Bullying, how to stop the evil ?
By r0cker
@r0cker (300)
India
February 6, 2013 10:58am CST
Bullying or ragging is one of the harsh realities of our life.Its happening around us -at schools ,at workplaces .
In october 2012 Amanda Todd ,a canadian teen committed suicide after
making a YouTube video detailing her
history of being bullied mercilessly,
online and in person .
Sometimes people close their eyes on these cases,sometimes they say dont be afraid,fight back against the bullies.But fighting back isn't working because the bullies are always stronger than the victims.
So what to do ?How can we stop this evil affecting our lives?
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7 responses
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
No, wrong, you can't stop other people from bullying but you can do something to fight back in another way. Concentrate on what your doing to achieve your goal in life. Don't be affected of what other people think about you even gossips, all these bullying propaganda will die in a natural way. In the first place who are they in your life ? Focus on something positive in your life. Always remember you are the master of your faith your in control of everything when it comes to yourself don't let negatives comments bother you instead think of the best way to improve your routinary assignment and explore more make yourslf busy. Bullying only exist in the mind of weak people.
@r0cker (300)
• India
11 Feb 13
Yes, it's necessary to be strong, stay focused on your goal in life, ignore what they say, think positive & forget the negative things. But how long you can do that? The bullies will follow you no matter what you're ignoring them. You've to take some action against them rather than ignoring them.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Feb 13
That is actually very good advice teotimoponncerosacena. Very good advice, but very difficult to do. Its hard to not let these things affect you especially in the minds of young children. Bullying starts at childhood anyway and children are the people most affected by this.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Feb 13
By the way, do you have a shorter name, what do other mylotters call you? I see you a lot in mylot and I'd be commenting under you sometime one way or another.
@celticeagle (166912)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Feb 13
This is SOOOO sad to hear. The schoools should be taking these occurences very seriously. The kids need to be sure and report the abuse. I think that is the only way principals,teachers and parents will know and be able to do something about it. If the authorities don't know they can't help them. I thnk alot of time these kids hurt in private and they don't say anything.
@celticeagle (166912)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Feb 13
I got the documentary Bully and will watch it later. Yes, the abused becoming abuser is a possibility.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Feb 13
That seems like the only thing we can do about it for now, letting the authorities know, its sad though how popular and widespread bullying has become. And sadly this abused children they might turn into the abusers themselves.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
The very first sign of being bullied, one just let an adult know about it. Do not be afraid to tell a teacher or a parent what is happening to you. The adults will handle that themselves.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
7 Feb 13
I think aggression problems arise from the child having negative experiences during childhood. So i think the solution to bullying starts from having a very good upbringing of kids, starting from parents who in the first place want their children and are ready to provide them with all the love, attention and physiological needs. They say and abused person becomes and abuser so maybe a loved person has a bigger capability to give love instead of bullying.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Feb 13
Its not too late, we can still give our children that, or at least i still can since I've never had kids yet.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Feb 13
Easier said than done enzichan.
I like your picture.
@ankitaverma19 (29)
• India
7 Feb 13
Social Awareness is the only possible antidote to the evil that is ragging. The burden first falls on the youth-idols
to ensure that they take the appropriate steps to educate their peers. This has been seriously lacking. Perhaps, it is too much to ask for.
Secondly, the rule-makers. They need to take some stringent measures to discourage the activity. Whatever improvement is claimed, the problem hasn't been eradicated yet. The acceptability and the expectability of bullying need to both be nil to avoid such tragic incidences that follow it.
The responsibility lies as much with the individual as it does with society. The authority figure/parent needs to assure their employee/ward that they will be heard and helped, if need be. The courage has to be welcomed.
But you can't reach everyone at once, without help. Here, social media becomes the champion as campaigns do make a lot of difference.
Even Bollywood tried its hand at spreading awareness the best it could with its recent flick 'Table No.21'. Despite the obvious flaws in the making of the movie, it managed to get the message across.
As a victim, find someone who will listen. Don't fight back but don't give up either. There is always someone who will listen. Doesn't matter if it's your teacher or the nice lady at the grocery store. Someone will help. All you need to do is to allow yourself to ask for help. That is real strength.
@r0cker (300)
• India
11 Feb 13
Yes, the victims should tell someone about what's happening with them. It could be their parents or teachers or someone else.
Social Awareness is also necessary. Social media can play a big role in creating awareness. The youth should try their best to accomplish this job.
Can't say anything about that movie coz I haven't seen it but its appreciable that it spreaded the message.
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
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7 Feb 13
Well, utmost scenarios comes to variety of solutions, bullies are nasty feeling that really goes to your nerves and it takes away who you are and what are your real objectives and focus in life on the other hand from it's brighter side along the way it reflects on how are you going to defend yourself from these bullies and patch things up from your loses but then again that won't be so easy since the only way that help things up is standing despite of all odds and find things that will remember who you are and what makes your totality such as confiding a friend, family that keeps you inspired from the things they've been through and people who has worse cases that you are experiencing. Step by step process abrupt changes will just pull you down and things will happen repeatedly as you accept, count the blessings, ties with the Creator, humility and so called LOVE haha as per say, takes time but it heals the wound maybe in time. enemies are happy when you suffer and show weaknesses. they get angry when they see things okay for people who like to hurt you. Avoid them for physical injuries may occur for verbal haha stop thinking a lot of things some may help some may not pick good ones throw the bad things anyway, that won't hinder options but choices might so but not so hard if thinking logically with reasons for such actions.