Will you be my husband?

Hi there! yours is a nice idea if implemented. Girl could also initiate the move, nothing wrong in it. Normally girls are shy by nature so they do not make the first move, barring some exceptions. What will you do in this case?

I guess it depends on the culture and the age of the couple. My BF gave me a gold and saphires ring for Christmas when I was 16. He had money as he was a pro soccer player. I asked him aloud, in front of my mother whether that was my engagement ring. My mother was absolutly shocked! I wonder now: would that count as a proposal? Judging from the outcome of everything, it could have been. We got married shortly after I turned 18 and were happily married until he passed almost 40 years later.

As for me personally, the answer would be no. If a woman proposed to me, I would instantly assume she is not worth marrying, and that would end our romance. I would look for a girl that has enough self worth, that she believes she's worth having someone come after her, and not the other way around. Again, this is just for me, if I want to marry a girl, I'll make the move on her. I'll be the one buying a ring. I'll find a suitable place. I'll get on my knees and ask her for 'forever and ever amen'. I understand others are different, but that's how I think it should be done, and that's how I will do it if/when the time comes. As for everyone else, I have seen it work, but very rarely. More often a guy can be manipulated into agreeing to something he really wasn't interested in. You women are blessed by G-d with attractiveness and beauty. It is, and should be, a great thing. It really is! But there is a down side to that energy you have. You can unintentionally wield that attribute to cause men to think and do things, they would not otherwise do. So you come out and you look so great, and your eyes, and hair, and wow wow !!! And guys have these chemicals, that fire off in their brains, and you can get a guy to THINK he is in love. He'll feel it. It will be so real. And he'll say "Yes lets get married!!!", and he'll tell you he loves you oh so much. And he might even believe it himself! But then a few months goes by, and he wakes up one morning and says to himself "you know, I really never wanted this. I just felt that way in the moment". And next thing you know, you are by yourself, and heart broken, and you are angry at him for saying all those things, and agreeing to get married, and now he's gone. I am not excusing what guys do. That *IS* wrong and horrible. But... some girls set themselves up. They use their beauty and attractiveness, and are shocked the response were not real. So, I am generally against girls proposing to men. If you were my loved close sister, I would tell you to wait for the man to come to you. Wait until the little boy grows up into a man and decides he really wants you as his wife for life. Men typically don't propose unless they really mean it. There are a few fakers yes, but most, if they are willing to make that proposal to you, they've thought it through, and they have made the choice. It's real thing then.

Why not? Everything is possible in this world. It not written anywhere such things only men can do but since it is the old practice it goes on in the same manner. And I have seen and heard about that many girls have asked such question to the men. And they are happily married couple with their family.

I've heard stories of women proposing to their partners. And I do think that they are cute, too. But, I don't think that I could ever do that (granted that I am still single). I would still want the conventional way of proposing. I want my man to be sure that he is ready for the next step and not force him to go with it half-heartedly.

i think the perfect and ideal marriage proposal is not about who ask for it first. i think girl is also can to ask first. but you must be sure first that he is the real man you love and also he can be your partner for life to make a better future and to be the good father for you children at the future....,

Dear friend, I wished if any good girl would had done that to me. I do like to respect such women who show such a courage that too due to deep love to her boyfriend. But if that propose comes from heart I feel jealous to that boyfriend who had taken the heart of a girl. On other side I feel women do have all freedom to express their love.

It happened to me, 2 of my girlfriends propose to marry me. I was shocked with their proposals. Both girl deserves to be rejected. I think this issue is not strange to some people around here, some woman very practical. They want to corner the guy even the guy still on the grace period of thinking if they want to marry the woman or not.

Its okay if that's really what they want. I would not ask a man to marry me. I've already had the experience of asking one to be my boyfriend in the past. He treated me a lot differently after that and not in a good way. I feel like if he lost respect because a girl asked a guy out. I'll never believe any guy saying they want women to ask them out or propose to them after that.

Hi Valorie, this is a unique question and it is not only a question it is a unique condition. Before start conjugal life/live together a girl must ask this question and set up her mind to get married in future. If the boy does not agree, then the girl should not make any relation with the boy. I think every boy and girl start their conjugal life with an intention to be married in future (except few odd boys and girls) and at one stage they decide to marry. But there are many examples, where they get separated. There are some boys and girls, who like to change their gf/bf with silly reason/lame excuse. They change their life partners to change their taste. As they are not legal bindings, in most of the cases victims do not get justice. Have a wonderful day.

I'm having some reservations on making that kind of move if ever I get in that situation. We are all equal right but a man proposing means a lot because it means HE is ready for the lifetime commitment. You can't just assume that even if you are both going steady and all is falling perfectly in place that you'll end up in a marriage. Having the man your future: breadwinner, father of your children, partner in everything, do that proposal will give him the responsibility, joy and pride that he won your heart. I think that's a bit fairy tale-like.

That is OK definitely,have you remember the scene in "Friends",the marriage between Chandler and Monica is the woman make the proposal. But the way,have your boyfriend proposal to you?Haha just kidding and wish you two will have a happy ending.

yes, I will not hesitate to tell my BF to be my husband. That is if I am really 150% sure that I like him alright. Yes, it is okay, since there should be no holding back to any relationship once you are in a relationship already.

Hey Valorie, I had that discussion on my page a few days ago....I really think I will read through your responses to see what others have to say....My friend is taking it really had that her boyfriend of 5 plus years haven't asked her to get married. I was wondering if it would be considered a desperate move if she were to propose to him

This is a very rare occurrence that you speak about. Women are generally reserved and they normally like they guy to make the first step. Trust me, if this happens, then the guy will remember and cherish it for the rest of his life. But it's just that it almost never happens. Perhaps the society also recommends that the guy always make the first step, but that need not be the case always. And so, you must not also ask if it's alright for the woman to ask her boyfriend to marry her. If she has felt it in her heart to be the right thing to do, then she should just go ahead and do it.

Well of course it is all right if she prefers it that way. This is a question of style and character and maybe circumstances too. However personally I would prefer it the other way round, as I think the traditional way of having the man ask the woman for her hand in marraige is much more romantic.

yeha..sure..that will be fun ..and also wonderful for a change..

Hi valorieesquilona Well i can't say that it is the perfect , But it is the most common we find every where and in any corner of the world ( A Man proposing a girl ) ,In my view a perfect ideal is when i girl propose a Man , because i think a girl can understand better than a man in many situations . I find that a Man is rather more confusing in choosing a partner as he thinks whether to select a beautiful lady or a understanding lady which he may not find both qualities .

I think there's nothing wrong with it as long as you know that he will not going to say NO. For me, it's very romantic and unique if the girl will be the one proposing to her boyfriend while eating dinner which she personally cooks.

I think in some countries its ok, for the girl to ask. Its not her in mexico. here the man has to go and ask the girls family first... then ask her.