring it up, everyone of course denies it. I was bringing my shampoo up and down each shower, or each time I washed my hair, but it got to the point where I would forget it, or forget something, even dropping it, so on. I will not be buying any more so I will just help myself to the ones in the shower already, I don't wash my hair often 1 - 2 times a week, and as long as I live here I wont buy myself anything again. I have to lock up my Listerine, and dental sticks so people dont use them, now my shampoo, and razors (yes, someone even used my razor the other which is most likely my sister). They don't see the problem, even after I say anything they make it sound like I am the bad guy.
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@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
25 Jan 13
I think that taking what is others is wrong. My daughter had that problem when she lived with friends. I bought her when she had lived with me in MD, expensive bottles of body wash, the kind that is hard to find now. It was caress cherry blossom or something like that. She tried so hard to make that last but it seemed that when she would take a shower it would be a little lower than she had left it. This had really upset her because like I said it's expensive and very hard to find now. She had to start locking her stuff up there which upset her just as much because these were supposed to be her friends. It's worse when it's family because they should respect that it's your stuff. My cousin had to lock her stuff up when she lived with her brother because he had his pot head friends coming in and out and they wouldn't just use it but they would steal it.
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
25 Jan 13
yes for sure if it is small i would easily ignore it but if it is quite big and valuable i have to reveal them ideally
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 13
I can't stand people who are selfish enough that they can't be bothered to buy their own stuff and they blatantly use other people's without their prior consent and expect you to continue to buy it for their own personal use. Because I have high principles if I broke something or did something wrong I would immediately inform the person what I had done and own up, I like to think I am honest in that respect, trouble is I expect everyone else to be as honest, but they are not, sadly! The only thing you can do is to keep the stuff you don't want used in your own room and take it to the bathroom when you needed it and not to leave it around for other people to use. Hassle I know but sometimes you have no alternative but to do just that.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
25 Jan 13
If i break something, damage something loose it or what not I am always sure to let the person who owns it know. I offer to replace it as well or repair it if its repairable. If its not mine i make sure to ask - unless its a "family" shared type of item like the toothpaste in the bathroom. In all honesty...I grew up in a family that toothpaste, mouthwash, shampoo, conditioner and soap were all a family share unless it was special as a gift or an expensive purchase one made and then if you didnt want to share you didnt leave it in the tub.
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Jan 13
I cannot stand when people do this. I went through it too when my cousin was living with us. I would find my shampoo to be half gone whenever I went to use it! I use Herbal Essences, and while its not the most expensive shampoo its a lot of money for me each time I buy it! I go through shampoo by myself like every 2 months, when she was here using it without telling me I went through a bottle in less than a month!! I was annoyed, for one she took 2-3 showers per day which was ridiculous in itself and then she would use MY stuff and not pay us a dime for anything! It got on my nerves that is for sure. I knew it was her because my husband has his own shampoo and my kids have their own baby shampoo, so it had to be her... But she would never tell me she did it. And one time I went to get in the shower and realized the bottle was empty! That really ticked me off because I was already in there and now had no shampoo to use... The nerve of some people is unbelievable.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 13
If I was in this kind of situation, I would tell to the person that I've done something wrong to him/her. It's better to tell him/her personally than to keep it in yourself. Besides, it's really hard to fight our conscience. :)
@BarBaraPrz (47308)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
25 Jan 13
[Said in a squeaky old-lady voice] Well, dear, you just have to learn to share... Seriously, they obviously think you're all one big happy family, and what's yours is theirs. You need to get a handbasket to put all your toiletry items in to carry back and forth from the shower, then lock it up in your room.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
25 Jan 13
For a while I hated when people would use my stuff to bathe, but to be honest, and while this is very disgusting, they don't seem to bathe as much as they used to. I find that I am the one using my stuff much more then they are. Though right now I have a lot of shampoo's and conditioners because of sales and coupons. Body wash is what I do lack a lot of. In any case I have thought of this in the past, and you may want to consider it. Buy yourself a basket big enough to fit the things you need to carry to the shower with you in. I know it's annoying to have to do this, but it may be the only way.
• United States
25 Jan 13
When I had housemates outside of an academic setting, we generally just had "house" stuff. That kept there from being any problems about food and other supplies--plenty of other problems, though. I have, however, lived in school housing where you had to pretty much keep stuff nailed down or it would "mysteriously" disappear. I'm so glad that I don't have to deal with sharing space with any more self-important Daddy's little princess-types. It will be so much easier when you have your own place. I know that it has been much easier either living by myself or with my boyfriend. He may need to learn to do more housework, but he at least is smart enough to bring me back a treat whenever he's done something to tick me off. You generally don't get that with housemates.
@MandaLee (3763)
• United States
25 Jan 13
That is so frustrating. In my family, we ask if we can borrow stuff before using someone's stuff. Asking permission first is the thoughtful thing to do.
@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
If I broke something, I tell the person who owns it. They will find the culprit eventually. I don't want to let them wonder who took and broke their things.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
25 Jan 13
sorry for that.. you need to take thing back to your own bedroom after using it. Another good reason why you need out of that house. Take care there.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
25 Jan 13
I hate when my things being used without asking me first. I have a sister who's habit is using my clothes without asking me and no matter how much I nag her, she still do it again and again. I locked my cabinet to keep her from getting my clothes but she still use the clothes i already worn..eeww.
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
I understand your situation. i have also encountered like this. and everyone keep quite and not telling.its annoying when you asked and nobody will response to your question.try to keep your things.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
I understand you well. It is not being selfish if you keep your things, but when others just are insensitive in making use of your own things often, I think that is just enough. Better not say a word coz for sure, you'll not hear the end of it.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Yeah that would be very annoying. I'm sorry to hear that they use your stuff. You are so right you should not buy anymore of that shampoo until you are living in your own place. I have a special shampoo that I like to use it's more expensive than our normal shampoo. So I told my husband do not use it because I want it to last a long time. He used it once but after I brought it up again he hasn't used it. I'm just glad that he is respectful enough to listen. There aren't too many things that I have for myself. So something that small I just appreciate me only using it because he uses a lot of his things up fast.