Are online friends our real friends?

@r0cker (300)
India
February 4, 2013 1:08pm CST
I see people boast of their huge number of friends on social networking sites like Facebook, myspace etc . They think the more friends they’ve the more popular they're. But are they really our friend? Will they help us in need?
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@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
I cannot say that all my online friends are real but I can say that I have many good friends online. Majority is good.I don't usually talk with them every day but in times of need, they are always there for me. I am thankful because even though we don't meet in persons or we have different nationalities, it do not become a hindrance for our friendship. Even they have different languages and I have my own too, still we can understand each other. I am happy because of that. I treasure my online friends.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
5 Feb 13
Still, the friends we make just for Online purpose, and who have no real life link, are not as much trustworthy. They are writing or saying anything Online, without any real-life liabilities. Hence, we cannot compare these 2 different friends' category.
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@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Annierose you're lucky that you've got such online friends who are there for you when you need help. But most of the people don't have such online friends. Well Sweety you're right that online friends cant be compared to the real life friends. We can't trust them until we meet them personally.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
5 Feb 13
True friendship have foundations that distinguish them.Friendship is in my opinion is tender Without Borders and the exchange of feelings and honesty in transactions. If meets those conditions with the correspondence with him on the social networking pages, there is nothing wrong with that A true friend is a person who is next to you a time of adversity and not in the delights and joys.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Yes friendship can't be bound in borders & online friendship gives us a chance to share & exchange our views with people all over the world. Here, on Mylot people are doing the same & enjoying their friendship without any greed. But on other sites we can't really trust anyone. Some of them may support you but you don't know their intentions.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
good day r0cker, with regard to your query, generally online friends remain as online pal since they are just met virtually. though some of them exert effort to meet personally still being real in a friendship will only be gauge once a tight situation arise.
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
And I guess, true friends are very rare nowadays. Though we have a lot but only few remains.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Yes true friends are very rare but you can rely on the few you've. Feel free to ask me for help.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Good day airasheila. You're right that true friends can only be identified when we're in a tough situation.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 13
a study says that compared to online friendship, friendship in the real world involves more: Mutual dependence, depth of relationship, mutual tolerance and commitment. If you can not replace friends "in the real world", then what is the benefit of friends online? Technology allows us to keep in touch with friends who are located far away from where we are, but it also helps the shy and lonely people to meet new friends.
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@r0cker (300)
• India
10 Feb 13
Yes,real world friendship involves more mutual understanding ,tolerance and commitment than online friendship.We should connect with our real life friends online instead of unknown people .
@else22 (4317)
• India
5 Feb 13
So far as our friends in Mylot are concerned,I don't know what to say.Only a few of us use our real names.We don't know where they live.I don't think they can be our real friends.We have never seen each other.We are also in the dark about their nature.But despite all this,I admit,some of my friends in Mylot have offered to provide all possible help if I need it.I think,it depends on both us and them.May be some of them are as helpful to us as our real friends.
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@else22 (4317)
• India
6 Feb 13
Absolutly right.It never happens in any site other than Mylot.Mylot community is really extremely helpful.Some of my friends have even offered me to help me whenever I visit their cities.They are always ready to help me.By the way,I have not joined any social networking site.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
In Mylot we can believe in those who are helpful to us. People here generally try to help each other as much as possible. Well that doesn't happen mostly on other social networks.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
5 Feb 13
Anyone can be a real friend as long as you put in effort into doing so. Popularity in terms of friend quantity in Facebook is so overrated, it isn't like Friendster or MySpace anymore, no one gives a damn on how many friends you have on Facebook. I mean, no one really has more than 1000 friends and communicate to each one of them on a daily basis. Erm nope.
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@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
There are so many people who've more than 1000 friends but they surely can't communicate with them on a daily basis. You're right that popularity in terms of friend quantity in Facebook is so overrated than other sites. That's why we can't call them online friends our real friends.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Ooooohhhh... Didn't know online friends do that when they meet in real life. Well if you've a strong friendship with someone online & trust him than you can give it a shot to meet him personally.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Somewhat you're right that girls & boys try to find someone for them online. Well sincerely I never have any sexting experience. Do you ever tried this?
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
Online friends are different from real friends and like me i have hundreds of friends online but the real friends i have can only be counted with my two hands, and i know that i can count on them in times of need.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Yes in the crowd of online friends we can only trust few of them. But these few are our real friends. They will help us in our need without any greed.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
5 Feb 13
While some of our real world friends do become friends Online on different social networking sites, most need to be treated differently and cautiously. Do not tell too many details about yourself when online. It is advisable to be discreet in one's approach.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Yes, we don't have any threat from our real friends who are also our friends online coz its safe to share our information with them online. What we've to be careful about sharing it with totally unknown people.
• India
5 Feb 13
It All Depends . On How You Treat Them . Even I do Have Many Friends On Facebook. But I Know Whom To Trust . Most Of Them Are My Real Friends.
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@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
I just laugh it off when people boast the number of friends they have in social networking sites. To me, what's more important is my real friends in life. They are my treasure and I will cherish and protect them for as long as I can. That's whats more important, my real life friends whom I can cry, hold my hand when I need them, share coffee with, and laugh out loud with! :)
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@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
I also think that our real life friends are far more important than the online ones. We can share both happy & sad moments with them. We can laugh with them in real & not virtually like we write hahaha on the status of online ones.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
I ave mentioned from a previous post that I have a lot of Facebook friends but they were only there coz I needed to reach out to a lot of people for my online shop. Well, some of them I got to be friends with over time. But I still consider my real friends are my old friends from high school.
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@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Yeah... its a good idea to make so many friends for the promotion of our business. It'll surely help in reaching out to a lot of people. But you can't call most of them your real friends. And you're right that our old friends are our real friends.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
4 Feb 13
No they are not your real friends. It's just a word made up and it seems to sound good/great to many to say they have 500 friends. If they will help you in times of need depends on the person and only the need and time (years) will tell. I would not count on it.
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@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
You're right. People boast of the huge number of friends but they don't even know most of them. So you can't believe them. And yes, only need & time can tell who's our real friend.
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@mebuhalog (110)
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
rockers, Yeah.... you've got a bunch of friends if your on facebook and your certain if those friends are exactly who they are.Online frauds and malicious activities becomes widespread,so take time to get to know them properly before trusting them.
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@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
You're right. Facebook is full of fake people which are operating fraud & malicious activities . So don't be friends with unknown persons or take time before trusting them . It's better to add only those people who you know very well.
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@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 13
I cannot say that other people have real friends of not in social networking sites. But if me, I have thousands friends in one of my social networking accounts. They are my real friends. Friends are doesn't have to fulfilled our needs. Friends are people that knowing each other and those who have ever made interaction each other. So, even though you have not ever met someone before, but you are knowing each other and have conversation before, you can assume his or her as your friend on social networking sites.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Great you've online friends who you can trust.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
5 Feb 13
I have a great number of "acquaintances" both here, and on other social sites....AND I also, have a number of lovely friends! Yes, there are friends here, I have bonded deeply with, and connect by other forms, other than this forum, e-mail, cards, letters and telephone! To me, there is a tremendous difference in acquaintances..and friends! Welcome to myLot...this is a wonderful place where you will find you will make REALLY GOOD friends!
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
Thanks. I know that I can make great friends here coz friends help each other by heart here. They try their best to solve their friend's problems. You can surely count on them. But I'm not sure about other social networks. There are so many fake people present there to misuse your personal information. So it's better to be careful there.
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• Canada
5 Feb 13
r0cker...I find forums like this one, a place where you put all your other senses to work! It is somewhat likened to going thru life unable to see! So you rely on the printed word to access the character, and whether or not they align with the qualities you prefer in a friend! Cheers!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
8 Feb 13
Dear friend, Mostly a common positive thinkers likes friends and want good friends. But online friends we never know what they are here for nor never saw them. But some of them could be our good friends too, this can only be finalised after we either see them or talk to them and how well we can understand. But still as we could see there are lots of faulty people. May be we should be careful.
@r0cker (300)
• India
11 Feb 13
Yeah, we should be careful. We should not add unknown people neither should accept friend requests from unknown people. We should first enquire about them & be careful of fake people.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Feb 13
I think it is rather silly to have so many 'friends' on list on Myspace and Facebook or any others for that manner. They might be aquaintances but not friends. No, they aren't all our friends. I have some good friends on Facebook but not all are friends. Most aren't infact.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Feb 13
I go through and delete some of the ones I have on my friends list. I either will probably never will communicate with them or have no desire to. Helps me keep the list low and within some control.
@r0cker (300)
• India
11 Feb 13
Having too many friends on such sites is a problem. There are many unknown friends present in our friends list so we're oftenly irritated by their useless status updates whom we don't even care about.
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
I prefer not to have a long list of friends on Facebook whom I couldn't even bother catching up with anyway. I have a cousin who has more than a thousand friends connected to her Facebook and it's because she simply accepts friend requests even if it's just a random friend of an existing friend. She does have a circle of friends whom she can ask for help most of the time. She's more outgoing than my sisters and other cousins.
@r0cker (300)
• India
11 Feb 13
I also prefer not to add unknown persons as friends with whom we don't even talk.We don't even remember their names. So it's better to have a couple of good friends whom we know very well than having hundred of unknown friends.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Yeah I understand what you mean. A lot of the people on social networking sites we really aren't close too. We can add them to our friends list,etc but that doesn't mean that they will be there when we need them. Or that we even talk to them often.
@r0cker (300)
• India
6 Feb 13
Yes people can add unknown persons to make the friend's list longer(some people think they're popular coz they've so many friends,how stupid) but you definitely can not count on most of them when you need help.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
5 Feb 13
Yes, because the people I have in my FB are my friends and family. i don't accept friends of friends. There are actually a lot of pending requests that I have not accepted. I don't know why, I just don't like to clutter my FB with people whom are not really close to me.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
5 Feb 13
yes that's why I don't have a lot of friends there. I can't understand why people would want to have unknown friends in the FB. I have another account which my sisters can use for gaming it has around more than 500 friends. but of course the purpose is for game.
@r0cker (300)
• India
5 Feb 13
That's what I'm talking about. We should use social networks to connect with people we know in real life like our friends and family avoid unknown people.