My brother was a bully

My father's older brother was a bully and dad dreaded him. My father's sister's daughter is another bully...she used to tell lies about my mother to her mother, i.e., my aunt, and my mother used to be punished for it. My mother was always the second rate citizen in that house though it was her father's monies and my father's monies that sustained those families. When you dont have parents, you are better off living in a hostel run by government rather than guardians who are only in it for monies. Much later...my first hurt about the situation was when my father ...who owned the car...was taken to one of the acquaintances home by my aunt...and made to stand outside like the drivers, while I was taken inside the house. And even the cousin who molested me was a bully...he too used to tell lies about my mom and get her beaten up. And when I confronted my aunt's daughter ...she said at that time she was young and didnt know what is right and what is wrong. So why was she trying to bring in the other cousin who beat me up for monies? Had she not grown up or is she going to plead she is retarded?

Yea my brother has always been one. If it isn't one thing it's another. By the age of 45 yr old he should learn how to mellow out--for good--and not do this mood swing bullying thing he does. He is OK for awhile then bam it is bully time again. You sound like you're at peace with your bully though, congrats. I'm just not trusting of them though. Once a bully always a bully, that how it proves to be in my household.

We did not have a bully in the family. At school, I was very fond of making jokes and sometimes I would use a classmate in these jokes until one day I made a classmate cry. I stopped making jokes at the expense of others.

My stepsister is a bully and her bullies are not loving. It is unhealthy. She doesn't really know she is my stepsister. Hope she would change. I just ignore her anyway and she is quite pitiful at times because of her insecurities.

my younger brother which is 13 years old always bully us, his elder sisters if his wants are not given to him. he is good in annoying that i just like to punch him but like what our mother told me always, just dont mind him and give way because i am older than him. anyways i still love my brother even if he is bullying me. :))

I have a room mate, we call her "bulleyn" short for bully Elaine. For some reason she was my favorite room mate, she's fun and everything, sometimes she picks on people but it doesnt seem offensive. We actually like it when she brings up something and when she says something people listen. Maybe some people just have that charm and effect on people.

AHA!! Just show me ONE tendency that you are a "bully" and you will be excluded from my environment! Been there...had it done to me, LOTS, in my formative years and I knew THEN and THERE when I was able to control the vestiges of my environment, "bullies" would be banished! When I view "bullies" in action, it conjures up bad memories of my youth and I don't wish to return there! Your brother sounds like a GOOD bully to me (moreso a prankster and all with love) BUT it's the vicious ones I despise!

After reading all your comments here he just doesn't seem to fit what I call a bully. He sounds more mischievous and a good prankster more than a bully. Bullies to me are mean, nasty people who beat up others and abuse, physically and emotionally. Your brother sounds like a typical brother when you were little just full of life! Just saying this is what I get from your comments.

My brother was an angel. And I think I would be the one always starting the fight coz I always want my way. I am the eldest. But I never went to the extent of doing pranks.

Did your brother die? You are talking about him in the past tense. Or was he a bully but he's not anymore? I'm trying to understand what you are saying. My brother has never been a bully to me. If he were a bully, I wouldn't have liked him very much. Bullies don't treat us well.

Hi friend, i wonder why you like a bully? most of us hate bullies and keep distance from such kind of persons, luckily my siblings are not bullies, but we have lot of fights, fun and enjoyment during our childhood days. Good to know that you have 9 siblings.. Hope you are enjoying a lot with them

In the family, my siblings and I are only a joker. But we tease each other sometimes but not to the extent of bullying towards the other. We all have the fun, the gatherings and activities make us feel glad to be together again.

All of my brothers was a bully. I am the eldest and the only girl, and I have 4 brothers. I will be crazy because of them. But being the eldest I need to be patient everytime they bullying me. Bullying is part of our life because sometimes it is bad sometimes it is good. When I was young I cried everytime they bullying me but now I laugh on it everytime i remember those times they bullying me. Sounds funny right.

As long as your brother and you are siblings, you will love him even though he was a bully. Thanks a lot for this discussion, because it reminds me about my past life. Now, I can more understand how are others perceiving bully. Bully is also has their right to be loved. Bully doesn't meant to be hated always.

some people are always like that quite bubbly and so funny to take and share with and reasonably good too