unattached
By marjivy80
@marjivy80 (198)
Philippines
February 6, 2013 7:54pm CST
being "single" is not that bad after all. after a failed marriage, i would prefer my life what i have now. no one to please, no one to follow orders. just simple and being me again. live my life as what i wanted to be. anyway, i know what's good and what's bad so i think i can handle myself more mature. is it okey to be unattached forever?
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15 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
7 Feb 13
It is okay as long as you are comfortable with it and you feel that you don't need someone else. The question if its okay to remain unattached forever solely relies on you and how you do things. Its true that almost everyone want to be in a relationship but nobody wants to give up their single ways.although, you'll never know what might happen, things joust happen after all. My mom once said that shell never remarry and she will never be associated with another man, but then she met my stepdad and that changed everything. She seems happy with her current relationship and i am happy for her too. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
8 Feb 13
That's right. There are so many perks about being single. I'll be happy for you as long as you are happy. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
actually, i'm not closing my doors. i just feel my singehood these days. single and unattached. well, maybe because i married at an early age. and maybe just being thankful for a new found freedom, that was initiated by him anyway.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Feb 13
If your happy it is okay to be single as long as you want to be. I am married and it's not like that though. I don't follow orders or have to please my husband all the time. It is a give and take relationship. Not all marriages are like the one you just came out of... I'm just saying. Not all marriages are bad and ugly. Mine is good, of course we have bad times like anyone but we respect each other.
But if your happy being single then that of course is your choice. I could not imagine my life without my husband in it...
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@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
good for you ma'am. before we separate, that's my idea of marriage. i never really thoght that one day we'll be separated. we don't have a perfect relationship before but just a typical one. until that woman entered the scene. and the rest is history.
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@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
temptation is always there anyway. you can have them anytime. lol. but i'd be more involve with my kids.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
I can't really relate much since i have never been married. Although, it is tiring to always try and please someone. Some people are meant for married life, while others choose to stay single. I think you should just stick to what you are happy with. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
14 Feb 13
so true. we'll just wait for the right time and right person.
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
7 Feb 13
Hi for me I hate being single, I would love
to come home to a wife and kids.im 50 now
and still want a family.have the right mate should
be a partenr ship everything 50/50.even Im a great cook
were I live I do call it home i call it my place
a home is were your happy and have some one to come home to.
but if you are happy in the insdie then maybe that good for you.
ok good day.
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
sir, as of the moment i enjoyed the freedom i have. but i'm still looking forward for a good partner someday. someone who will accept me for who i am. someone to spend my life with. a man who will accept my daughters and build a home.
@govenu (90)
• India
7 Feb 13
it is good to be single, but if you ask me if you would could be happy by being unattached, then I would give you a big "NO".
yes, you read it right, being single is different from being unattached from any relationship. You could be single as long as you do not find someone who really makes you feel good and happy. I know it is not as easy as it is being said and things like that. but then, you know, time heals all the wounds and as time goes on, you would need someone to make you feel good as you as a person really deserves to be taken care off and being loved and be happy.
You can be happy being single with all that you said, like no pleasing others and following others, but there is some beauty in life when you are pleasing someone else to see them smile and things like that.
The biggest and the most satisfying happiness comes when you are happy from inside and you have the beauty of life also with you .
Only happiness without the little beauty will always have the power to bring you down in the long run.
I wouldn't say, go and bump yourself in to another relationship, i would just say, do not close the doors of your heart.When some one knocks it, be open to open it. May be god has someone better and feels that you deserve to be more happy and be loved. Be positive in life.
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@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
yeah. so true. i'm not closing my doors anyway. i just think that some men just make advantage on me beacause of my situation, well a lonely separated beautiful lady (to make it more exagerated,lol). maybe someday, the right person will come and love me for who i am.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 13
I love being single, I wouldn't have it any other way, after being in two abusive relationships and taking my freedom for granted, I have vowed that I will stay unattached for the rest of my life. I prefer my own company and I am independent, I can do what I like, when I like, without having to answer to anyone. I would hate to be in a relationship again.
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
we can never tell what tomorrow would bring. but, we have same sentiments as of the moment.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
7 Feb 13
Hi Majivy,
It is never happy being single and unattached. There are times in life when single don't work at all and since man is a social animal so he needs time and again someone to share joy, sorrows and someone from whom a person can tell his or her deepest feelings. This is my feeling, I might be wrong but this is how I feel.
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
maybe someday. i know we have our needs, physically and emotionally.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
7 Apr 13
Well, you should know that I, despite having arrived at the ripe age of almost 38 years, I have never been involved in a romantic relationship. This is for my personal choice, and after all, that's fine with me!
I live with my parents and younger brother. Not that our family relationships are better, but still I do not care at all engaged to a woman! I'll stay single forever!
And so I lived happily ever after.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
7 Feb 13
Hi friend, there is nothing wrong in living as a single person, as you mentioned that you had a failed married, so you had a bitter experience about marriage life and not interested in marrying another time, so live your life in your own way. No one can dominate you.. All the best
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
thanks friend. i'm just doing my moves one step at a time. maybe as of the moment i have this bitterness in me but maybe someday the sweetness will dominate my world.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
7 Feb 13
I was single for 6 years between my first and second marriage. I enjoyed being single although it was a big change in my life and costly in every way. I remember a friend visiting me in my little flat. She said 'Aren't you lonely?' and at that time my immediate reaction was 'No, I am free'. So I can understand why you prefer your single life to your married one.
I did not want to be single forever, I wanted someone to share my life after 6 years of being alone. I am thankful that this need was met and now I no longer yearn for the 'freedom' I had.
The hard thing after a failed marriage is to believe you can have a successful one and to be afraid to try. After a few years you may feel as I did.
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
yeah. i'm also looking forward for that time to come. maybe i still want the freedom i have now.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
After a failed marriage, yes of course it is okay to stay single, unattached, do whatever it is you want to do with your time without worrying what will be the outcome of your every actions. You've only yourself to please, yourself to love, and you can do the things, go to places that only a no family commitment could ever do. It is only natural to be skeptical having been through with what you had. If it's what's in your heart and you are comfortable of being alone, I'm sure you'll get by. The possibilities are endless, who knows you'll get over the pain and have a different view on staying single forever.
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
yeah. i have moved on already. i just felt the freedom i have now. still not ready for a new relationship but maybe in the future. we'll never know what tomorrow will be.
@binaybbsr1 (375)
• India
7 Feb 13
Its gr8 to read your lines. Its all very valuable and in right spirit to handle the art of living. But you have asked something else in the end. I guess, you had never thought to love someone and marry, just to get attached to others requirements. It just happened and the same even may happen in future. So attachment is just a subset of love and you are not sure of your tomorrow's love. Ve a nice day. Get your love soon.
@sshiva95 (77)
• India
7 Feb 13
You probably feel that way because of your bad marriage. Generally people after getting married find it very difficult to be unattached. But people can change or be of a different view. I believe that being unattached has its rewards. If you are financially stable, then you can enjoy this freedom with your friends or alone spneding your time doing other activities
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