mylot atmosphere changing?

@Hatley (163776)
Garden Grove, California
February 6, 2013 12:23pm CST
when I came here to mylot I was bitterly upset, newly forced to retire then later made homeless and I found my lot. I found friends here, and a pleasant welcoming atmosphere even as the outside world economy was rapidly getting really bad. Here I could come and be refreshed relaxed and viewed it some days as therapy.Now so many come in and want to change everything and to make it a clone of Facebook . Is the atmosphere of fun and trust and welcoming going to change now? or I am I just worrying for nothing ? your take fellow my lotters.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Feb 13
Well, things change, sites change, people leave, so who knows? I do think that if Admin doesn't get the problem with the notifiers fixed, it will have a really negative affect on the site.
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• United States
6 Feb 13
I'm thinking the updated earnings bit before the notifications, though,t hat is effecting us just as much.
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@BarBaraPrz (47641)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
6 Feb 13
I thought all that was fixed? Was for me, anyway.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 13
I too am receiving notifiers now too.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 13
I sure hope your worrying for nothing! I love MyLot the way it is just like most people do here. I hope they do not change anything. If people don't like it here they are welcome to leave and go back to where they came from-facebook! I love it here and I really hope it stays the way it is. No need to change anything, sure it needs a little work on some things but I don't want it to be anything like FB!! I hope all is well with you Hatley!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi john nope wrong Orson he he hi LMB I hope so too as I love ti and all my mylot friends here just the way we are.Its likke the old lady said"If it ain;t brokne why fix it?" and I do so argreu. mylot is fine the way it is as they will fix the glitches so here hoping it never c hanges. lol
@JohnRok1 (2051)
7 Feb 13
Talking of butts, I think Orson is about to make a great film called "Citizen Cane".
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• United Kingdom
7 Feb 13
Mylot is a terrible place! It's full of terrible flirts...... terrible jokes..... and terrible spellers...... Butt we love it!
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@AmbiePam (93794)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I don't see how they could make it anything like Facebook. But considering I don't spend much time at all on Facebook I couldn't really say. I must not be running in the same circles as everyone else. Because I haven't been seeing the fighting and arguing some other people are writing about.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
AmbiePam you did not miss a thing believe me as it was just rudeness and meanness. This woman tore into a younger member calling him names and making fun of him and the poor guy did not even know her mean idioms as he was not from the US but he was very civil to her and told her he had not expected such rudeness from her and she mocked him. I wished I had stuck out of it but I felt so sorry for the young man and how she really flamed him. She deserved to be banned for sure.what got me was one user whom I admire was admonishing Diana for telling her if she disliked us and mylot so much she was free to leave. this user told Diana that she should let that mean user express herself. Express herself by flaming other users? thats ridiculous.I hate that kind of thing and hop; we do not see more of it.
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@AmbiePam (93794)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Did her username start with an M?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi no it was likle barracuda onl y the last cou p,e of letres wetea b it different.she has been b anned odd she washere six years ago b ut I had nev er met her t ill how. she had s ome earlier discu ssins that ere just like anyone elses nothing weird b ut these last ones like a differnt person.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 13
It is the users themselves who fill up the pages and make mylot what it was, is and will be in the future! It is up to those Lotters who care for it and want to remain the myLot as we know it to explain to those new users wanting it to be different that, apart from the glitches hopefully, everything will stay as it is now. Maybe it is even more important than before that more users lend a hand in guiding new users and reporting violations so that the tone of what fills up the pages remains the same too? There have only ever been a few of us who help out and that number should have increased by many more of the years, especially as there are more and more people joining now that myLot is one of the few remaining paying sites left.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 13
More users should also be helping out when new users are asking questions too. It takes two minutes to respond with a link to the FAQs, even if the topic is later deleted. Surely we can all give up a couple of posts each day?
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• United States
6 Feb 13
That's true, we should be keeping an eye out always for rule breaking because it changes the tone of myLot by far. We can only suggest they also do the same and hope they will because we want myLot to remain a great place, thee great place we know and love.
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• United States
6 Feb 13
yes I agree, I will start doing this more often and giving helpful tips how to keep myLot a good place for all of us to new members!
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
6 Feb 13
Mylot isn't like facebook, and i don't believe it ever will be. If people come in here thinking that it is like faceboo,, they will be disappointed. However, if they are looking for discussing different topics, then this is where they should be. I am on here more than I am on facebook, which is a good thing. I only go into facebook, to keep up with my family and friends I have there. I would never be alble to discuss things in there like hter though, never. I am so glad that mylot isn't like any other, as it is a refreshing site where we can all come in here and have fun and learn as well. I certainly don't have fun in facebook. I never have, and I never will. Take care hatley, and have a very good day.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi rosekiss oh my just got back from shopping and I am pooped.yes I do not think Mylot will ever become another facebook and I do love it the way it is. Those who are looking for that need to go to FaceBook as mylot admins knows what the heck they are doing and have done well for a lolng time too.,I am taking care now and relaxing as I type . I had a great da y today too. I am like you as I have a Facebook account so I can keep in touch with relatives but I love mylot so much better. My son really likes FaceBook b ut he is much smarter in regards to facebook than I am lol..I like the way we all can interact with each other here.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
7 Feb 13
I've only completed my first year here and I don't really feel any drastic change. I have always wondered, though, how it was in the beginning. I know the number of myLot population has grown rapidly and it is quite possible that those who were active back then created a different atmosphere than now...
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
Hi sishy I was here six years ago and we made a little more than we do now but there were a few less people but it was much as it is now.A lot of us are still here so we stay about the same . I just get nervous at all ht newbies who want to change everything when they just came and do not even read the guidelines or know how mylot works. Once they do they may change their minds. I do not see my lot every changing into a second FaceBook though.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Feb 13
hik echo I think some have already changed once they really see what mylot is all about.I suggested to some to wait awhile until you really UNDERtaND WHAT MYLOT IS ALL ABOUT.
• United States
7 Feb 13
No I really don't think you need to worry about the users having any say in what myLot will or won't be. I don't see it changing. We members make the atmosphere what it is here so just keep on doing what you do. its because facebook is so huge in the world that they all will compare it to that. If they knew what myLot really is about how we do, they may change their mind about that too.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Personally my friend, lets hope it never becomes like Facebook. I enjoy having a place to come where we can come and talk about life's problems and be able to relate without everyone knowing who we really are. I also like the fact that we cannot personally message someone unless they are on our friends list. This site was made before the popularity of Facebook, and truly needs to continue to be the site it is today. People here that are wanting it to be like Facebook can move on to sites like that that are.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 13
hi tina I think mylot admins were pretty smart and they found the things thats worked and tht did not work.I like it to that we cannot personally message someone unless they are on our friends list.It makes it much better.Too when I found two people here over the years that just did not like me at all and made no bones about it.One was on my friends list and just as I went to delete her she deleted me lol .I think in all sites one will meet one or two people who are some reason known only to themselves they will take a dislike to one person. So if they are not on ones friends list they cannot at least harass you with ugly p messages.yes let not fix mylot lets leave it the way it is.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
6 Feb 13
I also got lots of friends through myLot. At first I was concentrating only to earn money and now a days I try to have fun here in myLot. I think many people are looking for myLot as another type of Facebook. I think the atmosphere is fun and also good to have lots of friends and also one can enjoy spending time here.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 13
hi ajiothlal I love it when we are all friendly and helping each other and hearing from all my friends here. Sure we have glitches but they can be repaired and we will then be fine. We do not need to be made into a second Facebook at all.and no options for blanking out anyone wither.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi echoforever I was really looking forr friends as I was lonely and for something worthwhile to prove to m self that I was still worth something to someone else. being forced to retire felt pretty grim.Younger people so often think oh retire you old person go and r est and sleep.they forget we are still the same person in so many wayh we were when thirty or forty we still have things we want to accomplish and want to be worth something to others.
• United States
7 Feb 13
That is so good to hear and always refreshing. Some do come here at first just for the money and some often leave quickly afterward. It is so nice to hear when someone has come here for that but instead their motivations have changed and they made some friends along the way!
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
7 Feb 13
I love intelligent discussions and I get upset when I cannot discuss anything and have to search for discussions that are not about what went on that day. I do not want mylot to turn into a diary or journal. Yes, I am worried.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi suspenceful yes I do agree as we need interesting discussions to respond too and not onps full of bitterness and meanness but don't you think in a way all our discussions if looked back on so sort of sound like a journal of our lives. I know I first met you and your husband was very ill and you were having many problems then on through your life sort of like a journal but I kind of enjoyed it as I felt by being here and able to vent a bit as you went through so much it helped you some. Do not worry though as we have had these kinds of things here before then it turned back to more normal times. I just do not want to be in an atmosphere where everyone is tearing at each other. I do not remember you ever being nasty or mean about anyone here and most of us do not do that. We do not always see eye to eye but we have always had respect for each other. thats one thing I would like to see continue.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Feb 13
oh suspenseful that is a vivid imaginationl I had something a bit similar in that we were at that time living in a gated apartment complex. police armed with trained dogs were prowling allover o u complex a helicopter was also hovering over above us and when my son came home from work they would not let him in until he was indentified by the manager and the police dogs corralled. seems they were looking for some bank robber wanted by the FBI and thought he had snuck into our complex. well he was not there bu it was after midnight before they withdrew and it was sort of scary as they came and to d us to lock our doors and windows.I sometimes wish i was more on my own here but still its nice to feel s afe here.]
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@GreenMoo (11833)
7 Feb 13
I've not personally noticed a change in the atmosphere particularly. Perhaps it's an indication that the world outside is changing, and therefore people have got different things to discuss?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi GreenMoo I almost hoped you would be there as you might have enlightened that person about flaming and being rude. I think perhaps soon it will be back to our old more placid and friendly'mylot. I was not really referring to the changes in topics so much as to the sudden open rudeness and how qite a few lauded her for being so brutally frank. that really surprised and amazed me as it was not a matter of her having her expressiveness being stopped but of her mistreating and flaming people here on my lot. I am all for any one being able to express themselves but with courtesy and respect to others.I think mylot will pretty much stay the pleasant welcoming place we all know.
@GreenMoo (11833)
7 Feb 13
I am all for any one being able to express themselves but with courtesy and respect to others. That is a fabulous way of putting it Hatley. There's not really any excuse not to.
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@GreenMoo (11833)
7 Feb 13
Certainly I missed that, and I'm pleased to have done! I think nasty people will pop up from time to time anywhere, but generally speaking I find myLot a pleasant place to be.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
There had been some glitches a week back but it has now been resolved. As with the people wanting it to be like Facebook- well, I don't think that it is going to happen. Mylot is doing just fine as it is.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi Jenny I agree that mylot is just fine. As the old woman said, "if it ain't broke don't fix it." I believe she did have a point when it comes to my lot. Once the glitches were fixed it is our ole trusty mylot that we all love and its so much easier to ujse thana lot of other sites.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi me too but also if I had a sleeless night then I sneak back to bed after breakfast and come back here at ten am. lo..
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Definitely, Hatley! The only ting that would stop me from being part of mylot is when there really is some family matters that I need to urgently attend to. But other than that, I am here by 7am!
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
7 Feb 13
We indeed go through a lot of things recently,and i think the posts are getting less and paid are getting delayed,but i still love being here and hope all the problems has solved and have a good time.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Feb 13
hii hence I do too and I really thik it will for a long long time
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi jricky yes its been hectic lately but I think once most of the glitches are fixed we will be back to normal and we will stay the same uniquq one of a kind site mylot. I love it just the way it is.I have fun here really .
@Hence27 (450)
• India
8 Feb 13
Yes,i hope that many problem has solved and mylot contiues.
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@timetravel (1425)
• United States
6 Feb 13
If I wanted Facebook I'd go to Facebook. Interesting - I just read an article on comcast news yesterday about many people taking a "pause" from Facebook. It seems that members who have been there a while go through a slump where they stop posting for a while, and do other internet things. When they go back, it's never quite with the same oomph. I can believe it because it happened to me. I was so excited when first on Facebook, posting things here and there, daily updates - but once I discovered this site, and another social media site mainly aimed at writers, I barely glanced at my FB page. I only go there now to vote for American Idol or the Voice..lol...or to check on one or two old friends.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 13
hi timetravel I too have an account there and my son tells me you would not shut a dog in to a room for 60 days and not tend to it yet you just do not go to Facebook,use it. but I am on mylot and facebook really does not appeal. He has made a name for himself there and I am glad for him .He does have a ton of friends there and is really brilliant too.me I like to write so my lots for me.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi eco no facebook is just not it for me much to my sons dismay.sorry bout that; but moms do not always have the same interests that sons do and ihat makes being together more fun for me.I just did not want to get stuck on their games and so m ny are not fun for me. I always come back hbre as this is m ore my style.
• United States
7 Feb 13
I can also believe this trend. I for one never had that "oomph" for facebook at all. I was a myspace kid and I never did like facebook. I still don't and I only will check in there for family and friends. I mean FB is so boring to me! I don't play games there, I hate the kidn of games that are available, having to wait to play the stupid things in the first place! The layout there is sooo boooring, just looking at it makes me want to leave. And typically, I do, as fast as possible!!!
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
6 Feb 13
I don't know if it is or will change due to this. There's more of this floating around all of the time but I still find a niche of welcoming and fun topics. Not everything about myLot is welcoming these days but we can still have our good friends here and have fun.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 13
It is up to us Lotters to provide the fun!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 13
Hi echo and diana thats really it isn't it that we have fun and keep the atmosphere of friendship and helpfullness and just plain having fun. we can laugh and jhoke as we comment and get to know each other. Commenting is a good way of enjoying mylotting and learning to know other here. Those who never do this do not realize how much fun it can be. I have met one guy my lotter who always comes up with a joke so out of left field it take me a second then I am laughing like crazy. I told him he should write a book John's jokes. lol Yep the users are the main attraction and we can weather the glitches til they get fixed.Lets keep my lot happy.
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• United States
6 Feb 13
The best part about myLot is that the users are the main attraction.
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@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I think you are worrying for nothing. We do have an ebb and flow in how we react to each other and in the atmosphere, but MyLot, although it is social, has never claimed to be a social network. I love it so much better than facebook and twitter, and it still leaves me feeling more connected than any other place I go. I will agree, though, that there seem to be fewer helping posts than in the past. I feel we are still hung up in the elections or something.
• United States
7 Feb 13
"Oh don't worry yourself so!" I agree this is just a trend and it will pass like the tide. Just keep doing as we always do, myLot is of course here to stay, so are we.
@BarBaraPrz (47641)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
6 Feb 13
I say, If you want myLot to be more like FB, then just go to FB and leave my myLot alone! In western Canada, Woodward's Department Stores was the place to go to get what you wanted: if they didn't have it, nobody did. Then they got a new manager who thought it should be more like Eaton's... offering high-end fashions, getting rid of various departments... Well, that's not why people shopped at Woodward's and it eventually went bankrupt. A sad loss. And to make matters worse, a few years later, Eaton's went belly-up, too. I wish people would just leave things well enough alone. As the saying goes, Why fix it if it ain't broken?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Feb 13
right timetravel we really do n ot as thats a waste for s ure.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 13
hi thats like this wonderful stationary store in Larwin Square in Tustin ca eveyone went too Hall mark and finally the two sister closed shop. They were so great as they had all sorts of stfuff there and were so friendly and helpful so another store went belly up. It was not a chain. As Golden spoons went belly up as it was not fancy but the sugar free yogurt was fantastic and with sugar free chocolate sauce it was a dream. Now here are four empty sores in Larwin Square sad too.So hope my lot just keeps on being its own sweet self. we do not need it fixed. lol
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• United States
9 Feb 13
Nor do we need an empty site in virtual land....
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
7 Feb 13
I've enjoyed the past five years here and in most cases enjoy the atmosphere though it has been a little different lately. I dislike rudeness and crudeness intensly. Let civility reign.
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@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
7 Feb 13
You know, I had not seen that discussion. . . and I wonder if someone then hacked her account. You know, a couple of years back we had that happening, or one person taking over another one if he was close, and then opening another, etc. and stalking and being rude. I miss hwg, as she and MysD were in on all of than and probably could have told if someone else took over her account.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi cynthiann I have to and I really hated that rash of rudeness and how several people stuck up for her not thinking anything wrong with her mean remarks.Even the admins admonished me for using the word crap when I told her I had not reported any of her "crap" b ut at the time I was angry. I Know admins was right of course as thats a mean word too.Whats really odd this user that caused all that had been here for six years and her other discussions were not like that so I think maybe she was emotionally ill some way bu there was no excuse for her behavior.I told her we were supposed to treat one other with respect and she just made fun of me. oh well hope its all okay now again.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
h Garden Gerty I do too as she even called me twice when I was not on mylot to find out if I was okay. When I first met HWG she was about to leave as some one was trolling her and really scaring her and so I reported the person who was banned and she kept thanking me for changing her mind. I miss her as she was in on everything too. That could be what ha pened as the first discussions of hers I responded to were normal no anger then thse last she was just so different.lie two different people.
@allknowing (137605)
• India
7 Feb 13
One needs to spend a little time here to know the site completely. Those who do not do that tend to make suggestions. I know of a total new comer who came up with suggestions. It is no doubt annoying when this happens.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi allknowing yes they reallyh should wait to see just what mylot is really all about before hauling off with suggestions as they might not make some of them once they saw what mylot is really all about. As it does take a little time to learn your way around but if you start off reading the guidelines and the F AQ's you have a good start and it really did help me I know. Also older users helped me too with many great suggestions such as wait a week before selecting best responses which does make good sense.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi thats it in a nutshell and i do wish more new ones really would study the guidelines as it needs a bit of taking in not justscanning but really reaidn them and using the knowledge after wards.
@allknowing (137605)
• India
7 Feb 13
myLot is not like any other site. Here one needs to get a grip on it so that there are fewer guidelines violations.
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@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
I can see indeed some huge changes but not in a positive way. The biggest change I have noticed is in the earnings update and computations. I think the computation or rates have decreased, don't you think so? And also updating of earning has become infrequent. I thought i did well in the last two days but when the earning update came, I was sad to see that the earnings were quite low and so I thought there must be some sort of decrease in the rate per participation.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 13
There is no such thing as 'a rate per participation' here on myLot. We earn for our overall quality participation in each 24 hour period but if our activity is not worthy of earning much, or if our posts are deleted, then the earnings will be disappointing indeed.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 13
hi john my earnings dived as I participated in some that sadly got deleted and i should have known better but got involved and interested and forgot I could lose earnings. the sad part is I need those earnings and when I do not make a dollar a day it means a lot more has to come out of my measly leftovers after the Gold Crest admins takes out their huge chunk for rent ant board per month.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
7 Feb 13
As I understand it, when you lose your earnings in this way, at least you only lose those which you would never have made if you had not participated in that rule-breaking discussion. Or am I wrong? Do you actually get penalties over and above this?
• China
7 Feb 13
People from all over the world have found pleasure in mylot.I don't know about Facebook and other sites, but I had thought mylot was reliable till a couple days ago when we got no notifications about our mylot friends' discussions and responses and the earning here wasn't updated for several days.Hope that was mere passing glitch and mylot gets better and better.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Feb 13
hi chang yes its been really irritating but alex of Goaskalice said they're working on it but its slow going so hopeing they soon get it repaired.
• China
4 Mar 13
Recently,There it goes,I can't receive notifications as usual,after some of my friends responded to my comments.