Why are their mistresses anyway!

everything has a reason. most reason why men get involve to other woman is mainly because of changes coming from his wife. that way he gets the attention he wanted from his wife to his other woman and later becomes love.maybe you should let him choose between you and his other woman.he can only choose one and not both.you must decide whether to dump him or not.

Mistresses will always be there whether married women like it or not, why? I think some men just fall into tempations too easy; and they forget that women are in plenty and very beautiful too year in year out. It takes a gentleman to know he has a great wife at home not to cheat. But most men do not think what they would lose if they lose the wife and kids. Its unfortunate that you are going through this and the hardest part your man is not willing to talk about it. When things hit a snag in relationships, try lots of patience, prayer and persistence - give it time; try talking it out to a counsellor,a trusted family member or friend who can reach out to your better half. And when you have exhausted all worthy channels and it does not seem to work, then you are at liberty to either stay or move on. Also remember- as much as your in-laws are very supportive and love you, they are not the people you are in a relationship with;but the man. If only spouses learnt how to communicate openly and sincerely then i think we would have less broken families.

My marriage has also been wrecked due to a third person, mind you it is not just the mistress that is at fault. My husband knew as well as knows that he is married, yet he was the one other than the mistress that chose to throw 18 years of our lives together away and what for. I bet if you were to get a man other than your husband he would hate that thought. I would play him at his own game, or at least pretendf to, just to let him know what it feels like.

You have all the right as a legal wife. Go ahead and sue them. If I were in your situation, that's what I would do. I don't want them to ruin the family, and what would your children think about their father? That's just so absurd, this man tries to have the both of you.

A lot of factors should be considered in understanding the real nature of having a third party. Your husband either loves you but finds it a challenge to be with another person or your husband would not want to give your kids a broken family and so he would want to remain in the marriage while keeping the mistress. And maybe there are something else that I am not aware of. If you don't mind me asking, are you still living in one roof?

It's really hard to pin point who started it all, but for me both the seeing partner and the mistress are to blame. They cannot always reason out that they didn't know, they just love, they didn't mean to. I mean they're not kids anymore they know what's right and wrong and there are lots of ways to check if the guy is being honest. Seriously, do mistresses would really settle being seconds forever? My dad had a mistress once and it wasn't only painful for my mom it also hurt me and my siblings. We can't help but ask if we aren't good enough for dad that he has to go somewhere else. Good thing they were able to fix it.

hi raynejasper as long as there are selfish women who want what is not theirs and will take it there will be mistresses and the men are more to blame as they already have a wife.The two of them become completely immoral not caring for anyone as long as they gave each other. Now your spouse is really pushing it and that just making you feel really sick. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. shame.

Hello Raynejasper, Indeed that is very selfish of him for having you and the mistress at the same time.i think they exist way way back in the ancient times were monogamy marriages isn't popular then because christianity was the first to promote it.but before even royalty gets to have so many partners. it's probably part of life, because the idea of third party has happened before.

no one knows why there are husband who keeps looking for a second wife or we usually called mistress,they never wanted to ruin the family of the guy but they just wanted to have an affair to that mand though they already know that he is married already.

Guys are really headaches! Most of them who have more than one girl are so selfish. They want to keep both not knowing that they are hurting both of them as well. They only wants their happiness, not minding about the emotional damage such act can cause. It's really disappointing!

It is really a sad thing to know these kind of things happening nowadays. If this thing would happen to me, perhaps I will just let go. There is no use of being together if your partner wanted somebody already. We just have to accept things and move on. Have a nice day!

This man would be out of my house, and fast he would not be allowed, to live here if he want his mistress he can have her, but he would not allowed to be, in my life and he would have to choose, if he choose the mistresses, I would be out of the picture and I would file for a divorce, that would be final.