Hope all of you have settled well here

@allknowing (137597)
India
February 10, 2013 9:31pm CST
It took me a while trying to get the hang of this wonderful site. It was not easy though. There was so much I had to read, learn and even face some opposition here and there which sometimes made me think whether this is the place for me to really unwind. I did not give up and finally I can say yes, I do get the relaxation that I need after the hectic activity in my real world. How has it been with you? Did you also have hurdles to overcome? How long did it take you to say that you know it all or are you still groping in the dark?
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
11 Feb 13
It's been a great first year for me here. A lot of learning in the beginning and not too much opposition as I purposely avoid such possibility as much as I can... I'm sure I'll probably still find things to learn more here, but I can safely say that I pretty much get the hang of this site on my own rhythm to suit my own enjoyment.
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• United States
11 Feb 13
I too have a nice rhythm within the site and I can typically enjoy it whenever I'm able.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
11 Feb 13
I just love seeing you in my box... Is it snowing where you are now?
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
Craning one's neck is not a wise thing to do here and you knew it right from the start it looks like!. So you have your own rhythm. Is it in sharps, flats or natural ! @echo - I see you are treading cautiously here. Good going there!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Feb 13
Hi ak! It is a great place for me to unwind and make me feel diverted from the agonies and problems of day to day life. I have learnt a lot here through various discussions and am still learning. I did not face much hurdles as such. I avoid participation in those discussions which could raise conflicts or could go controversial. I also do not believe in starting discussion on complex issues. I more or less find discussions of my choice to share my thoughts, whenever I come here.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
11 Feb 13
You may term the non controversial stuff as tame stuff. It is your perception. I do not believe in entering into controversies in real life also, as long as I could avoid it. My star is 'red' since ages and am least bother about it.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
So you go for the tame stuff. Do you do that in your real life too! I started very well here straight off with a 9 star with hardly any input and then later a 10 but I know what affected my rating here. Those things do not bother me any more not after I went through: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2500043.aspx
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
11 Feb 13
hi, Good to see you here.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 13
I am very busy lately, attending my wife who newly delivered my only son. Aside from that I am also managing our family business. I cannot find extra time to stay much longer here in myLot but during my free time I spend it here
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Feb 13
I've been very busy lately but still everyday I open my account to check who responded my own discussions and the notification which post of mine responded by fellow lotters. I am glad, for more than 5 years still I am here interacting with different members from around the globe.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
I too have a pretty hectic life off line but what attracts me here is the common interests that I share with so many users which I do not get to in the real world!
@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
Congratulations on being a father. If a person as busy as you could come here it does speak a lot of this site being a respite for those seeking relaxation from their hectic lifestyle. From your participation it seems you have been here for some time now.
• United States
11 Feb 13
I still do not completely understand how you earn on this site.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Feb 13
sharla dear such a pretty name do read the guidelines anmd the F AAQ 's too as they willguide yuo and help you make posts.thinkqualityh rather than quantity in all your posts do less but much better and ou will earn and do not co ujtn po osts as quality is what we get paid for here. weclocme to mylot and read and reread all the information again if necessary as it tells ou how tol earn here.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
If you worry about earning that will make you tense and you will not enjoy. Let your main aim be to enjoy and while you are doing that you will see you will be able to perform much better and that performance will earn you.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Feb 13
oh my gosh I did not edit that and its horrible with typos sorryh Sharla and allknowing
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@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
To be honest, I signed up here three years ago. I stopped because I was very busy, still busy now but I have few times to spend here. Anyway, surprised that my account still exist and I'm back. I'm still not very familiar with everything here. I don't even know what the star beside my name and avatar means, lol! I'm so stupid, sorry for my ignorance. You are right, this is not an easy to understand-it-all site. This is so unlike other social networking site. Not that user friendly I must say. But I'm sure we'll get the hang of it sooner. I hope so. Have a nice day!
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Feb 13
The star that you see is your user reputation. The user (activity) rating is is the number in brackets alongside our username. Both are explained here: http://www.mylot.com/o/faq/faq11.aspx
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
12 Feb 13
Hover over your star and you will see 93/100. When it reaches 95/100 it should then eventually turn blue which is the highest. It all depends on how others rate your activity.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Oh thanks, I did not everything in that FAQ board, sorry, it's too long I was too lazy to read. Does the nine mean we have good reputation then?
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
Rewards come to those who do not give up. And the hardships we faced in the beginning is one of the things that makes staying on here feel worth it. I remember my first days too, i was so upset about the earnings as it was going so slow at first, until I've read this discussion made by mysdianait entitled the secret of earning in mylot. It said not to look at earnings and true enough, it worked. The time i spent looking at earnings became more priductive and i am having more fun than ever.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Feb 13
hi is that you in your avatar you are very pretty. Yes I also read some of Dianas discussions and learned to quit counting posts and just slow down do quality posts and above all have fun and you seem to h ave been having fun now. good going.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
Now that I have settled well here - for me earnings have never been the objective - I thoroughly enjoy this place and in fact I think I am addicted to it. My cupboard is in a mess and it needs to be worked on and that job is pending since long thanks to my spending time here! One should just concentrate on having fun here and earnings will automatically pile up. Good to know you have learnt the ropes too!
• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
@Hatley Yes it is me hatley. Thank you. although it is a glitch as i have uploaded that picture from last month but deleted it after two days because i realized that there are so many people on here that are from my country and i felt as if some of my responses on mylot are very different from how people see me over here in real life. I am more honest in mylot and could not afford others to recognize me. But then i guess you could still see my picture. I wonder what i can do about it? @allknowing i have the same experience too because mylot is the first thing i do in the morning now. By the moment i wake up, i check my email and see if someone commented to me responses. I have to go to the clinic everyday at 9 am and sometimes i get so focused on responding it is so hard for me to put down my device and get ready for work. There was this time where in it was almost 9 but i hadn't even taken my bath yet. Now i limit my early morning mylotting and set an alarm for me to actually put down the device and get ready for work. It is so addictive i think i even mylotted in one of my dreams. I meant, i dreamt about responding to a discussion.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Feb 13
I don't grope in the dark at my age I don't know it all either and I still have a user who calls me m'am and points out errors that I make when explaining about how things work here. Thank goodness they are watching all the time! When I rejoined second time around after getting booted the first time I made certain that I would do my best to get it right as this is the best place online to settle and make a home. I love it here and I am nowhere else (except Fb reading the news, band updates and listening to music). I have so many friends here now that I would be lost if myLot was to disappear or if I was without a connection
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• United States
12 Feb 13
What!?? I can't believe it At least you did learned your lesson. Most people who get banned from a site, come back, cause more trouble, and then can't figure out what they did wrong. You're the first person I heard of to understand their mistake and correct it.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
Some have a one track mind I see! There is no reason why you should not be groping in the dark your age notwithstanding! When one starts here it is not known how deep one's commitment to this site would be and once there I have hardly known anyone getting away unless they have totally misunderstood the site coming here with the idea of looking for their 'El Dorado'!!
• United States
11 Feb 13
mysD was booted?! No way, you must be another mysD who is an imposter?
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Feb 13
hi allknowing Ihave finally settled in pretty well and only rarely do I put my foot in my mouth as I did with you.I had to apologize and did I feel stupid. but I love mylot and all you my dear mylot friends so much as its made my stay here in this retirement center really good as I have something worthwhile to do and I can help others too.i c an relax here now and feel unstressed.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
I have long forgotten that Hatleyh () I will always address you thus! Orientation does take its course and we all go through it. Newbies need to go slow here and not show they know more than the veterans!
• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
I think everyone in the retirement center should mylot. Old people are full of experiences and I'd really like to learn from them. I think it will help them as well as i dont think you do a lot of things in a retirement center. I know old people like talking about their experiences and it sure will be useful especially to a lot of younger people who still have a long way to go.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
12 Feb 13
I've gotten more interested in the site at least. When I first got here it seemed like everything was about such childish topics as "What is your favorite color?", so I didn't stick around much and didn't log in for quite awhile. I've been a member 5 years and only cashed out twice because of that. I come back and things seem to have really improved.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
I joined here in October 2010 and must say I have been paid several times. I have had the opportunity to work on tasks that paid well. myLot is strict in that poll type topics are not encouraged here. All guidelines violations just disappear and more get deleted if they are reported. There is no other site that is packed with goodness as much as myLot!
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
11 Feb 13
Hi, Allknowing, and cheers! I didn't have any hurdles here, everything was smooth. The only problem for me is my free time. Today I can enough time to stay here but it's not the case lately. Anyway, I think it's worth it to be part of this community. Have a nice time!
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
Good to hear this. I cannot say I know this site inside out. It is far easier to navigate if one truly takes time to know its ins and outs and I am glad you have done that
@Austee (131)
11 Feb 13
I am settled here. I do not think much in earning here. I feel relaxed reading life experiences and responding to it.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
Many of us feel the same way. This site provides an opportunity to interact with users at a global level exchanging and sharing information and while gaining knowledge we also get paid for that. This online activity does provide us the relaxation we need to stay away from our hectic real world occasionally..
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Feb 13
I definitely don't know it all, I learn something new about the site all the time but I am not new either. I know the site pretty well, but every now and then I still need some help with something here. Lol. But after being here for 2 years, this is definitely the best place I have found online! I have made so many wonderful friends here and learned so much too. =) I am so glad I came here and decided to stay around.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
I have yet to meet a user here can say that they know everything about this site. That is quite an intriguing revelation! I do know there is ambiguity in certain areas and that is where Admin takes a decision specially with regard to a post being a guidelines violation or not. In other words we all are still groping in the dark!
• United States
12 Feb 13
I'm still pretty new at this so like you I'm still in the dark. I'm getting pennies, and I don't know when they pay you. Do you know how much you have to make in order for them to pay you? I've been on this site for about two weeks and so far have made 71cents. I know they send money to pay pal but I never got asked for my pay pal E-mail number. Do you know anything about this? I write about two or three discussions a day. How much do you usually write in one day? If I knew I waas getting a lot more money, I would spend more time on this site.
• United States
12 Feb 13
Hi, Happielady. We are paid the 15th of each month, as long as we reach our min payout ($10.00) by the end of the month. If not you'll have to wait til the following month. To add your pay pal email go to preferences payment information. # 1. This is not a question and answer site where you just pick the best answer and move on. This is a discussion site, Respond back to as many people as your able because this will make it more likely that people join your topics By the way , its not about how many posts you have, but the quality of said posts.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
cupkitties has already answered your doubts. The only thing I could add is that you should forget about earning but just participate and have fun and when you do this you will see your earnings grow. If you are bothered about earning then you will not enjoy the participation.
11 Feb 13
Yeah this is the good place we can earn some decent money and making friends from all over the world. The students who does not have money can pay their internet bills with this mylot earnings like me. The mylot is not only a community but it has also other features. Iam enjoying a lot with this mylot by making discussions and participating in discussions.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
You have a long way to go myath.... You need to read through guidelines and faqs so that you can do justice to your participation. Students too are welcome here. They need to know however how to divide their time between here and their studies. Welcome to myLot!
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
11 Feb 13
Hi allknowing! I settled pretty well here right from day one because it was absolutely new to me and I had no expectations whatsoever.I met friendly people but initially it was just one or two.Slowly, I started getting real friends; now these friends whom I used to interact with a lot are not here but I am still comfortable in the site with whoever is remaining . No other forum has engaged me this much and not a day passes without my peeping in here.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
That's nice to know kala. You had your right foot forward it looks like from day one. I know many of my friends too are not here but I too am happy with those that are here. I keep getting friends requests which I keep pending and see if there is any activity and then add them.
@Lucky12 (767)
• United States
11 Feb 13
I have been here and I can say I love it. I came here and then stopped for a while and then came back. I am here a lot more now and I am glad that I am. i have been here for a really long time and just now building up and doing more on this site. This is a great site and yeah it took me a minute to learn a few things and I am still learning, but it is fun and exciting to meet new people especially from all over the world.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
You seem to have waded through unscathed unlike some of us who have had some rough weather to face! All is well for me now and so is for so many here. Once we know how to navigate and learn the ropes it is smooth sailing. Hope to see more of you here.
@vandana7 (100545)
• India
11 Feb 13
I think I turned to myLot with a mountain full of problems. I came here as a depressed individual..or nearly one. I had recently learnt something unpleasant about my mother's life, and to top it all, everybody was forcing themselves or their children on me...the very people who had been bad to me, or indifferent to me. So I had reacted, and it did not feel that good at that point of time. But things got sorted out because of the patience of people like you, Kala, Deepu, Dawny, Hatley, Perga, and people like Saphy and Lamby and Sunnycool kept me away from my painful thoughts. Now, things are settled in personal life. I did have differences. But nothing that I had to huff and puff...and get angry about. I am not angry with anybody out here. You all are angels...how can I be angry with you all..:) My saviors..:) And myLot has helped me to turn into a more positive person. I too want others to feel positive about their lives with whatever little help I can offer from this site. I have also shed some of my notions when I came here. When I arrived here, I used to think that divorce hurts the children, so the women should hang on, for the sake of children. Then I read about abuse in marriage, which I had not seen, and I also correlated some of it to what went on in my life. In the past, I had not spared much time to think so much. I realized why it can be wrong to be in such a marriage. Likewise, I realized that not every drunkard's family is ungrateful one. So in a way, I have become a more rational and broad minded person thanks to people here. :) I hope to grow more in wisdom going forward. :)
• United States
11 Feb 13
This is a very heart-warming response Vandana, and wonderfully written. I wish you would have written a whole new discussion like this instead of a response....I'm sure it would have been one of the hot topics of myLot. Very nicely said and done.
@vandana7 (100545)
• India
12 Feb 13
Yes...I mean...those days I was saddled with news and raw with pain...and nobody to turn to for moral support....most people I know here are a whole lot younger, and others are elderly still entrenched in the "family" concept, and of course the relatives who simply wouldnt side me. Really really needed friends...who would stand by me through thick and thin...having isolated myself from my set long ago due to financial problems...I mean I did have very very lean times, and I didnt want my friends to be pitying me. So I started avoiding them...and over the years, we drifted apart. Now, I have friends again in my life. And nice and kind and caring and people with no ulterior motives...and people who are honest and not afraid to tell me the truth..love you guys...a lot.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
12 Feb 13
I remember those days and I do see a sea change in you. See what good company does to people! myLot is a learning and teaching platform and those who come here will not go empty hands. The only fear is that it can become an addiction as it has done to me!
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I appreciate this site because it helps me to figure out my own problems in life. Offline or online there are bullies everywhere, thanks this site, from my one year here there's not a lot of bullies or people that can drag you and in fact they really contribute good information.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
So you are quite comfortable here having grasped the abc of it Good for you. I took a while to learn the ropes. I see you with good topics and also sometimes I respond. Sorting out personal issues incognito is the best way as you can let your hair down with no bars held!
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
11 Feb 13
Hi, i read the guidelines and just started off. ofcourse on one or two issues i did PM some of the seniors and now they are my good friends here. Relaxation is very true here and in addition i also learn/get informed about so many stuffs. Oh, all the mylotters are just great..
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
This is a place to be. One can pick and choose where one is most comfortable and that takes a bit of time and sometimes a wrong move too. All this is part of learning and one matures with experience. I am glad you too find this a place to relax!
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I want to be here as much as possible , but as always am battling with my time , my work , my availability. How to divide 24 hours ,seems very lacking , we don't have all the time in this world to do Mylotting , wish i can and if my hands starts to move her , so hard to stop.
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Feb 13
Most of us are sailing in the same boat. My pc gives me a bit of trouble when I close it and then open again. I now keep it on throughout the day! And to think that some leave this place disgruntled. They do not know what they are missing. The trouble is they do not wait to know the value of this place. They come here with a feeling that one can earn big!