I cant believe I fell for him.....................

I can't help but if you can't hear/read/see the difference between a 15 year old boy and a 37 year old man (with 2 children) this can only mean you know nothing about the world/people or he is very mature in the way he writes, talks and has a lot of life experiences. Anyway what happened you can't change. So forget it and go on with your life.

It is very hard to be able to trust people online. The internet gives people a face to hide behind. But it is good he came clean with you about it. Just be careful on who and what you tell people out there in the cyber world because no telling who you are saying things to.

Don't be hard on yourself, firstly, secondly don't blame yourself either, you were taken in by him, I can't see no reason for people leading others on, through fabrications, they must know they will get found out at one point and why do it in the first place? I can't see the sense to be honest. He is both childish and craving attention.

hi there maria, i am sorry you had this shocking experience online. This is really the thing we should be careful about when we are in contact with people only through the internet. I wonder how long have you been in contact with him and haven't any of you suggested video chatting? I think with this you would be able to tell if he is truthful as to his claims (his age and all). I wonder what has become of your relationship now that he admitted his true age? You should really just try to remain friends with him if you decided to still be friends with him.

That's because--on the Internet--you are basically 'talking to your imaginary friends' (oh I know YOU'RE not imaginary, Empress Maria ; but--rather--we are all imaginary to you until we actually meet!) Your 'wanting to hug and kiss him' was about the same desire as 'wanting to hug and kiss your pillow while thinking about Antonio Banderas (Interview with the Vampire, The Mask of Zorro).' Me, I 'fell in love with' a Yahoo!-IMer who I thought was Calista Flockhart (starred in Ally McBeal, dated Harrison Ford (& might still be dating him))---even though she's something-like 15-or-20 years older than me ... won't seem so different when she's 60 and I'm 40-or-50 (which is how old my 'first-time girl' was when I was in my mid-20s )

And...you are also not sure if he is really 15, right? And even if he's a guy to begin with. That's why I never believe everything on the internet at first "sight". Especially when it comes to social networking sites, anybody can be anyone they want them to be very easily. Aside from posers, there are also a couple of trolls, and hackers and just plain attention-wh*res, lol! Just be careful next time and don't trust anyone easily.

Wow!!! This is unreal. But it just goes to show you how easy it is to get wrapped up with someone online and not really be being told the Truth from them, and fall for something they are not. They have warnings online all the time, as younger teenagers can fall for old guys, etc. It is really a Scary world out there, and personally makes me Glad that I am now married. I wonder if his Mom knows about all of this, and put him up to coming clean or what?

Really? he is a little cheat! I would not want to hug him at all! I would like to give him a good slap on the face and tell him to get real life is not a joke and is not he's business to mess up other people's life.

And honestly he might be lying to you now. I learn the same thing myself, many years ago. You can't trust people online. I mean you take them at face value. But never assume that they are being completely honest. When you can hide behind a computer screen, people tell you whatever they want. You can't trust them. Until you meet them face to face, in person, and learn who they really are, do not take it for granted. People lie. And people lie much more when there is little chance of being caught, and little consequences even if they are. He could have kept you on for years, and pretended to be something else. He may still be pretending to be something else. You just don't know. Just like you. Can I trust who you say you are? Can I not find a picture of a girl, and post it as my avatar? Can I not say I'm a beautiful woman from somewhere? How would you know? Want to hear a funny story? Don't laugh at me... Shhhh... don't tell anyone. Years and years ago, I used to play video games all the time. And I was... REALLY good at them. I used to play this game, and I would go on the internet and play with people, and beat them constantly. I would destroy everyone, and win repeatedly. Well the people didn't like that, and I would constantly get kicked and banned from people's servers. This got really old because I would look for a server to play on and constantly find I was banned!! :( So I had to come up with a plan. I spent money to play these games! I wanted to play! So what should I do.... I came up with an idea!.... I changed my online name to "Tina!" a girls name! I would go onto these servers, and show up "Hi boys! :D I'm Tina!

Oh my gosh that is horrible! I cannot imagine what you must be feeling. I know if it was me I would feel betrayed and angry. That is so wrong that this person pretended to be a certain age and lied about everything he told you. That is the most awful thing ever! Don't worry though, karma is a b*tch!

Even though he told you what is the truth, as he said it is, you are not still sure he is telling the truth. It can be another lie. Anyone an be anybody online. So let us stick with our purpose here. Have a nice day!

Oh no.. please don't tell me its who I think it is. But I'm pretty sure it is.. and for that I'm so sorry! If there's anything I can do let me know? And if it isn't him then I'm still sorry...

SERIOUSLY!!! WHAT? WOW - so easy to get tricked - I think I know who you mean too... It would explain the way he has treated you - Teenagers! It is manipulation and deception - No one should be treated like that I have never lied about myself... Why would I pretend to have a few grey hairs? Or kids and their problems? You have to wonder about the mentality of a person if they are lying about their ages.... We warn our children to be careful of the people they speak to online, there could be adults pretending to be teenagers.... ...We forget that people also pretend to be older.

i guess, there are two versions of interactions over net. One is chatting and other is forum discussions like tht of mylot, fb etc. I think introverts are over chat and extroverts are in forum. Naturally over chatting or even in forum any one can use excellent emotional words that portrays a high value for other/s. In fact unless, you interact with a person face to face, its hard to judge him fully. We have to find the mannerism of a person along with used words. Over net, you cant visualize the mannerism at all and always there is a chance of get cheated. Thank you.

OMG! You are so naive. Nobody tells the truth in internet nowadays. Last time people post their opulent home for all to see including their house address on Facebook. Then they say they will be on holidays from such a date to such a date. On coming back after holidays their home was completely wiped clean! Bare! Nothing left, not a bed to sleep on. Not a pair of sandals to wear.

hi there mariaperalta, honestly speaking it is difficult to handle an online relationship, hence, what more, if it is more than friendship. in life, there are few things that happen without any specific explanation. hence, they are just rising abruptly. just like what you have had experienced.

I've had a similar experience. I was getting along just fine with a female with large assets who said she was 18 and all the time she was 50 odd.....grrrr

Look, if he lied once, how can you be sure he didn't lie this time?:)Some people are pathological liars and always tell half of the truth or simply lie.Be careful, it's not a good way to start a relationship with fake personalities and data.I had a chat friend who changed his nationality twice and his age four times,I never knew who he really was because he even used photos of his relatives instead of his.Thank God I didn't give him too much personal information. Just be careful and wise.

That's not a rare story. I've heard other stories similar to your situation before. And I guess it's really common nowadays especially in cyberspace. :)

That's the worst thing about having an affair through online. We even do not know if that person is so true or just a pretentious one. Before we submit all our trust and all self with them we must meet hem first in person and having a communication, eye to eye, heart to heart.